How to believe it's really over?

make_me_wise

yvonne13 wrote: »

It's the 30 days notice I don't understand. Why 30 day's!!!

Maybe she has just got out into the working world and thinks a months notice applies to everything! If any of my boyfriends had dared treat me the way this little madam sees fit to treat a decent bloke, they would have got jack !!!! notice. The only thing they would have got by text is dumped.

The OP seems to have come to his senses. Lets hope he has packed a bag, grabbed his passport and headed off on holiday for a week to forget about the daft mare. Nothing like a few days in the sun to help you move on.

sashadesade

milkybar wrote: »

And another update, another text asking to see me at the end of the month. We had two days planned together that last night she said would never happen and now she wants to see me then. I actually don't get her at all!

I do. She's worried because you aren't crawling after her begging for forgiveness like you usually do. Now your blinkers are slipping I hope you can see her for what she really is. She's toying with you. It's a game.

Seriously, SIX times in EIGHT months. Is this really what you want? Is it really worth the heartache?

lovebooks_2

Move on, you're better than that. Please tell yourself that.

milkybar

Things have changed slightly in that I have said I wanted space in order to work out what I want. Which means three weeks of no contact at all to me.

We've had a long talk on the phone and just talked about anything but that, we've both promised that the space is in order to make us work, not break us up and I have said any further instances of arguing with herself like last night will result in a permanent break up. She's taken this on board and will stop, she can tell from my voice how serious I am. We won't see each other at the end of the month, we've agreed that and we're basically having time out. Things will change, I'm confident of that. And we're together, I did get an apology for last night and a promise that she's not being nice now to stop hurting me and she does want to be with me.

That is all, thank you everyone for your help and responses

Emmzi

30 days is the recommended no contact period in "It's Called a Break Up because it's Brroken."

I book I suggest the OP read.

kezzygirl

milkybar wrote: »

Things have changed slightly in that I have said I wanted space in order to work out what I want. Which means three weeks of no contact at all to me.

We've had a long talk on the phone and just talked about anything but that, we've both promised that the space is in order to make us work, not break us up and I have said any further instances of arguing with herself like last night will result in a permanent break up. She's taken this on board and will stop, she can tell from my voice how serious I am. We won't see each other at the end of the month, we've agreed that and we're basically having time out. Things will change, I'm confident of that. And we're together, I did get an apology for last night and a promise that she's not being nice now to stop hurting me and she does want to be with me.





That is all, thank you everyone for your help and responses

I doubt she will stop,this is sixth time lucky for her.
How old are you both?I think a previous poster asked but u didnt answer.
It sounds very much like a teenage relationship-'Il hurt you,you can hurt me' etc and tbh I think its pathetic.Get a grip,leave her and live your life!

RichGold

milkybar wrote: »

Things have changed slightly in that I have said I wanted space in order to work out what I want. Which means three weeks of no contact at all to me.

This is barking mad. Now you want space and no contact for 3 weeks???? Just move on for f**ks sake.
I really have no advice, I just felt the need to say it sounds like you both want your heads banging together.

flutterby_lil

You said you weren't going to text, but did.

You said you weren't going to speak but did.

You said you aren't going to meet up but see the pattern, you will.

It will never work, the same thing will happen again in 6 - 8 weeks.

Call it a day and get a backbone.

Harsh but true, sorry.

Caroline73_2

Did you two meet when you were on holiday with your respective parents? Don't worry, you'll be back at school soon and be able to concentrate on your studies.

Legwarmers

Oh My Good God !!!!!!!!!

Is this for real ???

This post brings back so many memories of one frequent poster from way back. This poster was under the impression that he was always morally and intellectually correct. Blamed every female that he was in a relationship with that they were 'unstable'. Was also the one begging to be taken back and then all of a sudden he held the cards.

I am thinking this is one in the same and history is now repeating itself once again.

I apologise if I am wrong, but way too many similarities.

L x