My son's 18th birthday wish list

mountainofdebt

Well I'm quite ashamed to say this now but when I was 18 (many many moons ago I hasten to add) I created becuase my friend who turned 18 about 2 months before me was given a brand new car for her 18th and yeap.you've guessed it I wanted one as well.

But as they say, when you're older you can see what a pain in the bum you were when you were younger. Not a comfort to the OP I know.

When Junior was 18 we went to see a comedian preceeded by a meal at Wetherspoons. We didn't get him a present as such but promised to pay for a holiday which has yet to be claimed on but I'm sure it will be!

poet123

victory wrote: »

My mum kept asking me to clean my room, on and on it went, came home one day and all that was left in my room was my bed, that smartened me up to take care of my room and my things:D

My husband's dad got fed up of hearing his mum nag about the state of his room so he nailed all his clothes to the wall with a 6" nail. He got tidier.:rotfl:

victory

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Sammy85_2

victory wrote: »

I would give him more because I love him and want him to be one of the in crowd and not feel he has to be out of it because he has not got the latest gadget, he in no way deserves more with the attitude he has got he deserves nothing and will get what he is given and be lucky he is getting anything at all.


Exactly, he has such a blinkered, selfish, narrow minded vision, everyone else hasgot a blackberry I have to have one, I have no money to get one so you get me one attitude that is way beyond rude and ignorant but he wants to fit in, he is the only one without a mobile( I will give him that one, he washed his so he has no mobile) everyone has a blackberry, it is my birthday so get me one, I want one.

I mean I would give him more if we won the lottery as previously said, set him up for his first flat, pay for his driving lessons to set him up on his life road, I would give him more and my other son, my mum paid for my lesson and for that I am eternally grateful as the independence and freedom it gives go beyond the cost.

As for laptops and ipods gadgets and gizmos absolutely not

If he really wants to be in the "in crowd" then he will go out and earn the money necessary to buy those things. You shouldnt feel the need to buy him things so he can fit in and should remember that your love for him isnt measured by what you buy him.

My parents paid for the essentials and i earned pocket money doing lots of jobs about the house and got a part time job at the local chippy when i was 15 in order to buy things that i felt i "needed", like designer stuff and gadgets. It taught me the value of budgeting and how to save up for the things i really wanted.

There was a millionaire on TV, cant remember what the show was, but he told his kids that they only way they would get their 21st birthday presents (a large sum of money) was if they went and got themselves careers. One daughter became a nurse. I thought that was wonderful, that even though the father could set his children up for life and give them everything they could ever materially need, he tought them a more valuable lesson, something money just cant buy.

victory

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Kay_Peel

I'm still reeling from the thought of a son telling his mother that he was not going to get her a birthday card and to 'deal with it'.

I had a very demanding and materialistic nephew/godson who compiled a similar list for the family.

I ignored it, of course and got him a :eek: pen and pencil set for university. I bet he hated it but I couldn't have cared less. The set was top quality and reasonably priced in the sales and he was a grasping little beggar, unlike his brother and his parents.

I also told him that, now that he was a grown man, there would be no more birthday and christmas presents or cards: he'd have to wait until his 21st.

You reap what you sow.




He's 22 now and has matured into a really likeable and hardworking lad - and I've grown to love him to bits.

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Caroline_a

victory wrote: »

He told us too late he wanted to go and see Jimmy Carr, all sold out so we won't be able to go, that would have been affordable and fun but he also wants all the latest gadgets and we were also going to have a party here in the house but that was stopped because of the amount of people coming and secondly now the kds put on facebook the parties and who is coming replies on facebook, no way do I want my party on facebook and see how many turn up and how the house can get wrecked, we told his gf and him together that the party at home was a no no, they took it fine and said they would go to the chinese instead.

They are putting it on facebook and so far 70 have said yes.

Has he booked this Chinese restaurant, and do they know that potentially 70 people are coming? That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen... Sensible kids do not put an open invitation to something like that, they invite friends individually.

If there is trouble or damage he may be asked to pay for it!

happycow

every birthday my family & friends give cash to my daughter, then we go shopping and she can buy anything she pleases.....within her budget. She is (slowly) beginning to appreciate the cost of things. (shes 15 and it HAS taken all of these 15 years ) works for us both
both myself and hubby work full time so we are in a better financial situation than some of her friends, though she does have some very spoilt friends who feel money is no object... I was so pleased to hear her tell one of these "rich kids" recently that they were being a spoilt brat lol!