Trying for a Baby Part 7

fluffnutter

MrsC2b wrote: »

Hey, I am 27.
Do you mean ovulation? Ive never determined, sometimes in the past I have felt pains on either side of my tummy, which I thought was OV pains.
My periods have always been rather erratic, for a long time I was waiting 3-4 months between each period, but my doc said a lot of that was due to my weight, I was almost 18 stone at 5ft tall

About 3 weeks ago I missed 3 or 4 days of the pill and bled, then a few days ago I had the pains but I thought the pill stops ovulation. OH and I hadnt had sex for about a week or so until the day after bleeding stopped as he was away.
Before the pill and for a couple of months when I started taking it I was having a period rougly every 2 weeks, so if this started happening again does it mean they are not 'real' onnes, I mean a 2 week cycle is not normal is it.
I am very confused about the whole process to be honest, there is so much info out there and trying to keep up with the abbreviations too!

For example, is it advisable to not have sex every day, OH and I generally do, but also not every time is actual sex but he still ejaculates, is tis a good or bad thing?
Also do you think its worth getting some of the conceive plus for trying straight away? I am natrually WELL lubricated as it is, even kissing gets me flowing :rotfl::o

I can't help with your other questions but in answer to the highlighted one - if you've got no fertility issues then having sex every day won't adversely affect your chances of getting pregnant.

There's a school of thought that suggests that, if the man's sperm quality is a bit on the poor side, he should abstain for a few days. However, I read an article in the New Scientist the other day suggesting that, in actual fact, ejaculating every day increased the quality of good sperm, possibly because it spends less time in the vas deferens (which is where the damage is thought to occur).

All that aside, keep banging away every day if you want to (you lucky thing!). The massive advantage is that it won't matter when you ovulate - temping and trying to make sure you have sex at the 'right time' can be really stressful.

MrsC2b_2

fluffnutter wrote: »

I can't help with your other questions but in answer to the highlighted one - if you've got no fertility issues then having sex every day won't adversely affect your chances of getting pregnant.

There's a school of thought that suggests that, if the man's sperm quality is a bit on the poor side, he should abstain for a few days. However, I read an article in the New Scientist the other day suggesting that, in actual fact, ejaculating every day increased the quality of good sperm, possibly because it spends less time in the vas deferens (which is where the damage is thought to occur).

All that aside, keep banging away every day if you want to (you lucky thing!). The massive advantage is that it won't matter when you ovulate - temping and trying to make sure you have sex at the 'right time' can be really stressful.

Oh that's ok then! I am not very good with charting things and really don't want to get obsessional over it so think will just go with the flow and carry on as we are, thankfully we both have high sex drives so it's all good

QQuaver

Testing list

Mon 4th June - msnigella
Wed 6th June - Sequeena
Wed 13th June - codemonkey
Mon 18th June - lilymay
Mon 18th June - QQuaver

June graduates - Winners of May BFP predictions (8) QQuaver, Time2deal & Tattoo:T

AllyS (34) TTC#3 since 02/12 BFP 03/06/12:j
Countrybum (30) TTC #1 since 10/10 BFP 07/06/12:j
lulu75 (36) TTC#1 since 12/11 BFP 08/06/12:j
oxclairexo (33) TTC#2 since 05/12 BFP 10/06/12:j

June BFP predictions

time2deal - 7 incl self
tattoo - 8
vesper - 8
lilymay - 9
Birdie - 9
mrsj28 - 9
Definitely Blonde - 9
blacksta - 10 incl self
oxclairexo - 10
tea lover - 10
mogwai - 10
QQuaver - 10
abis12 - 11 incl QQ
maire - 11
Secretdebts - 12
good vibes - 12
rumfeeble - 12

QQuaver

Team Sticky!

CD50 tattoo - 36DPO :cool:
CD39 codemonkey - 17DPO :cool:
CD29 Maire1 - 11DPO :cool:
CD27 lilymay - 6DPO :cool:
CD21 tinkwings - 6DPO :cool:
CD19 QQuaver* - 6DPO :cool:
CD17 TTC40 - 3DPO :cool:
CD14 blacksta - 2DPO :cool:
CD16 Nicki - 1DPO :cool:
CD16 Lily_The_Legend - 2DPO :cool:
CD42 2ba3c - High CBFM :cool:

CD88 Mrs Toast - Awaiting ov
CD86 GorkyPark - Awaiting ov
CD69 Penguin 83 - Awaiting ov
CD64 Fannyanna - Awaiting ov
CD47 becca0417 - Awaiting ov
CD47 Gizmogiz* - Awaiting ov
CD45 Squ1rrel5 - Awaiting ov
CD41 Loulou123 - Awaiting ov
CD40 Sequeena - Awaiting ov
CD39 Primmer* - Awaiting ov
CD38 mssas - Awaiting ov
CD32 mrs_dave - Awaiting ov
CD31 lemonmelon - Awaiting ov
CD31 *BigBird* - Awaiting ov
CD27 claire16c - Awaiting ov
CD27 Gizmodo - Awaiting ov
CD24 claretsgirl - Awaiting ov
CD20 Tea lover - Awaiting ov
CD20 Leopardlady - Awaiting ov
CD19 twigglet35 - Awaiting ov
CD19 mfwbutneedhelp - Awaiting ov
CD18 Rumfeeble - Awaiting ov
CD16 onlywayisup - Awaiting ov
CD14 apple*pie - Awaiting ov
CD13 Definitely Blonde - Awaiting ov
CD12 msnigella - Awaiting ov
CD12 Secretdebts - Awaiting ov
CD10 vesper - Awaiting ov
CD9 mogwai - Awaiting ov
CD9 Metranil Vavin - Awaiting ov
CD7 COMP - Awaiting ov
CD7 nikolacarter - Awaiting ov
CD6 TeamLowe - Awaiting ov
CD5 mrsj28 - Awaiting ov
CD5 Flee - Awaiting ov
CD5 i love holidays - Awaiting ov
CD5 scarly* - Awaiting ov
CD5 Birdie85* - Awaiting ov
CD3 time2deal - Awaiting ov
CD3 Elsie37 - Awaiting ov
CD2 good vibes - Awaiting ov
CD2 MrsHappy - Awaiting ov


Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart

QQuaver

Hello girls and a boy:wave:

lilymay, let us know when you get a BFP!:wave:
TTC40, no I don't have plans to see DH in the near future:p
abis, fingers crossed your hcg will come down very soon (((hugs))).
mogwai, piccy of the sponge cake?:happyhear
Lily the legend, welcome back:wave: Hope the conception moon did the trick:)
becca, great news re doctors:)
Bigbird, hugs for BFN, but fingers crossed you ov'd later than you thought:)
blacksta, fingers crossed your wife is pg this cycle:)
NewMrsL, you are perfectly normal ttc lady:rotfl:
Dieting and stress will send your cycles haywire:o It'll get back to normal soon:)
MrsC2b, BDing every other day is recommended, but every day is fine too:) If you do that, then there's no need to determine ov, I only do that because DH is a once a week man:o

fluffnutter wrote: »

It's a great pic but I'm pretty sure that sperm aren't that big (or eggs aren't that small)

The sperm are a lot smaller:D

I did read (in the New Scientist some years ago) that some women have really tough outer linings to their eggs and the sperm just can't get through.

I think it can get tougher with age:(

tea_lover

If you're an everyday sort of couple then I'd definitely just go with that and see what happens. Charting, temping etc can all get really stressful really quickly. If you're at it everyday (am jealous lol) then you're bound to catch ovulation so you're giving yourself the best chance every cycle.

Even with great timing and everything working as it should, it can still take a good few months to get that BFP. I think it's something like a 20-25% chance each cycle if you BD at the right time.

So best advice for now would be have lots of sex and try not to stress about it. Unless you know of any issues on either side of course, then it's advisable to see your GP.

TeamLowe

Research shows that ovulation prediction (ie tests and charting) are no more effective than s e x at least every 2-3 days. Like in everything else, there's many ways to skin a cat so just do what works for you as long as there's healthy sperm around when that elusive egg shows her face, you're in with a chance

What I found to be a great relaxer was watching a documentary called the great sperm race, it shows just how miraculous it all is and that's why it can take a few months, as the circumstances have o be juust right.

Course, I hope I reverse jinx you and you're knocked up first go lol x x

TeamLowe

Oh also, anyone seen that article on bbc news site? Apparent the older your dad is the longer you'll live. Something to add to the PMA list lol x x

MrsC2b_2

LOL! Thanks guys, Im sure it will be fine, I am sooooooooooo excited though, so is OH!

lemonmelon_2

Hope you get on okay lilymay, we are always here if you want to pop in for a chat :-)

A woman I work with brought her 10day old baby to my office today and I got to hold him, he was so tiny. I had a little cry