Depression

Tiff_2

:hello: - hi angel! Hang in there - you must be psychic - your essay was going to be next. I'm writing it, I'm writing it! rofl.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hey lady!:hello:
How are you angel? Actually I know cos I was reading it at 1.30a.m.;)

Hiya tiffy...
It's good to have you and your wisdom back again, you're so good at putting things in perspective
Lol - if only I could actually apply some of it to my own life!:rolleyes: :rotfl: I really missed everyone on here. Hope you all enjoyed the peace and quiet.;)

I'm sorry you lost your money.. it's happened to me a fair few times as well and I've learnt now.. I can't afford it. I dunno if ppl can see that we're soft and kind and take advantage or if they can see our vulnerability because of our illnesses and take advantage of that.. both are equally heinous and slightly sinister methinks.
Dad always said "Neither a borrower or a lender be." and I guess I've also finally learned my lesson too. If you can't afford to lose it, don't lend it. Totally agree with what you've said.;)

Sounds like you've got a great psychiciatrist tiffy.. very interesting way of looking at things and it seems very logical too, which from what ive seen is rare among mental health professionals :eek:
My CPN is male too. I am so very lucky with their skills being so very good. What I wrote last night/this morning was how I interpretted the session - like the clothes etc. It takes time to take something away with you, let it mull over (and over!:rolleyes: ) slowly, and if I'm lucky, something will sink in. By recognizing when I'm at a bad point, it takes away the fear iykwim?

I do remember what you said about the fallout, I guess I just wasn't prepared for it to be so awful. The woman I had been seeing for counselling wants to refer me on to adult services... not sure what that means really and also it turns out that she's a consultant psychotherapist, not quite sure what that means apart from that she's not a doctor, lol.
Bless you angel. Any kind of fallout hurts. I think of it like an aftershock. You have been amazingly brave and tenacious with all you've had to deal with ethel.:T You're doing a great job. I'm glad that you're also going to get some support for yourself now. You can't go through all you have recently without some kind of payback sadly. We can only take so much angel.

Being referred to the adult mental health services (sounds scarey but it's not;) ), will be great in getting you some better support. Some people's problems can be solved with some time with a counsellor but others have things happen which make them feel worse and the general counsellor might feel that they can't give you all the support you need.

It's a range of professionals, ranging from counsellors, psychologists, psychiatrists, CPNs (Community Psychiatric Nurse) support workers, etc. who are able to see you regularly and give you some more input. You may have an assessment to find out how best they can help you. This is a really good thing so don't fret hun.

However, because my daughter's consultant is now on leave for 4 weeks, she's going to fill in the DLA stuff when it comes, so that there isn't a delay in the application.
That's really good angel!:T

Big meeting tomorrow again with all the professionals to discuss daughters care plan for the next 6 months or so.. I must admit I'm a bit nervous about it all.
Don't be nervous hun. Tell me if I'm wrong, but is a little bit of it down to the fact that no-one's done their job properly before, so why will they now? Worried that maybe they're just going to saddle you with more than you can handle or have DD home on some visits?

What you must remember hun, is that you don't have to do anything. Don't allow yourself to be bullied angel. They're not there in judgement - by law they have to create a care plan for DD, that's all hun, nothing sinister.
This meeting is a very necessary part of the care plan for DD to make sure she's getting the right help. It's about you being consulted and everyone being brought up to date with DD's care. The agencies work together - and you're a valuable part of that. Hopefully hun, all this is finally going to help DD.:T
And if not, tell them that they don't want to get another Tiff letter!:eek: Still got my pen out.:D
Sorry I've been out of the loop for 5 days hun - I was thinking of you though.;) Good to hear from you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Next please! :rolleyes:
I am sounding a preachy Tiff! I don't mean to be.:o
Got to pop off for a while so you can all come out now. Hopefully we might hear from sazzy - she gets her morning tea around 12.30pm.;) I'm only jealous.:rolleyes:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

hehe.. thanks tiffy.. I'm gonna go get another cuppa and then read properly

btw I was up before you.. I had my post all written and forgot to press send

I slept most of yesterday on and off and then had an early night with b/f so of course I woke up dead early this morning. Grrr.. so much for brekkie in bed n all that, lmfao

Take care tiffy, have a great day and it's soo good to have you back

Lots n lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

EthelBloggs

Tiff wrote: »

Hey lady!:hello:
How are you angel? Actually I know cos I was reading it at 1.30a.m.;)
Don't be nervous hun. Tell me if I'm wrong, but is a little bit of it down to the fact that no-one's done their job properly before, so why will they now? Worried that maybe they're just going to saddle you with more than you can handle or have DD home on some visits?

What you must remember hun, is that you don't have to do anything. Don't allow yourself to be bullied angel. They're not there in judgement - by law they have to create a care plan for DD, that's all hun, nothing sinister.
This meeting is a very necessary part of the care plan for DD to make sure she's getting the right help. It's about you being consulted and everyone being brought up to date with DD's care. The agencies work together - and you're a valuable part of that. Hopefully hun, all this is finally going to help DD.:T
And if not, tell them that they don't want to get another Tiff letter!:eek: Still got my pen out.:D
Sorry I've been out of the loop for 5 days hun - I was thinking of you though.;) Good to hear from you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

hehe... that tiff letter certainly put a rocket under their rses

We had a meeting on friday, with her secure unit consultant and the unit social worker, I've dealt with both of them before and they really are good.. seem to care about what they're doing and the impact it has on the family as well as the patient. I told them that I'm willing to have daughter home for visits.. just not yet.. we all need a break after the ordeal of the last few months and daughter agreed. She also told them that she thinks it wouldn't be good for her to come back and live with me again, because we do tend to pick up on each others moods and at times it gets very negative, but if we don't spend too much time together then we have lots of fun and laugh a lot. So apparenlty they're going to target the care plan towards preparing her for independent living.

Tomorrows meeting will have a lot of officials attending, the 2 i saw on friday, as well as the consultant and team members from the place she just left, the Service manager of our local adolescent mental health team, my psychotherapist, someone from social services, lot of ppl in a small room, lol.

Not quite sure what will happen, as the old consultant recommended she spend 6 months in a secure unit, but the one she's in is an acute crisis unit and they generally only keep people short term, ie less than 3 months.. so I guess that will be a big part of the convo tomororw.. where else would be suitable for her treatment.

Sposed to be going to see her today.. and my mum said she'd come too but I've got a feeling she'll cry off when it comes to it.. can't say I blame her, it's a horrible journey, and I'd rather not have to do it meself.. but i'd feel awful letting her down.

I'm just siting here contemplating the shower and getting meself ready to go, lol

Have a good one everyone, and I hope all of you who are mums get thoroughly spoilt today

xxxxxxxxxxxx

CarolnMalky

Morning honeys...hope we are all reasonably okish today! xx

Not been on much as you may have noticed, just trying to face reality and cope as best I can. Today is hard for me, as I don't talk to my mum (for the best to be honest). Best thing I can do is keep busy and remind myself that its only really another day.

Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday.
Hugs and Fairy dust,
Carol xx

Horasio

Woke too early again and feel crap. Got about 5 hours sleep.

It is 7 weeks now since it's been for sale but feels like forever.

OH being all nice now but that is because I am on the floor emotionally. I bet you when I feel OK or feel good again, he will be withdrawn and cause more emotional drama and bring me back down again. I feel I can't be me without it causing trouble. If I feel good, he brings me down, if I feel low, he shouts and is hurtful. I have never heard of this kind of relationship. I have now got to the stage where I worry about how I feel all the time. Am I feeling too happy or too low? Can anyone explain what this is all about? I try to be strong but it isn't relaxing when I have to watch how I feel all the time, scared of him shouting at me or deflating me. I find it hard to eat as well and do my business. I feel bullied by my whole family. I am under immense pressure to be in the 'right' mood or I get trouble and blamed.

I know it isn't me, OK I have faults but so does anyone else, as when I used to get the place to myself more, I felt fine. I don't get that so much now. Our son is here in the mornings when he is here and I feel invaded. I feel suffocated by this place and how my family treats me. That is why these jokers are adding insult to my injury. Once this place is sold, I will be free to live alone and not have my family constantly make me feel wrong for who I am.

Between this house attracting crazy people (no disrespect to anyone who has problems) and my OH and son's lazy and uncaring behaviour, it is sending me crazy.

Horasio

Twinny99 wrote: »

Tiff wrote: »

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Hi hunnie - I'm home!:j








Bloomin heck Tiff...where did you get that one from :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:



Hi all :hello:

Love to you all, am catching up on messages but wanted to say hi and keep hanging on in there

I wonder if that was the scary cat that screamed at me last night:D

learning_to_drive

Hi Tiff, brilliant to see you back hun, ive missed your posts!

Winky,_The_House_Elf

Thanks everyone especially Tiff,

I forgot Mothers Day. Until my mother rang. She lives in Majorca, and called to say that my sister had called from her holiday in St Lucia and that she was worried that it was mid-day and I hadn't rang.

I burst into tears. I told her I was having a bad day and I felt pathetic. I didn't want to upset her, and ruin Mothers day. I palmed it off as PMT. My dad called back half an hour later and I had pulled myself together. We chatted about silly stuff like gardening.

I thought I was coping quite nicely. After a while the bad luck doesn't hit you so hard, as you think " well I expected nothing less."

I am feeling much more positive now. Thanks for the suggestion of the samaritans last night. Although I was no where near needing them, it really helped knowing that if I wanted to speak to someone there was an option.

I have a fab GP, who was helping with fertilty problems until I split up with my ex (Yep another issue) and she has had the receptionist ring me from time to time to see if I want to come in to see her. I don't know of any other GP that takes time to do that. I will make an appointment. Just can't do it for tommorrow.

I know all the warning signs, and whilst I am at melt down point, as many of you will recognise it comes in waves. One minute I can take on the world, the next lifting the duvet seems impossible.

I wont try and fight this alone. In the past strong family and friends have helped (As well as ads) Its just this year I have soldiered on and not asked for help... well I thought I didn't need it! DOH!

In fact getting it all off my chest on here helped so much, so can I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart. It helped to say say "yes this happened to me-S*** isn't it!" and start to accept that I am not superwoman.

Cheers, I hope you are all having not too rough a day

Winky x x x