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There's a parent and child loo in Vallitown. One door with an adult and a child sized loo (and loads of room). Thing is though, it's near the gents so not a lot of mums know about it!It's difficult isn't it? Perhaps use the disabled toilet? I really don't know what would be appropriate.Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY"I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily Dickinson
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Lotus-eater wrote: »I use the disabled toilet with my 2 sometimes. I have an 8 and 2 year old, I can't take the 8 year old girl into the mens, but I must admit I don't like leaving her outside on her own, especially if I have the 2 yr old with me, which I do have to take into the mens, but it takes me longer to do it with him, which means the DD is outside longer.
Yet last time I came out of the disabled toilet with them both, I got a nasty look and "you've been long enough, nice disability!" from a young guy in a wheelchair.
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I would just have told him that it was the only option available until family toilets are available.
Although really family toilets would create a whole load of problems!If you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in
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I was in a queue at the council tax office a while back and some little lad needed the loo so his mum told him to go in the ladies while she was in the queue (she was near the toilets and could see), as he was going in the security guard stopped him and told him he had to use the mens, well the security guard got a telling off from the mum, and rightly so!If you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in0
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I was in a queue at the council tax office a while back and some little lad needed the loo so his mum told him to go in the ladies while she was in the queue (she was near the toilets and could see), as he was going in the security guard stopped him and told him he had to use the mens, well the security guard got a telling off from the mum, and rightly so!
Why?
No seriously I don't understand why the mum would have got upset at the son being asked to use the men's toilet.2014 Target;
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mountainofdebt wrote: »Why?
No seriously I don't understand why the mum would have got upset at the son being asked to use the men's toilet.
Because it was not the place of the security guard to be telling a little boy he can't go into the ladies toilets or to go into the mens.If you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in0 -
i personally don't really see a problem in leaving an 8 and 6 year old on their own for a few minutes tbh. i don't know if i would have asked the lorry driver or not though.
i don't really understand why the mil didn't say where she was going?
the other day i totally shocked my friend by telling her that i left my 2 children 4 + 8 in the car on the drive way while i nipped back in to grab our coats from by the front door:eek: (it is about 4 steps from the car and then one foot in the house reach round and grab the coats) she said she would never have done that but would have got them out of the car agian:rotfl::rotfl:
my daughter knows about 'stranger danger', (in fact my 4 year old has been told as well, although i wouldn't trust him just yet!) i've told her that i would never ever ask anyone she didn't know to take her anywhere, pick her up from school if i was late etc. we talk about people she can trust/go with if i'm ever late (grandparents / my brother / her best friends mum..) we also talk about what to do if they get seperated from me / lost when we're out and who is safe to go to for help. i think if your son is 6 he really should know this by now.0 -
What problems?Although really family toilets would create a whole load of problems!
Rightly so?I was in a queue at the council tax office a while back and some little lad needed the loo so his mum told him to go in the ladies while she was in the queue (she was near the toilets and could see), as he was going in the security guard stopped him and told him he had to use the mens, well the security guard got a telling off from the mum, and rightly so!
What difference to the child which toilets he went in to?
The security guard would be expected to stop a young girl going in to the male toilets I presume? What's the difference here?Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0 -
Lotus-eater wrote: »What problems?
Rightly so?
What difference to the child which toilets he went in to?
The security guard would be expected to stop a young girl going in to the male toilets I presume? What's the difference here?
The mum had told him which toilet to go into, the security guard then told him he wasn't allowed in the ladies toilets when I believe (by law) he was? (I've got it in my head it's up to 8 years?).
I would certainly feel better with my son using the ladies, it's much more private, the men's toilets are too 'open'.
With regards to family toilets, if we had them everywhere they would just be abused I would imagine.If you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in0 -
Too open? Mens toilets do have cubicles you know. See below.The mum had told him which toilet to go into, the security guard then told him he wasn't allowed in the ladies toilets when I believe (by law) he was? (I've got it in my head it's up to 8 years?).
I would certainly feel better with my son using the ladies, it's much more private, the men's toilets are too 'open'.
With regards to family toilets, if we had them everywhere they would just be abused I would imagine.
I can't believe you would want an 8 year old boy to use the ladies loos! Poor thing, no wonder so many boys can't use the bowls on the wall to pee into, (see above) cos they're too embarrassed you see.
I wouldn't even dream of getting my 8 year old daughter to come into the mens with me, but of course that's different I suppose, because it's a girl going into the degenerate sex's toilet.Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0 -
I didn't realise there was an age range for kids being allowed in different sex toilets. If I'm out in town with the kids we tend to use Debenhams as they have a family toilet, but have on occasions used the disabled toilets. I know that when my hubby is out with the kids (2 girls) if they need the loo he will use a disabled toilet or take them in the gents - I haven't got a problem with girls being in the gents, they know the physical differnences between male and female and know that boys wee standing up, I haven't been in a gents toilet for a few years but didn't imagine there was much more happening in there than in the ladies:rotfl:0
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