Depression

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Pink_butterfly wrote: »

Hi CCstar, sorry your feeling so low!

Its very difficult when your selling your house. No-one seems to want to be honest with you, including the Estate Agents! What sort of feedback do they give you? How long has your house been on the market for? If its been for a while, then maybe you could think about changing Estate Agents, or listing it with a second agent. Is your house on rightmove? What are the pictures like and are you happy with them? I have to say that we were guilty of saying we liked a house if the owners showed us round as its very difficult to tell someone that you don't like their decor etc. etc. I suppose you would like someone to be honest with you and get some constructive feedback but at the end of the day, thats what the Estate Agent is there for. If they don't hear back from a potential buyer then its their job to chase them up to find out what the problem is.

Your son, is he 19?? I'm only a few years older than him, but at his age I was working full-time and had my own place. As soon as i turned 16 my mum made me start paying a monthly rent to live there! Its going to be difficult for you to do anything if you don't have the support of your OH. You need to talk to him. If hes not going to be paying rent then he at least needs to be helping around the house, doing his own washing etc. Kids (and boys epecially) are incredibly lazy and will, if you let them, sit on their bums and let you do everything for them. My DH lived with his parents until we moved in together a few years ago and he is 31! They cooked his meals and did his washing and he loved it! Unfortunately he got a short sharp shock when he moved in with me as I am no-ones scivvy!

You don't need to feel like you have to be friendly to everyone all the time. We're all allowed to have our bad days. You've got alot on your plate at the moment, do look after yourself and don't worry what other people think.

I got one person saying our decor was tired but we feel they couldn't afford the place and was bitter. The pictures are fabulous and show the place off really well. The walls are light and the decor is neutral. We have added splashs of colour in the accessories just like the programmes say to do. We used her before and it sold fairly quickly. She is tactfully honest and she did suggest things to us before we put it on the market which we did. She is chasing people but you don't want to be a pest or seem desperate.

What is doing my nut is people really gushing over it and doing nothing:mad: and now the kids are yelping. I don't like to do daytime viewings alone and most people tend to go for early evenings and will do more when it gets light next month.

I had left home by 19 and looking after myself. He is supposed to be at FT uni but it seems like PT hours. I don't mind running the house and he will have to do it all himself when he leaves, he does know how to do it. I just want him to get a PT job and be more responsible. MY OH and mother agree with me but won't do anything about it and they have far more clout than I do.

I feel trapped, I want to be free from this shackles of this house and either get a place of my own or get a place that is more suitable for our lifestyle. Our son is wanting to leave home but can't afford to and not having a job isn't likely to let him.

I feel I have to sit and watch my life go nowhere:(

Pink_butterfly_3

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

I guess for you thought there is an incentive for work as you want to be debt free. But make no mistake about it I am off to uni to do a law degree :eek: this september and I am going to be moving in with OH who is disabled. so I'll have to work as well just to keep us in the black really. then after uni i need £9000 :eek: :mad: to do the Barrister Vocational Course, So i have an incentive to work whilst at uni.

I'm doing a degree in Health & Social Care as I really want to be a Social Worker. Law has always interested me though, it was something i would've quite liked to have done. I can fancy myself as a barrister, m'lud and all that!!!

Luckily for us, DH earns a good wage which supports us, but it can get a bit difficult sometimes when the only conversation you have is with two babies! I talk DH to death when he comes home and i even found myself chatting to a couple of mormons for 20 minutes the other day!! It will be nice to get into the real world, so to speak, and interact with other adults!

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the thins is CCStar hun is if he doesnt pull his weight at uni, he's going to end up with a poor grades and will end up in a nothing job. So it will be all 100% his fault. Uni is the most important thing for him to do at the moment, lets hope he grows up a bit a realises this.

Let_Robinson_Sing

Pink_butterfly wrote: »

I'm doing a degree in Health & Social Care as I really want to be a Social Worker. Law has always interested me though, it was something i would've quite liked to have done. I can fancy myself as a barrister, m'lud and all that!!!

Luckily for us, DH earns a good wage which supports us, but it can get a bit difficult sometimes when the only conversation you have is with two babies! I talk DH to death when he comes home and i even found myself chatting to a couple of mormons for 20 minutes the other day!! It will be nice to get into the real world, so to speak, and interact with other adults!

i cant wait until I am studying law at uni but one thing i am concerned about is that often most barristers are posh toff's :mad: who have no idea what the real world is like and i feel they are going to look down on me because of my background. thats the only little thing that scares me about uni.

Horasio

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

Pink_butterfly wrote: »

Your son, is he 19?? I'm only a few years older than him, but at his age I was working full-time and had my own place. As soon as i turned 16 my mum made me start paying a monthly rent to live there! Its going to be difficult for you to do anything if you don't have the support of your OH. You need to talk to him. If hes not going to be paying rent then he at least needs to be helping around the house, doing his own washing etc. Kids (and boys epecially) are incredibly lazy and will, if you let them, sit on their bums and let you do everything for them. QUOTE]

:eek: I am very lucky that i didnt have to pay board when i was working PT as i was nearly pulling in as much as my mum :rotfl: I can sympathise with CCStar's sun a little bit because uni and college work are very important and one factor that made me leave my job was college work, that and being bullied and harassed my manager etc.

I disagree a bit with saying that boys are lazy, i think you're generalising a bit 'too' much there. My as well as college work which was 30 hours per week i used to do 23 hours a week (then it went down to 19 hours.) so not all us boys are lazy But yes some of them are

You sound to be a very mature teenager. I see plenty around and want to adopt them instead:D

What gets my goat is he moans about the house rules and us getting angry when they get broken, wants to leave home but doing nothing about it. His life balance is too much socialising and not enough uni work or paid work. If he left home, he would have to work. We even pay for his car for uni as it was just as much to catch the bus and he had to catch two busses to get there. It will be interesting in August when the tax and insurance are due. No-one is going to pay!

He used to be very helpful and friendly, and earned his goodies, so don't accuse me of spoiling him., but since uni, he has become a selfish pig and I hate being treated badly in my home. I also hate my family for doing nothing about it, yet jumping down my throat for being a human being and not being very friendly, and they were just as picky towards me at 19 too:(

Horasio

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

i cant wait until I am studying law at uni but one thing i am concerned about is that often most barristers are posh toff's :mad: who have no idea what the real world is like and i feel they are going to look down on me because of my background. thats the only little thing that scares me about uni.

Where are you thinking of studying. Oxbridge is really strange and yes they aren't in this world at all!

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CCStar wrote: »

Where are you thinking of studying. Oxbridge is really strange and yes they aren't in this world at all!

University of West England in Bristol

Let_Robinson_Sing

right folks

I am off to college

much love

xxxx

Pink_butterfly_3

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

University of West England in Bristol

Oooh, you'll only be down the road from me!!! Have a fun day xxxx

blinky

CCStar wrote: »

Oxbridge is really strange and yes they aren't in this world at all!

Very true - though I think Oxford is a bit more real world than Cambridge. Cambridge can be very strange.