Trying for a Baby Part 7

Primmer

i_love_holidays wrote: »

Hugs Primmer - i totally understand where you are coming my 2 years will be may which may sound ages away but in this game it isnt!! forgive me for asking and you dont have to answer...have you had all the tests? and have they come back ok or is this why you are going?

Huigs anyway - if you ever need to PM me your more then welcome and that goes for any of you ladies

Thanks hun, no I haven't had any tests yet as DH reluctant and remains convinced it will happen as he has a dd from previous marriage but I keep telling him that doesn't mean we will. So think I will go to doctors on my own and see what they say and then speak to DH again.

Metranil_Vavin

Hey Primmer. I think going to see the Dr on your own would be a good thing as it would feel like a positive step forwards.

Men are funny when it comes to seeking medical help. My OH needs a rocket up his bum to ever go to see the Dr!

i_love_holidays_2

Primmer wrote: »

Thanks hun, no I haven't had any tests yet as DH reluctant and remains convinced it will happen as he has a dd from previous marriage but I keep telling him that doesn't mean we will. So think I will go to doctors on my own and see what they say and then speak to DH again.

Mine was too but it was frustrating me even more so i set the ball rolling a year in. honestly it will ease your mind

my PMA is really low today......feel really emotional and angry at myself ( i know its not helping) my SIL text me this morning and it woke me up at 3.55am (she lives in another country) anyways took my temp then and it said 36.15 then tried sleeping again and when i woke it was 36.51 which one do i go with? then if that wasnt bad enough had a lie in for approx 20 mins went to toilet to do CBFM and was messing about tying my hair back thinking of getting in the shower etc that i just sat on the toilet and as soon as i finished i thought OMFG!!! :mad: anyway did a trikle an hour later and it says high but was expecting a peak :mad:

so to top my day off OH has been to urologist today and they have basically said i dont know why you are here. Nothing wrong with your spe rm figure mobility morphology etc and now hes a happy bunny.... i know i should be too but i just feel that its me at fault again even tho my test came back 'fine'!!!!

then OH is telling me that its luck (well we arent very lucky in much ie lottery etc you know general stuff that some people are) and that let nature take its course so i said well yeah we have done that and nothings happened you have too do it at the right time to try and catch and he sounded gobsmacked!! i said you cant have s e x at the beginning of the month and expect to catch and he said why not :mad: really frustrates me at him being so thick so i think a s e x education is on the cards tonight :rotfl:

i_love_holidays_2

oh one more thing - do you have to have VIP membership on FF to see other 'friends' charts?
i do link the link that QQ puts up but i was wondering this the other day

ikkle87

i_love_holidays wrote: »

oh one more thing - do you have to have VIP membership on FF to see other 'friends' charts?
i do link the link that QQ puts up but i was wondering this the other day

nope should still be able to see them chick, i can see my friends charts although i only have 3 lol.

really tempted to buy the VIP while its on offer though.

i have ewcm and ff says im at my most fertile, had a temp rise this morning though ?

Nicki

Coming to the conversation late, but two bits about SMEP haven't been mentioned or have been misunderstood.

You need to BD once at least between CD1 and CD10 so that you are starting the plan with fersh sperm. Anything more than a week old will have lower motility and worse morphology so needs to be got rid of.

You only BD every other day until you get the positive OPK. Definitely not every day, and only once in the day, and no DIY for OH either. The idea is that you build the sperm supply up to its strongest point before you really go for it. For men with a less than optimum sperm count, sex every day makes things worse not better.

That being said, we've done it each month since the miscarriage and I'm still here

Primmer

Thanks MV and Iloveholidays - I think if I go to doctors before Xmas then it will be a positive step and feel like I am doing something and hoping as been trying for so long and due to our ages they will take it seriously.

Iloveholidays - I know what you mean about oh not understanding. We do bed when cbfm says high and peak but Dh still thinks bd a week or more after ov will help!

Student_Mrs

Well still no +ve OPK for me, we have BD'd on day 9, 11 and today 13... I know I'm only the 2nd month off the pill so looks like I won't be having a regular cylce like last months... at least I had my AF 13 days ago so know I can ovulate right? just found a clearance section on kiddi-care so looks like that will be my port of call if we ever do catch.

still enjoying my day off due to the strike so slowly waning PMA here, will feel better if i get a +ve opk soon good evenings to all, hope you are all well. i know nothing about temps ikkle but sounds good to me!

Sa-ra-ra-ra

Nicki wrote: »

You only BD every other day until you get the positive OPK. Definitely not every day, and only once in the day, and no DIY for OH either. The idea is that you build the sperm supply up to its strongest point before you really go for it. For men with a less than optimum sperm count, sex every day makes things worse not better.

Haha, oh well, that's not going to happen. Although hopefully we'll be ok - for various reasons we have no reason to believe that DH has any problems with his swimmers.

Thanks for clarifying though Nicki.

Kitten_Pie

Sa-ra-ra-ra wrote: »

I think Nikki and Kitten_Pie are quite close to me...

I am SE London is that near?