Trying for a Baby Part 7

mrshappy

ikkle87 wrote: »

It's just crap.

We found out today that my MIL has cancer. Her GP thought she had gall stones but no it's cancer. I think she's still in shock but my OH won't talk to me about it, he got angry and went for a rather erratic drive in the car to cool down so we then ended up arguing about his driving. Now he's just sat there playing xbox ignoring me and I'm scared. Like an idiot I googled and now i'm scared of what's going to happen to my MIL, I'm scared what's going to happen to OH cos I don't know how he will cope but most of all I'm scared that if he keeps me shut out we won't survive as a couple.

Its just crap

emsbet wrote: »

Oh honey I'm so sorry, you poor things. I'm sure he isn't meaning to shut you out but is just in shock and trying to process the news. Give him time and I'm sure he'll start to open up to you about it.


xx

Huge hugs ickle, I agree with emsbet. It takes a while to process news like that, my mum had cancer 2 years ago and my dad and brother didn't talk about it at all even though it had an impact on us all, mrhappy also found it really difficult when I got upset-blokes are strange creatures. Just be there for him if/when he wants to talk about it. Thinking of you both xx

ETA;try to avoid googling to much, it's not healthy! I had my mum gone within a week after googling when she was first diagnosed-she has had chemo and made a full recovery!

LittleMoog

Ikkle, I'm so sorry to hear that awful news. You'll be in my thoughts, hope you get a bit more info soon, I think not knowing what the situation makes it hard to know how to react.
Re: your DH, that sounds like exactly how mine would react. Give him some time to process and take it all in and let him come to you in his own time if you can.

vesper

Ikkle, just be there for them, honestly there is nothing you can do as such. My Mil has cancer and unfortunately is was caught far too late and my OH was just glad I was there for him and tried to take his mind off it.
Congratulations T-sil!!!

Not many people know I am trying for a baby. One of my friends does, but only because she recently had a baby and I asked advice on trying to conceive. And my Aunty does, but only because she was going on about anyone having a baby in the family as my sis is the youngest one in the entire family at 25 and doesn't want kids. Plus my Aunts children are in their 40's and have never had girlfriends never mind though about children, and she really wants a baby in the family more than anything, so we told her we were trying.
I wouldn't tell my parents, they aren't kiddy people. Plus my dad found out I was pregnant before I has the miscarriage as my midwife letter went to the wrong address and he opened it. When he confronted me it was right after the miscarriage so I told him the truth,and was told to never tell my mum as she had a baby before I was born that died at 14 days old. So I daren't talk to her about that sort of thing.

Secretdebts

watching pi**ed and pregnant off my sky plus & it's making me right angry

scottishchick27

Secretdebts wrote: »

watching pi**ed and pregnant off my sky plus & it's making me right angry

I can't watch things like that as it makes me so angry and jealous

scottishchick27

I'm sorry to read your news Ikkle, try and take a step back from your OH but be there for him when he needs you.

DibDabb

Hugs ikkle thats an awful way to start the year, I understand why you want it over!

Congrats to the BFPs I've missed.

I hope you don't mind, but I think I'm on my way back to join you. GP has booked me in at EPAU on Mon but I think I already know what it will say. Just couldn't manage more than a week away

emsbet

DibDabb wrote: »

Hugs ikkle thats an awful way to start the year, I understand why you want it over!

Congrats to the BFPs I've missed.

I hope you don't mind, but I think I'm on my way back to join you. GP has booked me in at EPAU on Mon but I think I already know what it will say. Just couldn't manage more than a week away

((hugs)). I hope you get better news than you are expecting. Take it easy over the weekend.

xx

Primmer

Ickle - so sorry about your news, what a shock it must have been for everyone . Men are funny creatures and most I know deal with bad news by blocking it out. Don't force him to talk but tell him that you are thereto talk to when he is ready and will support him. Please try to stay away from google as you will only make yourself feel worse. I am thinking of you all and hope that your mil gets the treatment she needs to start the road to recovery.

Primmer

Dibdab - huge hugs, try to rest over the weekend and hope scan on Monday shows good news. You are in my thoughts.