Depression

Horasio

Hi guys

We have the board back after the night's maintenance:)

I need to rant and need to know what I can do about a situation or two.

1.The kids were yelping in the dark in their garden between 6.30/7pm till 7.30pm/9pm Tuesday and Wednesday evenings. It is the time we would have weekday viewings. We were out last night but worried this is going to start up again and drive away any viewings we could have. It disturbs us too, it is really loud and people letting their kids play in the dark and cold seems odd too. I am dreading the light evenings.

2. Our son not looking for PT work and sponging off us. He does do some uni work and hangs around the house all morning, in bed, and the rest of time hangs around with his mates. My OH does nothing about it and my mother, who usually has clout, is doing nothing either. If I do owt, I get ganged up on and told, he's a boy. Yet, I can't have a hissy fit about things which I have every right too. I get it in the neck for feeling angry and being less than perfect!:mad: It was the same when I 19 as well. I have to endure and I cannot be 'naughty'.

I notice I am not being friendly to people now when I am out, I'm not rude but feeling I am being quiet and selfish towards people. I'm not taking BS.

3. Why are people coming to our house, gushing about how much they love the place and doing nothing about it.

So another day being subjected to 50 forms of torture in store for me.

Horasio

learning_to_drive wrote: »

Gilly son, hope you are feeling better, you did the right thing, you are stressing and panicking hence why the knowledge wont go in, because you are panicking you are worrying about more stuff and worrying that you dont know what the score is with anything. Not true!

You will be fine, you have followed a plan, you posted the other day saying that you had done some old exam papers and that you were feeling better, if you have prep'd all you can, then well done, you can do no more.

Dont work yourself up about it, it sounds like you have done more than enough revision.

Are people still taking those antiquated dumb things called exams. Man made stress makers I call them. I always drop a mark and find you need to have a good memory for facts - they are a memory test. In real life, you look it up.

Horasio

It is not directly affecting me but hearing about a train strike in Scotland is really irritating me. They strike over anything and because awkward asssss's.

I understand it if it is over major issues but a length of a break and other petty issues really makes me lose respect for them.

Let_Robinson_Sing

CCStar wrote: »

Are people still taking those antiquated dumb things called exams. Man made stress makers I call them. I always drop a mark and find you need to have a good memory for facts - they are a memory test. In real life, you look it up.

Yes sadly, exams still exist. In fact I really should go and pick up nd iy results from college, but I really cant be bothered as i KNOW i've done !!!!!! in my exams. I know that the teachers with have a go at me, my parents will look down on me and i'll feel like crap.

I have such a bad memory i have started revising for my june exams as of NOW :mad: :mad: :mad:

I am sorry CCStar about all the goings on with house. hun it wont be long until someone puts an offer in. Is it not possible to have people look around when the kids aren't around like in the day time when it's nice. However i guess other people have other things to do. But what you could say is "oh sorry we have got a lot of people coming this evening can you come at 1pm?" that may help

Pink_butterfly_3

Hi CCstar, sorry your feeling so low!

Its very difficult when your selling your house. No-one seems to want to be honest with you, including the Estate Agents! What sort of feedback do they give you? How long has your house been on the market for? If its been for a while, then maybe you could think about changing Estate Agents, or listing it with a second agent. Is your house on rightmove? What are the pictures like and are you happy with them? I have to say that we were guilty of saying we liked a house if the owners showed us round as its very difficult to tell someone that you don't like their decor etc. etc. I suppose you would like someone to be honest with you and get some constructive feedback but at the end of the day, thats what the Estate Agent is there for. If they don't hear back from a potential buyer then its their job to chase them up to find out what the problem is.

Your son, is he 19?? I'm only a few years older than him, but at his age I was working full-time and had my own place. As soon as i turned 16 my mum made me start paying a monthly rent to live there! Its going to be difficult for you to do anything if you don't have the support of your OH. You need to talk to him. If hes not going to be paying rent then he at least needs to be helping around the house, doing his own washing etc. Kids (and boys epecially) are incredibly lazy and will, if you let them, sit on their bums and let you do everything for them. My DH lived with his parents until we moved in together a few years ago and he is 31! They cooked his meals and did his washing and he loved it! Unfortunately he got a short sharp shock when he moved in with me as I am no-ones scivvy!

You don't need to feel like you have to be friendly to everyone all the time. We're all allowed to have our bad days. You've got alot on your plate at the moment, do look after yourself and don't worry what other people think.

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote: »

It is not directly affecting me but hearing about a train strike in Scotland is really irritating me. They strike over anything and because awkward asssss's.

I understand it if it is over major issues but a length of a break and other petty issues really makes me lose respect for them.

Unfortunately CC.. the length of a break is vitally important for bus and train drivers. If they haven't had time to have something to eat, go to the loo and recharge their batteries and then have an accident, how many people could potentially be killed/injured, not to mention the chaos it would cause throughout the whole transport system.

Sometimes they DO strike over stupid stuff, but this isn't one of them. Bear in mind I've not seen the news or read the paper so I dunno exactly what's going on

Let_Robinson_Sing

Pink_butterfly wrote: »

Your son, is he 19?? I'm only a few years older than him, but at his age I was working full-time and had my own place. As soon as i turned 16 my mum made me start paying a monthly rent to live there! Its going to be difficult for you to do anything if you don't have the support of your OH. You need to talk to him. If hes not going to be paying rent then he at least needs to be helping around the house, doing his own washing etc. Kids (and boys epecially) are incredibly lazy and will, if you let them, sit on their bums and let you do everything for them. QUOTE]

:eek: I am very lucky that i didnt have to pay board when i was working PT as i was nearly pulling in as much as my mum :rotfl: I can sympathise with CCStar's sun a little bit because uni and college work are very important and one factor that made me leave my job was college work, that and being bullied and harassed my manager etc.

I disagree a bit with saying that boys are lazy, i think you're generalising a bit 'too' much there. My as well as college work which was 30 hours per week i used to do 23 hours a week (then it went down to 19 hours.) so not all us boys are lazy But yes some of them are

Pink_butterfly_3

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

I can sympathise with CCStar's sun a little bit because uni and college work are very important and one factor that made me leave my job was college work, that and being bullied and harassed my manager etc.

I disagree a bit with saying that boys are lazy, i think you're generalising a bit 'too' much there. My as well as college work which was 30 hours per week i used to do 23 hours a week (then it went down to 19 hours.) so not all us boys are lazy But yes some of them are

Well, maybe we'll have to agree to disagree in this point You must be a rare one, all the boys/men i know are as lazy as anything.

I can understand what you say about college work etc. but i'm doing a degree as well as looking after my two babies, keeping my house and i'm going to start some part-time work soon also (:eek: ). So i can see what your saying, but i don't think thats its an excuse to do nothing either.

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Unfortunately CC.. the length of a break is vitally important for bus and train drivers. If they haven't had time to have something to eat, go to the loo and recharge their batteries and then have an accident, how many people could potentially be killed/injured, not to mention the chaos it would cause throughout the whole transport system.

Sometimes they DO strike over stupid stuff, but this isn't one of them. Bear in mind I've not seen the news or read the paper so I dunno exactly what's going on

It is only in Scotland just now it is chaos just now. I see what you are saying but feel they are bloody minded about it and it affects so many people who depend on them. If someone has to be bloody minded then no-one is listening and realise they are frustrated but I was bought up with strikes in the 70s and they would strike over almost anything - I do however agree with fair rights and conditions but it got ridiculous.

Deep down it is to do with a low morale, rather than anything else and bad managers who don't listen.

Let_Robinson_Sing

Pink_butterfly wrote: »

Well, maybe we'll have to agree to disagree in this point You must be a rare one, all the boys/men i know are as lazy as anything.

I can understand what you say about college work etc. but i'm doing a degree as well as looking after my two babies, keeping my house and i'm going to start some part-time work soon also (:eek: ). So i can see what your saying, but i don't think thats its an excuse to do nothing either.

I guess for you thought there is an incentive for work as you want to be debt free. But make no mistake about it I am off to uni to do a law degree :eek: this september and I am going to be moving in with OH who is disabled. so I'll have to work as well just to keep us in the black really. then after uni i need £9000 :eek: :mad: to do the Barrister Vocational Course, So i have an incentive to work whilst at uni.