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  • Miroslav
    Miroslav Posts: 6,193 Forumite
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    geminilady wrote:
    Hi Sazbo,Hope you enjoyed your day,the best thing about weekend is no work lol.I had a few texts yesterday from "N" but seldom get any at the weekend.There isn't much sign of him backing off as he said he would but no progress either.I have been patient for 4 yrs thinking he would eventualy trust me and open up but i don't think it is going to happen.I understand it is his way of protecting himself but i need to feal an emotional closeness to have a relationship, without that sex is just that sex,think i would rather do without.Maybe if we meet more often we will get closer,i just don't know,he has said he wants to meet again but its been nearly three months so he is not exactly in a rush lol.I think i fill some sort of need as he quickly changed his mind about backing off but what that is i really don't know.I don't think it will be long until there is some sort of conlusion though because i think i am going to start pushing for answers and he won't like it and i proberly won't like his responses either.We shall see.

    You deserve a gold star for your patience. I couldn't have a 'relationship' like that :eek:
  • geminilady
    geminilady Posts: 1,922 Forumite
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    Miroslav wrote:
    You deserve a gold star for your patience. I couldn't have a 'relationship' like that :eek:

    LOL There seem to be lots of the same post?I know its not a relationship but its all i'v got at the moment, like you with "S" i can't get him out of my head but i am going to try.It is easy to give advice to others but another matter when it is ourselves.
  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    Why do the most impatient people always have to do things that involve great patient? I think I've learnt my lesson this time and I am waiting. Bloody hard though. You have my sympathies and understanding Miro and Gemini x
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Sazbo
    Sazbo Posts: 4,617 Forumite
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    - I'll second that, feelie hun x

    Hi everyone :hello: Well at least the sun's out a bit today. Yesterday was grim with all the damp and grey stuff. Having my cuppa. Hope you're all doing ok.

    Much love,
    Sazx
    4 May 2010 <3
  • Miroslav
    Miroslav Posts: 6,193 Forumite
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    geminilady wrote:
    LOL There seem to be lots of the same post?I know its not a relationship but its all i'v got at the moment, like you with "S" i can't get him out of my head but i am going to try.It is easy to give advice to others but another matter when it is ourselves.

    Site was so slow, it wouldn't take my post - or at least I thought it wouldn't :o Will delete some ;)

    It is impossible to get them out of your head for sure, but after 4 years, I would have imploded by now :o
  • Sazbo
    Sazbo Posts: 4,617 Forumite
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    Miro, gemini's right hun. It's understandable how flatmate feels - she's been your flatmate for 14 years and after all that time she's bound to feel protective of you. From my, admittedly one-sided, perspective, I'm actually rather glad you have her looking out for your interests, even if it wasn't the outcome you were wanting re S. And as you say hun, once the shock subsides the sadness will out. Give it time hun. Fingers crossed for PDSA - let us know how it goes. I think feeling a connection with a particlar cause always makes the work more worthwhile and I do also think it could give you a renewed perspective.

    Love Sazxx
    4 May 2010 <3
  • Sazbo
    Sazbo Posts: 4,617 Forumite
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    Hi miro hun :hello: just getting myself another cuppa :) Sx
    4 May 2010 <3
  • Miroslav
    Miroslav Posts: 6,193 Forumite
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    Hope everyone is okay today.

    Flatmate and I are going for a Costa soon. I need to get out of here, even if for just a couple of hours.

    Had a horrible nightmare where 'S' had found someone else because she was lonely but they mis-treated her.

    It wasn't real (at least I hope not!) but it shook me up as when I woke up, I couldn't differentiate immediately.

    Have a nice day everyone.
  • Miroslav
    Miroslav Posts: 6,193 Forumite
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    Sazbo wrote:
    Miro, gemini's right hun. It's understandable how flatmate feels - she's been your flatmate for 14 years and after all that time she's bound to feel protective of you. From my, admittedly one-sided, perspective, I'm actually rather glad you have her looking out for your interests, even if it wasn't the outcome you were wanting re S. And as you say hun, once the shock subsides the sadness will out. Give it time hun. Fingers crossed for PDSA - let us know how it goes. I think feeling a connection with a particlar cause always makes the work more worthwhile and I do also think it could give you a renewed perspective.

    Love Sazxx

    Well, my flatmate and I have a special bond that no-one can break - I think. We've always looked out for each other. Until 'S' came along, it was mainly me looking out for her, but lately i've seen that when I really need it, she's there.

    Flatmate says I will meet other people - I will, whether I will like them and they like me at the same time is doubtful.

    I'll never give up on 'S' though
  • Miroslav
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    Sazbo wrote:
    Hi miro hun :hello: just getting myself another cuppa :) Sx

    :eek:

    Cuppa overload ;)
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