Depression

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

Well....I have failed so much, which means my confidence is rock bottom.

I have such high standards for myself, not even Brad Pitt could reach them.

In others, I accept people for who they are, but for myself, I have to do everything perfectly.

If I do an exam with 200 questions, and I get 199, It's not good enough.

It's what was drilled into me when young, so if I don't do something perfectly, why would anyone else accept it, if I can't?

I need to re-train my brain, and 'S' was accepting of me as I am, which helped my confidence. Sadly, she can no longer do that.

Your confidence has taken a knock, but it will come back hun. And as your strength comes back and you can start lifting you eyes to the horizon a bit more, then your confidence will be boosted from a variety of situations. For instance, you are applying for voluntary work right now. This in itself will bolster your confidence - you'll be meeting different people and doing new things and as your confidence grows you can expand your horizons a little bit more - so you'll have a broader base from which to draw support, rather than relying on one person to provide it all, which is a tall order for anyone, let alone someone very ill like S. Is Sazzy making any sense?:) With more than one Miro support mechanism in place, if one support falters, then there'll still be others to rely on. Sxx

learning_to_drive

My counsellor identified that i struggled with the same problem that you have Miro, added to that is that im horribly impatient and refuse to stick anything that I hate, I just think life is too short to be unhappy, hence my need to move out of ASDA. I know what I said about retail, but its not for me, Im not sure what is, but I could find out now i have a clear head.

I just want to be on days earning steady money enabling me to have a bit of a life, I work 3 nights at ASDA and Im constantly knackered. Whats the point? Im 21, I should be out enjoying myself on a Friday night not filling shelves, when ive been speaking to people they say "you are better than that surely" and I think I am, but I dont want to get stuck on nights there. I need to get out, and do something that is a bit stretching but decent at the same time. I dont want nights

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Your confidence has taken a knock, but it will come back hun. And as your strength comes back and you can start lifting you eyes to the horizon a bit more, then your confidence will be boosted from a variety of situations. For instance, you are applying for voluntary work right now. This in itself will bolster your confidence - you'll be meeting different people and doing new things and as your confidence grows you can expand your horizons a little bit more - so you'll have a broader base from which to draw support, rather than relying on one person to provide it all, which is a tall order for anyone, let alone someone very ill like S. Is Sazzy making any sense?:) With more than one Miro support mechanism in place, if one support falters, then there'll still be others to rely on. Sxx

I've never had much confidence, 'S' just helped me find some.

I'm not sure getting to know people will be the same as having 'S' in my life, I just don't get to know people.

I'll fight on, but it's the same as most of my life, on my own.

Miroslav

learning_to_drive wrote:

My counsellor identified that i struggled with the same problem that you have Miro, added to that is that im horribly impatient and refuse to stick anything that I hate, I just think life is too short to be unhappy, hence my need to move out of ASDA. I know what I said about retail, but its not for me, Im not sure what is, but I could find out now i have a clear head.

I just want to be on days earning steady money enabling me to have a bit of a life, I work 3 nights at ASDA and Im constantly knackered. Whats the point? Im 21, I should be out enjoying myself on a Friday night not filling shelves, when ive been speaking to people they say "you are better than that surely" and I think I am, but I dont want to get stuck on nights there. I need to get out, and do something that is a bit stretching but decent at the same time. I dont want nights

Well, I learnt not to stick to things you hate, unless it really is benefitting you.

If you are unhappy, look for something else whilst you are employed, even the local corner shop or something, until you again find something else.

Night work isn't good, as we need daylight to function, and if you work at night, when there is daylight, you sleep - not pleasant

Sazbo

LTD I agree with Miro - stability is important - look for something else while you are still at Asda. Don't try and change too much too soon, espcially since you've not been feeling a 100%

Sx

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

I've never had much confidence, 'S' just helped me find some.

I'm not sure getting to know people will be the same as having 'S' in my life, I just don't get to know people.

I'll fight on, but it's the same as most of my life, on my own.

You are a fighter Miro, bless your heart. Have faith in yourself, it's the lack of self-belief which is painting a bleak picture for you right now. That will change. Sx

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

You are a fighter Miro, bless your heart. Have faith in yourself, it's the lack of self-belief which is painting a bleak picture for you right now. That will change. Sx

That and a failed 'relationship'

I'll see what each new minute brings.

rose07

im bored

hmmm what to do

got house to meself apart from my sister and her fiance and they got the tele

grrrrr :rotfl:

maybe go for a walk

learning_to_drive

Thanks Miro, as you say, unless you are happy, whats the point? I wont quit until I get something else, I have a few things lined up but I intend to stay there until I am sorted out. Hopefully soon, I just want to be on days and have a bit of a life, ASDA is good dont get me wrong, but I am hopefully over the rough patch because Ive sorted out my financial issues.

rose07

anyone about for a chat? xxx