My son's 18th birthday wish list

euronorris

With that attitude, I'd tell him he's not getting anything at all now unless he apologies and learns to accept any gift he gets graciously.

All this 'all my friends have got x, y or z' is rubbish! It means, 1 or 2 people in his year/group of friends has got x, y or z and they're getting a lot of positive attention from the other kids, so he wants that too. Don't give in! I'm sure you won't anyway.

BitterAndTwisted

What other parents/mugs do or not do for their kids is their business. Your business is what you can reasonably afford. Sounds like he doesn't really deserve anything from what you've described. Whatever you do probably won't be enough, so I suggest you give very serious thought to not giving him anything. Then, he'll have a proper reason to pout and sulk.

thorsoak

Tell him "all my friends' sons bought their mothers xy & z for their birthdays, they have jobs, they cook, they do their own laundry, they keep their rooms nice AND they are nice to their parents - how can't you be like this? It's sooo not fair!"

He can wish for a rainbow - but he ain't gonna get one!!

FATBALLZ

Has he got a job? When I got my first job (younger than 18) I quickly realised how much work you have to put in to actually buy all this kind of crap. Made me appreciate the stuff I did get.

misscutiepie1984

My parents have always given me £30 for birthday and christmas and this was if I was lucky. Some years I have received nothing at all except a card I would never dream or asking for all those things.

dirtysexymonkey

victory wrote: »

:eek: had a huge row with the selfish teenage twonk oh I MEAN my son:rotfl::rotfl: he wants for his 18th birthday, a lads holiday to benidorm, some speakers for his room, a new phone (he washed his in the washing machine, swears blind it was my fault) driving lessons and a car with a bow on outside the house, oh and some money:rotfl:

Unbelievable, oh and he wanted a £300 hire the hall party, that got a no, like I said less than dizzy rascal making an appearance and he is not impressed:rotfl:


He is going to be one disappointed child, we cannot afford any of it, even the mobile it seems because we wanted to pay as you go blackberry or iphone and that runs into hundreds, we did not want to be beholden to a 2 year contract at £30 a month, even though all his other friends parents have done that:D

We offered to take him and his gf to the chinese buffet eat as much as you like £6.99 each, very MSE and he loves it there, goes often with his friends, he said yes and then said no, he is going with his friends and could fit me in another night, twonk, I said no I wanted to spend his 18th with him, so he said 'ok I will take the day off college, you can take me for lunch and I will go with my friends for dinner':rotfl::rotfl:

So, no that saves us the meal out and now he demands at least £200, we can ill afford, he has been sat down so many times and told we are not rich, he keeps saying 'so you are poor, are we actually poor, I can't believe we are poor' selfish sod, he knows the score, just not prepared to admit it.

Funny how it i my birthday on saturday and he says he is not even going to get me a card because he has no money and 'deal with it' OH said get in the kitchen then and start making one out of macaroni, card and glue:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:oh how he deserves not to get a thing, he would explode with rage:rotfl:


Keeps telling me everyone else is getting loads, he wants loads so where are all the normal parents that can't afford all this?

you reap what you sow. or did someone else raise him to be this way?

j.e.j.

victory wrote: »

Funny how it i my birthday on saturday and he says he is not even going to get me a card because he has no money and 'deal with it' OH said get in the kitchen then and start making one out of macaroni, card and glue:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:oh how he deserves not to get a thing, he would explode with rage:rotfl:


Keeps telling me everyone else is getting loads, he wants loads so where are all the normal parents that can't afford all this?

That's out of order, he should get his mum a card and pressy!

With regard to his modest wish-list of holiday, party, car and gadgets, etc, perhaps you need to tell him YOU've got no money and 'deal with it' :rotfl:

crazyguy

Me thinks your sons been watching to much of this : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90HhZ-pyC2Y

thegirlintheattic

Present him with a card, cake and invoice for rent, cooking and laundry and congratulate him on becoming an adult.

I think I got a DVD and party for my 18th, most expensive present I got till I met my OH.

SkintGypsy

My five year old wants a party (first one) this year at a play gym. I have told her that she can if we have enough money when the time comes. I explained that sometimes things happen and there might not be enough money for a party. I don't want to concern her in the ins and outs of our finances, but I want her to understand that sometimes circumstances change and these things are not priorities. She totally understands, and she knows she is lucky to get her party. At five it seems she has a better understanding and more conscience than your son.