Trying for a Baby Part 7

Secretdebts

Hugs to kittenpie too! I can pull a face for you as well if it'll help?

Secretdebts

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

You work alot, it took me ages last week to list things on ebay and I only sold 3 items (think it was my fault with the auctions finishing at 3am didn't help)

Lol. At least once the original listing has been done it's easier to relist them all again - this us what I do & then try to list 3 or 4 new items a night. I must admit it's a lot quicker (if less professional) to list direct on the iPhone app as it used to take me forever to transfer photos to laptop then find them again for eBay!!

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Big ((Hugs)) BZ, you still have a long way to go before considering other options.

Thanks I know I know I've not been trying as long as some of the ladies on here too, and I don't mean to belittle their/your feelings either, but as you guys all know, sometimes it's more upsetting than others

With regards to mil are you able to get involved to get her more help, it would take the stress off.

Nope - it has to come from her. I've tried wading in before, but she's a stubborn old mare! I think she'd rather pay for a private carer than deal with social workers tbh with you, which if that's what she wants to do is fine with me, but I wish she'd just get more. I think she's hoping against hope that she'll struggle less when she's home longer and regains more confidence because she'll be doing it for herself more - but that only works if she doesn't struggle detrimentally....

secretdebts, I agree with BZ, I think you have answered your own question. Personally I wouldn't be able to stop and if it did happen it was meant to be. (remember that you wouldn't have to tell them until you are 24 weeks)

Agreed once more
Having put it off til we were more financially stable, I regret it somewhat. It wouldn't've been incredibly irresponsible to have TTC/gotten pg before we started TTC, but it would've been more stressful for me, I think, which is why we didn't more than the literal finances iyswim. I now regret that time that we could've been TTC, cos it sort of feels like we'd be a year further on in the TTC journey now, if we'd started back then. I know that everything happens in it's own time, and all of that, but there's always that bit of me that wonders

Then again, my philosophy on kids now (since TTC and struggling and being dx with PCOS) is that if you(I) want them and it's not completely disasterous health etc wise, then NTNP is the way to go - at least for me now... you'll always find a way to manage and there aren't many parents who say they regret their kids, iyswim. Personally, I can't see us using contraception again, unless circumstances drastically change, especially now DH has told The Big Man Upstairs that "we'll love as many as He gives us" :')

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

I had a weep earlier in snappy snaps, I went to get the pictures put in my locket and the one I got for OH. While waiting there were loads of canvas prints with sayings such as 'my first picture' etc and I had a bit of a weep and made all the staff uncomfortable (at least they knew why due to the pictures they were developing)

Secretdebts wrote: »

:wave: & huge hugs zippy. I don't think I can say anything that'll make you feel any better.

If I pull a cat-bum face will it make you smile??

Glad dad is feeling better - has mil got a social worker/ carer/community nurse you can talk to to get her some more help in & increase it gradually so she doesn't notice?

Lol - the mere thought of the cat-bum face made me smile

MIL won't talk to a social worker (always helpful) but does have a district nurse again (as of today) who is also going to get a community matron to come and see what she can do, and she has some ridiculously named team coming to check on her twice a day (which she already resents and it's only been a day!). There's nothing I can arrange that she doesn't have to also agree to, and I've tried talking to them both infront of MIL and behind her back and got my fingers burnt - so I'm afraid this has to come from MIL, or she just won't cooperate with it. :cool:
ETA: on the up side, she still hasn't smoked yet

Kitten_Pie

bigzippy wrote: »

Thanks I know I know I've not been trying as long as some of the ladies on here too, and I don't mean to belittle their/your feelings either, but as you guys all know, sometimes it's more upsetting than others

Then again, my philosophy on kids now (since TTC and struggling and being dx with PCOS) is that if you(I) want them and it's not completely disasterous health etc wise, then NTNP is the way to go - at least for me now... you'll always find a way to manage and there aren't many parents who say they regret their kids, iyswim. Personally, I can't see us using contraception again, unless circumstances drastically change, especially now DH has told The Big Man Upstairs that "we'll love as many as He gives us" :')

You aren't belittling feelings, this time last year before everything happened I remember crying on OH shoulder saying that it would never happen and maybe we should forget about trying and just go straight for the adoption/foster route.

That's what this thread is for and you shouldn't feel alone or guilty in how you feel.

With regards to contraception, I can't see us ever using it again, I am happy to go through the pregnancy and birth as many times as nature lets us.

Kitten_Pie

yay to the no smoking and the cat-bum face from secret debts.

bigzippy

I can't remember now, what did the specialists say with regards to the likelihood of natural conception for you guys now, kitten? If I remember right, they didn't fancy your chances to begin with, did they?

How are you doing re the smoking now, btw, Secrets?

Kitten_Pie

If we haven't conceived within 3 months they are going to fast track us to specialists. He was worried by the lack of AF and said if it hasn't arrived on Monday he wants me to go to the GP for tests. I am currently on CD52 but may (big emphasis on the may as it was a very faint line) have ov'd on CD44 so if AF hasn't arrived not sure if it would be best to wait until the end of the week.

Were you a smoker Secret?

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

If we haven't conceived within 3 months they are going to fast track us to specialists. He was worried by the lack of AF and said if it hasn't arrived on Monday he wants me to go to the GP for tests. I am currently on CD52 but may (big emphasis on the may as it was a very faint line) have ov'd on CD44 so if AF hasn't arrived not sure if it would be best to wait until the end of the week.

Were you a smoker Secret?

So in theory you could be on 8dpo... hmm I think I would still go on monday, but tell them about the faint OPK?

IIRC, Secrets gave up about a month or two ago...? (and was climbing the walls )

Kitten_Pie

Hope its going well Secrets, I gave up earlier this year, just before falling pg, have had one since the birth but figured it was allowed.