Depression

flis21

rose07 wrote: »

I wish I had a broken leg, then people would at least see my pain

Believe me, you don't want to wish that on yourself. The last 2 months with my fractured ankle have been a nightmare. Very painful and frustrating. People's sympathy wears out as well. The first couple of weeks I had people coming round to see me, buying me flowers and choccies, phoning me up to see if I was ok. But it all wears off.

It has also made my depression bad again, I have had some really low points. Just be careful what you wish for.

Horasio

flis21 wrote: »

Believe me, you don't want to wish that on yourself. The last 2 months with my fractured ankle have been a nightmare. Very painful and frustrating. People's sympathy wears out as well. The first couple of weeks I had people coming round to see me, buying me flowers and choccies, phoning me up to see if I was ok. But it all wears off.

It has also made my depression bad again, I have had some really low points. Just be careful what you wish for.

My OH broke his leg a few years ago and it's not nice:(

flis21

I have also been told by my physiotherapist that there is a chance i could have a permanent limp. I think (or hope) that he was just trying to scare me to make sure I do my exercises every day!

rose07

flis21 wrote: »

Believe me, you don't want to wish that on yourself. The last 2 months with my fractured ankle have been a nightmare. Very painful and frustrating. People's sympathy wears out as well. The first couple of weeks I had people coming round to see me, buying me flowers and choccies, phoning me up to see if I was ok. But it all wears off.

It has also made my depression bad again, I have had some really low points. Just be careful what you wish for.

Well, really hun, im just trying to say, sometimes its easier to be unwell so people can see your unwell, eg: broken leg. Its soo hard having an illness like depression, no one knows what to say to you, you feel isolated, and sometimes all you need is someone to talk to, yet there is no one there, Its just frustrating sometimes.

I am going into hospital myself in the next few weeks to have an operation on my leg/feet, so I guess in a sense i really should be careful what i ask for. Its an operation to realign my bones in my toes, pins are put in place, and as farr as i know its very painful. And tbh im very scared as I dont know what to expect. And i dont know if i will go thru with it.

I am really suffering atm, finding things hard:o

Tonight i was asked out for a drink with mates, but havent gone as i dont trust myself. So staying in, and looking after my mum as well, she is soo very poorly atm, feel soo helpless.

Sometimes I wish things were easier :rotfl:

oldandhappy

I know things can be so hard but Hubby has a complete break in his achilles tendon and he has worked so hard to cope with it mentally and phyicially(oh spelling) and although he does fall when he forgets to balance right he has been a star and at 62 years old he was told that it would be better to learn to live with than operate unless he wants to play football. He has shown to me that you can get through but of course operations to correct is best and scarry but best...take care..xxx Happy..... now but not in the past for sure

lewt

Hi guy's i found this after looking on the net as i cant really help anyotherway. and i know for me and from my experance with depression that the drugs (be it from the doctor or the street-alcohol too) don't work. their just mask. it's 12 steps which i can promise do work if you put your all into it and are prepared to go to anyleghts to recover. as i have used them for three different thingd now. i aint sur eif their is a meeting in ther uk but i would help set it up if anyones wants togive it a go and also show a take people thriough the steps so that they can do the same for others.

Hey it's just an idea, i aint peaching at you but for those of you that have tried most other things there cant be much to lose trying, can there?

Any way link time...... http://www.depressedanon.com

EthelBloggs

Hiya everyone :hello:

thansk for that lewt, I'll have a proper look when I aint so knackered, although I'm not sure how the 12 steps can work for what is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain DIepression has physical as well as psychological causes.

I am absolutely shattered!!!! Left home just after 10 this morning to go see daughter.. and got home about half an hour ago. We did have a lovely day, just mooching round a shopping centre, but it wasn't all dismal as I had about £60 of various vouchers thanks to piggypoints, lol

Got meself some jeans and a couple of tops - all reduced in the sale so it came to £37 instead of £65 had they been full price :eek: Then we went to boots and daughter wanted some hair dye so we got that and I got a dermabrasion kit and chemical hair straightening thing and a new blusher which again was all covered with vouchers and points

Then she wanted some of those long gloves that come to your elbow so as to hide her cuts a bit.. so we got some of those cos I'm really happy to say she hasn't cut in over a week and her arms are healing really well. I'm going to get her some bio-oil or something similar to try and minimise the scars a bit too.

Took her back to the hospital for 6.30 and then stayed for a bit while they searched her for anything she shouldn't have and a cuppa. Popped into me mums' on the way home and here I am!

Son is staying at a friend's tonight so I'm all alone and it feels really weird.. the house seems a bit eerie so I might have an early night cos I don't like it

Tomorrow I'm planning on doing a load of washing and maybe straighten my hair.. if I can screw up the nerve to do it, hehehehe and then the rest of the day just relaxing......... blisss

Hope you're all ok and having a good weekend xxxxxxxxxx

geminilady

lewt wrote: »

Hi guy's i found this after looking on the net as i cant really help anyotherway. and i know for me and from my experance with depression that the drugs (be it from the doctor or the street-alcohol too) don't work. their just mask. it's 12 steps which i can promise do work if you put your all into it and are prepared to go to anyleghts to recover. as i have used them for three different thingd now. i aint sur eif their is a meeting in ther uk but i would help set it up if anyones wants togive it a go and also show a take people thriough the steps so that they can do the same for others.

Hey it's just an idea, i aint peaching at you but for those of you that have tried most other things there cant be much to lose trying, can there?

Any way link time...... http://www.depressedanon.com

Sorry, had to reply to this.I think you are wrong to say medication does not help depression and i am sure there are thousands who would agree.Ok medication did not help in your case but you have no right to say it does not help at all.Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.In that case none of the" twelve steps" would help.Also what about the atheists among us? to them the "twelve steps" will mean nothing. One thing on the sitei agree with, that support groups and counseling can be helpful.You found something that worked for you, that's great but it is not the answer for everyone .

geminilady

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Hiya everyone :hello:

thansk for that lewt, I'll have a proper look when I aint so knackered, although I'm not sure how the 12 steps can work for what is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain DIepression has physical as well as psychological causes.

I am absolutely shattered!!!! Left home just after 10 this morning to go see daughter.. and got home about half an hour ago. We did have a lovely day, just mooching round a shopping centre, but it wasn't all dismal as I had about £60 of various vouchers thanks to piggypoints, lol

Got meself some jeans and a couple of tops - all reduced in the sale so it came to £37 instead of £65 had they been full price :eek: Then we went to boots and daughter wanted some hair dye so we got that and I got a dermabrasion kit and chemical hair straightening thing and a new blusher which again was all covered with vouchers and points

Then she wanted some of those long gloves that come to your elbow so as to hide her cuts a bit.. so we got some of those cos I'm really happy to say she hasn't cut in over a week and her arms are healing really well. I'm going to get her some bio-oil or something similar to try and minimise the scars a bit too.

Took her back to the hospital for 6.30 and then stayed for a bit while they searched her for anything she shouldn't have and a cuppa. Popped into me mums' on the way home and here I am!

Son is staying at a friend's tonight so I'm all alone and it feels really weird.. the house seems a bit eerie so I might have an early night cos I don't like it

Tomorrow I'm planning on doing a load of washing and maybe straighten my hair.. if I can screw up the nerve to do it, hehehehe and then the rest of the day just relaxing......... blisss

Hope you're all ok and having a good weekend xxxxxxxxxx

Sorry Ethel,we obviously think alike just posted then read yours.Glad you had a nice day with your daughter.I would love a night alone! can't remember the last one,my eldest son is always in,told him he is in danger of becoming a recluse lol.He should be out there living a little.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

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Tiff, I'm OK. How are you?

I've only seen my social worker once. It's all rather confusing, Social workers, CPNs, Psychiatrists, SHOs...

My parents are not involved with my care team at all. They have no idea who I see or anything like that.

Yep, it's been 2 weeks since my CPN left.

I worry that my GP will think I'm wasting his time. That's why I try to refrain from going to see him.

The Samaritans were pretty useless. My last message that I sent said something like 'I don't know how to make myself feel better. I'm a lost cause.' I didn't even get a reply.

The Crisis Team scare me. The only memories of them I have is when they made me go to hospital. They do know that I'm unlikely to call as they used to call me each evening. I know they do a fantastic job and that I probably should have called them.

I don't really know how I want my life to be

What have you been up to Tiff? How's things with you? Behaving yourself I hope :rolleyes:

Let_Robinson Sing, Awww Cleo was a cutie She lived to a great age. It's so sad when pets pass away/are put to sleep as they become such a huge part of the family.

I hope you enjoy your time with your girlfriend before you fly off on your holiday. Enjoy yourself!

flis21, Don't feel too bad about getting drunk. It's not like you do it everyday. One night of letting your hair down is allowed It sounds like you had a great time and really enjoyed yourself so that's definately a good thing.

I'm sure your OH didn't mind. He probably loved seeing you happy and enjoying yourself.

How was the theatre?

Gillette, Lovely to see you post I hope you're taking good care of yourself hun.

CCStar, (((HUGS))) It sounds like your Mum could perhaps be the root of some of your problems. It sounds like she treats you in the same kind of way that your OH does. Kind of like a young child. Is that true? It seems like she's forgotten that you are in fact an adult with your own ideas about things.

Have you tried talking to your Mum about how she makes you feel? If talking is too difficult, what about a letter?

Sending big (((HUGS))) your way CCStar.

Pumpkin Pie, I hope things are OK with you. Thank you for your advice as well hun. xxx

Rose, I understand what you mean when you say 'I wish I had a broken leg'. With depression it's not usually visible and therefore people don't know what to say. You can feel like no-one cares.

You know Rose, I'm always here for you (((HUGS)))

Lewt, I do agree that medication can just mask the problems but for many of us without the help of medication we might not be here today.

Ethel, I am so glad to hear that you had a lovely day out with your daughter. It sounds like she's doing really well there. You must be so pleased with her

You did well getting all those bargains today hun. Thank God for Pigsback eh :T Oooh chemical straightening sounds kind of scary. Do we get to see a pic of your lovely straight hair when it's done?

What color hair dye did your daughter get?

Bio-Oil is supposed to be good. I've got some but never really used it. Palmers cocoa butter and Dermatix are another two products. You can buy Dermatix but it's very expensive. I think the Doctor can prescribe it too.

I hope everyone else is OK.

xXx