Trying for a Baby Part 7

Whattodonow

Hugs mrshappy. Sucks doesnt it.

Sorry you're feeling confused morocha. No one knows what's best for you other than you but it's good to air on here! I hope it's just a blip and things look better today x

Wow I didn't realise so many of us already had kids!

Whattodonow

It's quite lonely ttc isn't it? You can't really tell people in real life because it's too personal. I'm just thinking about how popular this thread is and how good it is that it's here.

mrshappy

Hugs morocha, I hope things are looking better for you this morning, it's not easy when your husband tells you he wants different things, my ex husband wanted to go out drinking and gambling every night and [EMAIL="sh@g"]sh@g[/EMAIL] the next door neighbour-not my idea of a happy marriage :rotfl:

my AF room this month is a dark and lonely place! Todays shopping list includes soy-any advice on how much/when to take etc would be appreciated-thermometer, grapefruit juice and cough medicine. I will do this! I have already checked when next AF is due-the day before mrhappys birthday-so I'll be pulling out all the stops for a BFP for that! Onwards and upwards

bz-don't worry about having a wee moan-we all do and it's good to get it out

Hope everyone is good, hugs and sbd to everyone

emsbet

((hugs)) Morocha. I hope you get things sorted with hubby soon.

((hugs)) also to vesper and Mrshappy

bigzippy wrote: »

P.s. Sorry about moaning about the fertility appt etc I know there are ladies on here who've been trying longer than me:o

You're not moaning you're just nervous and apprehensive which is understandable. It's a big step, but a big step in the right direction. Besides even if you were moaning, so what?! That's what this thread is for, somewhere to let off steam and get things off your chest that you can't really talk about to anyone/many people in RL. Crikey if you weren't allowed to moan on here I'd have been thrown off the thread ages ago! :rotfl:

Whattodonow wrote: »

It's quite lonely ttc isn't it? You can't really tell people in real life because it's too personal. I'm just thinking about how popular this thread is and how good it is that it's here.

It can be can't it? After our two mc's everyone in our life knows that we are TTC which can sometimes make things easier - no one keeps asking us if I'm pg anymore, which we used to get a lot before the first mc - but it can sometimes make things a little harder. People try to empathise with what you are going through but unless they've been there themselves they can't and it makes them prone to saying things that are quite insensitive even when they don't mean it to.:o

I think it's great that we have ladies on here who are mummy's already as they can offer advice and for me anyway they remind me, when I'm feeling like making a baby that's strong enough to stay is an impossible task, that it can be done.

xx

emsbet

I've realised what may have been contributing to my low mood the past couple of days - I've woken up this morning with another cold and sore throat. I think if I was in the 2ww I'd be convincing myself I was pg about now

I had a lovely weekend back in our hometown. I went for lunch with my friend and her one year old daughter who is so cute. I had a really nice time and didn't feel sad at all. We also had a nice (well as nice as these things can be) chat about my mc.
I also had another massage as my sister decided she wanted to treat me so I wasn't going to argue! Her friend runs her own beauty business so we went there for some relaxation.
We went out in the evening on Saturday with all our friends because I decided we needed a proper night out and I wanted a dance. The evening was fine but it highlighted how much my life had changed recently and that made me sad and put me in a bit of a funk for the following two days.
Also one of my good friends was a bit insensitive with me. He has always been someone I could talk to about anything. We used to go out for tea just the two of us and we would chat about everything going on in our lives but he was just been kind of laughy and jokey and I got annoyed with him and ended up being a bit rude to him

I have a day at home today so I'm going to watch a bit of Jeza and then dose myself up on lemsip and get some house work done.

xx

morocha

Thank you very much everyone, he apologized this morning, but i still feel sad.
I don't know what i am going to do, and typical this is the most important week in the month, i know i shouldnt think about a baby right when things are not good, but ican't help it, i really want one more for my family to be complete, i never wanted my dd to be the only daughter, she is 4,and already the gap seems big to me. I am so confused.
He was saying to me that he wants this month not to use any form of protection,i told him that if we do that then i will get pregnant at some point, then as i went on about pregnancy, he got all confused, and said those things. He is 31 , surely at this time he should know what he wants ? Problem is is always come back to square 1 with him, i dont know anymore, maybe because of this depression ? i dont know but it is affecting me a lot.

emsbet

mrshappy wrote: »

Todays shopping list includes soy-any advice on how much/when to take etc would be appreciated

I found this old post of QQ's that tells you recommended dosage:

QQuaver wrote: »

you take 100mg of soy isoflavones/day for 5 days beginning on CD3. The dosage and the days can differ a little, but this is considered to be most successful dosage/days.

xx

Birdie85

bigzippy wrote: »

I bluntly told my DH that he was doing my head in moping every AF when he wasn't necessarily... "cooperating"... at the right times; explained that there's only like a 30% chance even if you do everything "right", so when we don't DTD at the right times/frequently enough our chances are less than that. He's upped the ante since

Maybe you just need to be honest/blunt?

Thanks for the advice, I'll try that approach! Think he was feeling guilty about Sunday night as we DTD last night, even though I was a bit tipsy after a work function QQ's comment about needing to DTD every other day to ensure a fresh 'batch' has been playing on my mind too, I just keep thinking, 'Argh, they're dying in there, let them out!'

Was anyone watching BBC Breakfast this morning? They were doing a story about letting Dads stay in hospital with their partners when they give birth and they had a family on with the cutest little baby boy ever, I really want one!

Sorry things are a bit up in the air Morocha, I can't really offer much advice but I hope you can work it out, take care of yourself *hugs*

emsbet

morocha wrote: »

Thank you very much everyone, he apologized this morning, but i still feel sad.
I don't know what i am going to do, and typical this is the most important week in the month, i know i shouldnt think about a baby right when things are not good, but ican't help it, i really want one more for my family to be complete, i never wanted my dd to be the only daughter, she is 4,and already the gap seems big to me. I am so confused.
He was saying to me that he wants this month not to use any form of protection,i told him that if we do that then i will get pregnant at some point, then as i went on about pregnancy, he got all confused, and said those things. He is 31 , surely at this time he should know what he wants ? Problem is is always come back to square 1 with him, i dont know anymore, maybe because of this depression ? i dont know but it is affecting me a lot.

It sounds to me like he might just be scared. If he has said he doesn't want to use contraception then that says to me he does want a baby but maybe he didn't realised how quickly it could happen until you said to him?

I think the best thing you can do is keep talking to each other and make sure you're both on the same page.

xx

Primmer

Morocha - sending hugs to you, it sounds like he is confused and sending mixed messages which in turn is confusing you. Really hope you can sort it out.

BZ - no need to apologise this thread is for ranting and letting off steam. Hope you slept better last night.

Well cd11 and another High on cbfm, never had more than 2 highs before a peak and this will be my 3rd! What is so annoying us DH us going away for weekend, leaving early hours on fri morning and so need to ov ASAP :mad: