Please help, I feel totally abandoned!

yaimee

69 will definitely be taking your advice, just came on here to see if anyone had been in similar circumstances and most people have been lovely and there has been some really useful advise.
Thanks everyone x

lianne84

Yaimee, just wanted to wish you well with your pregnancy and becoming a mum If i were you i would take no notice of nasty remarks that have been made, I hope everything goes well for you and your baby boy

Triker

Yaimee, just wanted to add my voice to support you, can't offer much more advice other than whats been said about leaving uni for the year and signing on. Don't forget you'll get child benefit too...I think there is a 'hardship' fund which may be able to help when you return in childcare costs. Remember to get your baby's name on the list for a child nursery placement near your uni as soon as is possible as places go quickly.

I did uni as a mature student, my daughter was 3/4 when I went and then my youngest appeared and I managed it, though it was hard it's doable and I went on to do another 2 years after my degree doing a post grad qualification....so its possible but planning ahead is the key.

Also you can use the 'Ignore' function on here if you don't want to read some of the judgemental crapola some people write on here. This thread explains how to do it.

yaimee

Massive thank you both of you

iluvmarmite

monkeyblue wrote: »

Ah, you had my support until you wrote that.

MMM the comment could be taken two ways, either a OP being sarcy, or OP genuinly thanking those for their support, I would say she is saying thankyou and hopes others in her situation gets the same GOOD advice and support from members as she has been given.

Primarni

Could the Citizen's Advice people help you get your ducks in a row?

A similar thing happened to my colleague at work. She'd just gone really part time from working 40+ hours a week to coming in twice a week for 4 hours and so she had been replaced, and then her OH upped and left her.

She went to the C.A.B and they really helped.

I'm so sorry that some people have been unkind to you on top of you feeling so exhausted and having been left by your ex holding the baby. (sort of)

I've had the sort of job you've got too. You have to take whatever job you can get sometimes. It's not our fault that we were taken advantage of. A girl's got to eat. (Especially in your condition.)

Good luck hunny.

happysinglemum

Yaimee, just wanted to wish you all the best! I went back to uni as a mature student when my DS was 4 (after his father 'naffed off'). I found out at the end of my final year that I would have been entitled to claim Income Support every summer (as I wasn't technically a student until I had registered for the next year of my course). That may well be the case for you (which means you COULD claim Income Support straight away).

The Direct Gov website can be confusing - I found that actually speaking to an adviser there was the only way to get a definitive answer.

If you ring 0800 0556688 (the 'new claims' number) they will be able to advise you on your specific circumstances, and arrange an interview at your local jobcentreplus.

Good luck with everything - and enjoy your little man when he arrives!

xxx

bodmil

Perhaps instead of a year off you could look into finishing your studies via the Open University? I don't think you really have the option to prioritise full time study any more.

Sam____2

bodmil wrote: »

Perhaps instead of a year off you could look into finishing your studies via the Open University? I don't think you really have the option to prioritise full time study any more.

Reall? Why would that be?

bodmil

.... maybe that child that could probably do with an income? Things aren't going to get any easier when it arrives, either finishing a full time degree and then competing against graduates for jobs. Perhaps another course of action to look at is getting back onto the job market as quickly as possible and using the OU to top up the credits already achieved in the hope of using a degree down the line. OP, what degree is it out of interest, so few directly lead to employment now that, as I say, I think your child and the immediate future might be better off taking priority.

As another poster said, few working with partners supporting them can afford to take a year off work, why is it being considered in this case?