Depression

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DjSatansfury wrote: »

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cifpower

Tiff wrote: »

Hi cif!:hello:
How are you hun?
Good news about the drs angel. Well done you for opening up to them!:T

Your appointment is not too far away cif, so what I'd say is try not to worry about anything until it's happened. Easier said than done I know.
Even then angel, if you're worried about something, please tell your drs - they may be able to put your mind at rest. I'm sure they'll give you all the answers and options you need hun.;)
And what's really important to remember is that they won't give you meds you don't need angel. They'll start with the smalller options and work their way up.;) But most of all hun, isn't the important point that you get better whatever it takes angel? Try not to fret hun ok?
Thinking of you cif.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Much love for the kind words Tiff. You truly are an :A

Tiff_2

clipboard2 wrote: »

Hi All!

May I share this with you?...

A friend of mine was told by doctors he was dying of cancer - it had spread
and he had 3-4 weeks to live. So he lived those days with a passion and in a way that most of us don't......with the reality of his death so close.
He called people and made things right. He told people that he loved them. He did all the things he knew he should do to have no regrets. In the end the doctors said they couldn't find any cancer.

'It is not only necessary to love: it is necessary to say so'
[translated from a French proverb]

Be encouraged everyone!

CB2 xx

Hi cb2!:hello:
How are you angel? Sorry for the delay hun.:o
Thank you for your message of hope cb2 - it was kind of you to share.:T :A

That is an awful situation of him thinking he was only going to be here a short time longer and then thankfully getting a reprieve.

This tells me that there is always hope.
If what you're hoping for doesn't immediately appear, then we can adapt our hopes. Yes, some things may be inevitable, but there's always something to hope for, even in the darkest times. Hope can get you through, as many of us here know.

Imho angel, your words do remind us to take stock. An event like that sadly makes everything clearer and we suddenly realise exactly what's really important in our lives.
If we can only apply this to our lives before these awful times come, life may be a lot easier and filled with the peace of mind that yes, you did your best.

I think there is nothing sadder than leaving this life with regrets and 'I wish I had' s and 'I should have' s. None of us are perfect.;) It's hard with serious ill health of any kind to see hope sometimes, but we shouldn't forget it's there. I hope he has gone on to live a long life with no regrets still. By doing what he did, he's got a fresh start as it were, for the future.

It's not about changing the past imho, there's no hope of that. But it's about making the future the best it can be for us and peace of mind is a wonderful thing.

Taking stock also shows us what we should be regretting - not regretting every human mistake we make - but giving ourselves the chance to be free of regrets if we can. It takes courage to be the one to make the first move but at least we'll know we tried to put it right.

I think that the French proverb is another beautiful reminder of how precious everyone is and how much good it does a heart to hear those words.
They can move the world!

Now, do you need to say it to someone?;)

Awww cb2, you've turned me into a soggy and waffling Tiff hun!:o :rolleyes: Sorry for the length of this guys.:rolleyes: See what happens when I start thinking?!;)
Again, thanks cb2 for your thoughts. Hope all is well angel. Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

queensway_boy wrote: »

I made bold the part to highlight which part of the post i was talkng about,never suggested ethel wrote it in bold,just that ethel wrote it.Its something i could have written myself but would'nt because its dis-respectful,and still is out of order imo,seems to me that theres only one keeping this bad feeling going,and its not me.I stick by my post i wrote with the quoted bold text,all of it.Hugs to everyone xx

Hi qb!:hello:
I didn't mean to sound as if I was having a go hun - I'm not like that angel.
I am sorry if you are upset and I can see that the bold type was a quotation tool now.

I meant no harm angel and I gave you credit for putting the past behind you too. I'm not finger-pointing hun. I just didn't want to open old wounds - guess I failed on that one! :rolleyes:
Again, I'm sorry hun. I wouldn't wish anyone ill will.;)

Right, I'm ready for my flogging. Sazzy - get the wet fish out sazzy!
Wow - I didn't think there'd be this many of you! Form an orderly queue please.....:eek:
(If you could make it a nice tail end of cod saz, I can have it poached for dinner afterwards!:D :rolleyes: )

Take care sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

_Kate__2

Thanks all for the very warm welcome I'm sure i dont have to tell you people how much it meant to be readily accepted in my current state!

I hope this doesnt come across as a stupid patronising question but it's the only thing that is stopping me from hauling myself to the docs.

I am depressed, i know i am....it is now getting to a point that it's ruining mine and my family's life. There are, in my mind, some very specific reasons which are making me feel down. If i was to go on medication who does it work? Obviously it doesn't resolve the situations and circumstances which have led to feel like this in the first place. Does it just make it easier to cope? Does it make you see these things different/more balanced? As i can appreciate that i'm not particularly stable atm so might be blowing some things out of proportion.

Basically what i really wanna know is does medication work? or is it just one part of it?

Thanks in advance
Kate

flis21

Hi Kate and welcome.

Medication works differently for different people. I tried about 4 different types of meds before I found one that works for me. In my case I get very emotional (crying all the time etc) and the medication helps to stop that. It doesn't solve everything tho and I had about 8 sessions of counselling as well that really helped.

It may be that you don't need meds and you can get counselling / CBT or something to help.

You really do need to go and talk to your doctor tho. The trouble with depression is it really individual, so what works for one person won't work for another.

Anyway, good luck with it and please go and see your doctor.

Flis

Karrie

Woke up this morning at 6am and felt like a complete zombie. My brain began to function at about 7am. Went into battle with the daily routine and from the minute I got in the car to go to work, I couldn't wait to get home again. Was told I look tired and pale. Yup, you don't know the half of it, I was thinking. Well it's back to the docs in the morning and I just wish i could tell her that the meds are working but I can't. The last two weeks have been the hardest that I've endured in a long long time.

My thoughts are with you all. Loads of room on the bottom step Rosie. Bring some popcorn and a dvd

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello guys.

Flis, How did your first day back at work go?

Kate, Medication can help to relieve the symptoms associated with depression. You're right in that they don't help with whatever caused the depression in the first place. You may find Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) a huge help. It basically tries to change how you think and what you do. This may make you feeling better.

Karrie, You need to be honest with the Doctor. If you don't feel that your medication is working, tell him/her. They may suggest an increase in dose or a different type of medication. (((HUGS)))

flis21

Hi RBK,

First day back at work was ok, but a bit wierd. My ankle did hurt quite a bit, but I tried to sit down when I could. There are all new people at work and I just need to wait until I get to know them. I am always shy with new people and find it difficult to join in their conversations etc. But they do seem very nice and I am sure it will all be fine when I get to know them.

The kids were great. It was so nice to see them and see how much they have changed / grown up in 3 months. A lot of them said they had missed me and gave me loads of hugs. It was lovely, reminded me why I do my job.

Anyway, am doing 2.5 hours all week, so hopefully my ankle will get more used to it by the end of the week and won't hurt quite as much! At least we get a three day weekend this weekend, so I can recover from it.

Sending hugs to you all.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hey flis, I'm glad to hear that your first day back to work went well. After you've been back a few weeks you will probably find yourself settling back in and it will be like you've never been away. Awww it's lovely that the children gave you lots of hugs, hopefully that reassured you a little.

(((HUGS)))