My son's 18th birthday wish list

jenhug

my husband got a fiver, no matter which birthday it was, although when he was nineteen his mum gave him a tenner to buy himself an ironing board so he could hurry up and move out! (on his 16th she phoned council and put him on housing list!!)

Melonade

OMG my 12 y/o is a flippin pain in the backside with things like this too :mad: He comes home from school wanting one thing or another and how "such and such's" parents have bought this and that!!! I'm like a broken record saying "Do I look like such and such's Mum, well do I, do I"? or "I don't give a carp if "such and such" has gold Adidas, you won't be having them"

He started his saturday job a couple of months ago in his Dad's body shop and gets £5 wages for the morning. He could double his money by doing the jobs I ask round the house (simple stuff like run the hoover round his room once a week and take the bins out) but he won't!! Although he's saving for a new phone so I think it's soon about to change lol.

5 and a half years till he's 18, I might start saving now for a holiday for him... by that time I'll be glad of the break and a bit of piece and quiet :rotfl:

Guinea_2

For my 18th I wanted a bass guitar but received a beautiful silver Rotary watch from my parents. My brother & sister both got lovely watches for their 18th's as well. I don't wear watches but it will always be something to remember my parents by. I would still like the bass guitar though lol

Bloomin_Freezing2

Sounds to me like he needs to get a job, I started work at 16 and had 2 girls holidays the following 2 years, paid for by myself. When I didn't earn enough to cover the things I needed I got a 2nd job in a pub, then a 3rd job cleaning and ironing for one of the pub customers.

He needs to wake up to the world.

victory

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make_me_wise

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I would give him more because I love him and want him to be one of the in crowd and not feel he has to be out of it because he has not got the latest gadget, he in no way deserves more with the attitude he has got he deserves nothing and will get what he is given and be lucky he is getting anything at all.

Exactly, he has such a blinkered, selfish, narrow minded vision, everyone else hasgot a blackberry I have to have one, I have no money to get one so you get me one attitude that is way beyond rude and ignorant but he wants to fit in, he is the only one without a mobile( I will give him that one, he washed his so he has no mobile) everyone has a blackberry, it is my birthday so get me one, I want one.

I mean I would give him more if we won the lottery as previously said, set him up for his first flat, pay for his driving lessons to set him up on his life road, I would give him more and my other son, my mum paid for my lesson and for that I am eternally grateful as the independence and freedom it gives go beyond the cost.

As for laptops and ipods gadgets and gizmos absolutely not

You want to tell him, as bluntly as possible, that the in crowd he would be best getting involved with is the one where at 18 they get off their !!!!, go out to work and save up to buy stuff for themselves. Or that other crowd who go to university, get a degree and then get out into the big wide world and land themselves a well paid job off their own merits (not easy at the moment granted, but then nothing worthwhile in life is).

I doubt either of those crowds appeal though hey OP, because to be in either requires some nounce and effort. Is he remotely aware that the crowd he is with and wants to impress are a good few years behind their peers because they still rely on their parents for everything. Doesn't sound like a cool group to be in to me.

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Lirin

My 11-yr-old DSD asked for Sky Multiroom last year. Sat her down, worked out how much it would cost a month against how much pocket money she would get in a month. Agreed pocket money wouldn't cover it. She asked for us to up her pocket money. Nope- that's the limit for your age. Asked if we would pay for Multiroom, and didn't we want her to have it? She was bluntly told then that I don't mind her having multiroom- as long as she can pay for it. Since she has no job, and no way of making money, she's fairly scuppered for now.
Her mum buys her things we can't afford, and I've explained to her that we simply don't have the money to get everything she wishes for. She can accept it or not. Her other family plan in advance and suggest presents they'd like- I grew up with the understanding that you don't ask as it's considered rude. You're lucky to get anything so enjoy it.
She has asked for things before- and the older she gets, the more expensive the list is. If we think she will benefit from it, we will consider getting it. If it's unneccessary, too expensive, etc, the answer is no, and if she wants it, she will have to earn the money herself. While she's only 11, she will still have problems grasping that we can't give it just because she wants it- 'But everyone else has it.' (Reply- 'If everyone else jumped off a cliff, would you?').

She's turning out mature enough, and is consciencious, but yeah, there is a standard set by the TV and her friends, and even if I could buy her everything, I probably still wouldn't. She needs to learn that pride in her own achievements and earnings are important.

Victory- she's also been told she can start looking for a Saturday job when she's 14-15- cleaning dishes, anything! Your son sounds like he's trying to fit in and can't grasp- you will have fun when he's earning and realising how far it stretches..... or not....

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