Trying for a Baby Part 7

euronorris

Birdie85 wrote: »

Ah they sound like lovely parents, just what you need at a crappy time in your life. I'm sure that they'll be wonderful grandparents to your LO

It's so sad that you had to deal with so many insensitive people though, every baby is a blessing IMO no matter how old you are and I'd never say that a MC could be anything but devastating

Oh they will. They're already wonderful grandparents to my 5 neices and 2 nephews!

Ahh, I know. I *think* that they were trying to be helpful, in their own way and get me to see things in a positive light. And some of them may have even genuinely thought that they would feel relieved in my position. But I just felt like my feelings were dismissed, or seen as petty, and got very annoyed when they didn't listen to me telling them that I was devastated.

squ1rrel5

Thanks for all your responses.
Just called docs and had a chat, only with receptionist but she was lovely! Got to call Monday for another appointment with same doc, hope she can provide me with answers or a referral at least!

TeamLowe

*hugs* to euronorris, every child is a miracle and nobody has the right to tell you you would have been an awful mother :mad:
My DH was born the day before his mum's 17th birthday and he's the loveliest person you could ever meet (ok maybe i'm biased) and has done really well for himself, whereas there's other people in my life who's parents 'did it right' who are right prats!
At least you know you have wonderful parents and can be a great support yourself to anyone close to you who finds themselves pregnant at a young age

btw my last entry was meant to be much longer but it had to be cut short as an ICT bloke wanted to look at my computer :eek:

been feeling really off all day, like even though i've eaten loads i've been feeling faint when stood up and getting really hot

oooh and the cervix checking has hit a new height-i felt the opening! all my googling said you could feel whether it was open and closed and i never have, but last night i sort of pushed to the side and felt it, it must be titled! not that i'm SSing as the internet is emphatic that it's no way to check if you're pregnant, i'm just finding it fascinating lol
if anyone wants to look at pictures of other women's cervixes then there's a site called beautiful cervix. probably not work safe though

Also we've booked 2 nights in a premier inn in Swansea on Valentine's day after :money:said there'd be a sale so it's cost us 38 quid for both nights. bargain is it wrong though that i'm hoping it works out that it's Ov those days? lol x x

bigzippy

Euro, my childhood best friend had the exact same comments made (she did know she was pg and was, I think, about 4months gone ). People don't realise how insensitive they are, I guess


DH just text me:
"Got your moon cup. The guy didn't know what it was so he asked the girl who was on and she gave him that look and then went and got one. Ignorance is bliss I suppose."
:rotfl:
I replied with "more fool you for asking a bloke!" :rotfl:

euronorris

TeamLowe wrote: »

At least you know you have wonderful parents and can be a great support yourself to anyone close to you who finds themselves pregnant at a young age

Thanks

It's one of the reasons why I'm try to keep my relationship with my neices a bit more relaxed, and open than my aunts or uncles were with me. I want them to feel like they can ask me questions openly, without fear of being told off, in case they feel a bit weird or uncomfortable asking their Mum.

In might not work, but the two eldest (who are cousins, not sisters) started their periods this month, and both contacted me independantly from their Mum's to let me know. Have got some 'free' discreet san pad tins to send them both, which are being given away with a certain brand of san pads here at the moment (Libresse - which I think is Bodyform in the UK). Must get those in the post!

euronorris

bigzippy wrote: »

Euro, my childhood best friend had the exact same comments made (she did know she was pg and was, I think, about 4months gone ). People don't realise how insensitive they are, I guess

Oh, 4 months?! Wow! How can someone not realise that, after 4 months, you're going to be hugely attached. I mean, I can understand their logic with me (I don't like it, but I can see where they're coming from) as it was early on, but 4 months in? Some people need to engage their brains more often!

DH just text me:
"Got your moon cup. The guy didn't know what it was so he asked the girl who was on and she gave him that look and then went and got one. Ignorance is bliss I suppose."
:rotfl:
I replied with "more fool you for asking a bloke!" :rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl:At your OH! Good that he was even willing to get it though, let alone ask. A lot of guys are too embarassed!

vesper

There's no way my OH would go and get a moon cup for me from a shop, I have got him trained rather well and he will go and get tampons and lady things, and pregnancy kits but only from our chemist. Think he would die of shame, especially as I showed him what they are,as I was on about ordering one some time.

euronorris

My OH would be OK with it, but that's cos pretty much nothing embarrasses that man! lol

When I showed him the Mooncup site, he found the love your vagina song very funny!

fluffnutter

TeamLowe wrote: »

oooh and the cervix checking has hit a new height-i felt the opening! all my googling said you could feel whether it was open and closed and i never have, but last night i sort of pushed to the side and felt it

How do you feel your own cervix??! Honestly, I can't get my hand up there far enough! Have I got a really long fanny or something?!

TeamLowe

fluffnutter wrote: »

How do you feel your own cervix??! Honestly, I can't get my hand up there far enough! Have I got a really long fanny or something?!

now that's a chat up line if ever i heard one, have an image of you going saying to some lucky guy you have a really long fanny :rotfl:
it's difficult the first time cos you don't know what you're looking for, but once you find it you never lose it again, just like that other bit of the female anatomy men struggle with sometimes sometimes you do have to put all your finger up there, especially around Ov
this site explains it well
http://www.fertilityuk.org/nfps402.html#cervicalchangesslug

feel free to wiggle your finger a bit too, sometimes it's a bit tilted x x