Trying for a Baby Part 7

emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

Thanks for that Fannyanna.:o I know PCOS can play a part in weirdness and I was wondering (though not understanding how) if that was something to do with it. There's also family history of endometriosis, and I was wondering if I might have that at work (they can't/won't test for that just yet, and GP said it's not idea to test for when TTC). TMI alert:I know what you mean about tampons too, I can't use them for more than the length of a shower atm. It's really bizarre this bleed cos it's like I have nothing for a few hours, or whatever, and then it just sort of gushes out (with or without the clots) and fills the pad and feel like I've peed myself or "followed through" or something. It's disgusting. Wish I had a mooncup right now tbh

I've just had more huge clots and it's gross! _pale_
(can you tell I'm trying to hide my concern a lil bit? I also don't want to be all about me, or minimise real MC sufferers either, sorry guys.:o)

I guess I'll see where I am on monday...

Clots and heavy bleeding are not nice and I can understand why it is concerning you.
As Nicky said, it's probably best to follow the standard advice for a mc and not use tampons or do anything else on the list until you've stopped bleeding to minimise any chance of risking an infection.
As others have said, if you start soaking through a pad an hour get yourself up to A&E to be seen.
Otherwise take iron tablets and eat leafy greens and red meat to keep your iron levels up and also drink lots to replace the lost fluids.

Hope it gets better soon.

xx

bigzippy

Thanks Emsbet :)

I've just found out Boots sell them, if they've got them in, so have asked DH (bless him!) to get one on his way back from the hospital now, so hopefully he'll get here with it in enough time for me to have a shower before I have to go back up there with him!

euronorris

BZ - my mc experience (which was early days as far as I know) was that I bled heavily, with a considerable amount of pain, and passed some clots. Now, at the time, I didn't know I was pregnant, and had no reason to suspect I was as I was on the pill. But (I'm going to put the next bit in white text, so you have to scroll over it to read - be warned, it isn't particularly pleasant), one of the clots was about an inch wide, and an inch and a half long, and was veiny - see, I told you. It looked like an embryonic sac, and my Mum (was only 17 then ) made me put it in a clear sandwich bag to show the doc. Doc agreed it was most likely an embryonic sac, and I was having a miscarriage, and sent it off for testing. Results confirmed it. Not to be too gross, but if you have any clots that look similar, perhaps you could do the same so it can be confirmed or dismissed one way or another.

I was lucky in that my body seemed to get rid of everything itself, without too much issue, and a D&C (I think that was the term they used) was therefore not required.

Only plus side was that I was confirmed as Rhesus D negative then, had an injection, and am aware of it for future pregnancies.

But, I gather that experiences vary, so I don't know how useful this is.

So, as it doesn't feel right to give you the usual 'punch on the arm', I'm going to offer you a gentle hug ((hug)).

xxx

bigzippy

Thanks Euro

I actually don't think I want to know for sure... is that cowardly?

fannyanna

bigzippy wrote: »

is that cowardly?

NO!

x x x

moneypuddle

Thinking of you BZ.

euronorris

bigzippy wrote: »

Thanks Euro

I actually don't think I want to know for sure... is that cowardly?

No, completely normal.

I can remember being sat on the toilet, staring down and crying my eyes out with fear for a good 20 minutes before I would let my Mum in.:o

Birdie85

Oh Euro, that sounds awful, and so scary considering how young you were!

Good news about your MIL BZ, hope she improves over the weekend.

euronorris

Yeah, it was pretty sh'tty.

One of the worst things was people telling me what a lucky escape I had, cos I was so young and how I would've made an awful mother at such a young age, it's a blessing in disguise blah blah blah. Some people were seriously lucky I didn't punch them in the face! Insensitive ******* they were! And how on earth would they know how well I would or wouldn't have coped???

Knowing I couldn't try again for years (I was still at college, at parents etc), and not having the usual support groups offered to me, was pretty difficult too. Not many people had sympathy, or the desire to support someone like me experiencing a mc, as they predominantly considered it a blessing in disguise.

I did come to realise just exactly how wonderful my parents are though. There were no lectures, frowning, or blessing in disguise comments from them. Just a lot of love, support and a weekend away at the seaside to give me some space and take me out of the situation IYSWIM.

Birdie85

Ah they sound like lovely parents, just what you need at a crappy time in your life. I'm sure that they'll be wonderful grandparents to your LO

It's so sad that you had to deal with so many insensitive people though, every baby is a blessing IMO no matter how old you are and I'd never say that a MC could be anything but devastating