My son's 18th birthday wish list

balletshoes

victory wrote: »

I wouldn't go as far as to say I am a bad parent, my son has very good qualities and very bad ones and the bad ones are trying to be someone else, richer, flashier, more I want without trying to contribute to it, more showy off our back, we as parents never created that, try being at school and not spending one day without another kid there showing off what he has, taunting what he will get for his birthday, gloating about what his xmas presents are going to be, I am sure my son was not dragged up, he was raised to be polite etc but is needy more than my generation or any other because everyone else has got what he does not have.

all kids will be surrounded by a bit of that - my DD at 10 has a friend who got an iphone4 for her Christmas :eek: and several friends who have blackberrys. Is she getting one? Nope, and although she did mention it when her friends got these phones, she doesn't go on about it, because its a pointless exercise. You're doing the right thing if you're not caving in to it - and I can imagine if you've had years of it its just a tad wearing now.

Oh, and even though he thinks he's the only one who doesn't have everything, you know, I know, and he knows too, thats not true . There are other sensible parents out there.

Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

He knows, he knows he is close to a bashing and he knows that he is being outrageously, unbeliveably, unreliastically silly. It his 18th ideas he has got them well distorted for real life, the usual everyone has them, I want it, no one has less than me, why do we have to be so ppor? All what I said before, he knows he will not get and will have a face on all day but hey when did ever a face like thunder ever get you what you wanted? He knows he will get no list presents:D

If it was me who had a child making the sort of noises your son is making, I would be absolutely furious.
If a child of mine had said the things yours had said to you, I would be so mad I would have given them a massive piece of my mind, I would also not be discussing any ideas of presents. I would be telling him what I thought of him VERY bluntly.

No tippytoeing around, you are being a spoilt brat, I'm surprised at your behaver, you just don't get that much spent on you, fullstop!
TBH I would be absolutely ballistic if one of mine ever spoke to my OH the way yours has spoken to you.
I just would not stand for it, I think you've been too soft on him and allowed him to get away with saying things to his parents, that should never be said. The disrespect there is appalling.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

When I was 18 all I wanted was a meal with family and friends - I had expected everyone to pay for thier own but at the last minute my dad decided to pay for everyone (Wasnt anywhere expensive we went but it did cost just over £100) and it was brilliant. However - I actually dont remember getting anything else (If i did then sorry mum!) all i remember is the meal. Every birthday since (except 21st) I've had £20. For xmas I always ask for something for my house (Last xmas I got a toaster) this xmas, I'm asking for money (New baby due boxing day) so I'd like to go out in Jan sales and buy either some new clothes for me (Minus bump!) or buy xmas presents for kids for 2013 lol

I'd buy your son what you can afford, If he isnt happy then tell him to go do one.

P.S - There's been times i've been skint but i've ALWAYS brought family a card - If i can afford something else i will but no matter what they get a card. He's taking the micky

P.P.S - Saying that, I've spent a ridiculous amount on DD's 4th birthday party next week, however, we're in the situation that we can afford it (And it will be her last "big" party as DD2 is due dec) she isnt getting any other present from us (Plenty coming off family already!) but if she demands something she gets told no.

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Nimeth

victory wrote: »

he had a sony ericcsson w850i

Not sure if you can still buy those or not. I'd just get him a replacement phone of similar value, a cake and card and tell him he's lucky to be getting anything at all given the way he's behaved.

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victory

Nimeth wrote: »

Not sure if you can still buy those or not. I'd just get him a replacement phone of similar value, a cake and card and tell him he's lucky to be getting anything at all given the way he's behaved.

Ebayed, googled and went online to orange and no, they are extint now he has it all dry now but still not working.:D

euronorris

victory wrote: »

In school have you noticed they all want to be different but they all look the same with the same in cool glasses on, the same clothes, the same phones, the same xboxes, the same laptops, the same attitude, my son had 15 of his mates round the other week (we were here also) for a pay per view boxing match and in my living room they all had the brown twist trousers on, with the same loafers on, the same glasses and the same haircuts, they all brought with them the same black nike over the shoulder school bag and got the same amount of money each to put towards their pizza they were going to order, different, they all want to be the same:D

Yes, but to be fair, this was happening when I was at school, so I don't think it's new as such, just more prominant now perhaps due to shows such as My Super Sweet 16 (which sickens me!). And I went to a private school on a scholarship, so had to put up with more than my fair share of kids showing off.

But....I very rarely asked my parents for things they couldn't afford (because I was very aware of exactly what they could and couldn't afford already), and on the rare occasions that I did, they would refuse and remind me that money was not so readily available in our family and I accepted that.

If I had acted the way your son did, EVERY privilege I had would have been removed instantly.

How have you dealt with the situation since? Has he apologised for his behaviour?