Would you be happy with 1 child?

Samsaragirl

When the only child gets to their 40's and has to care for two ill parents it isn't good. I am an only child and I would never have just one child ever....Too much for one person to deal with on their own, but then everyone's story is different

peachyprice

Samsaragirl wrote: »

When the only child gets to their 40's and has to care for two ill parents it isn't good. I am an only child and I would never have just one child ever....Too much for one person to deal with on their own, but then everyone's story is different

You assume just because a person has siblings they would help out with elderly parents, sadly thi isn't the case.

I have a brother, he lives in Australia, he sure as hell won't be here when my parents are old, so it's down to me, same as if my parents had stayed in Australia instead of coming back last year I sure as hell wouldn't be moving there when they got old, it would have been down to him.

balletshoes

anything can happen in our/our children's future - my Dad died before I reached my 40s.

Samsaragirl

peachyprice wrote: »

You assume just because a person has siblings they would help out with elderly parents, sadly thi isn't the case.

I have a brother, he lives in Australia, he sure as hell won't be here when my parents are old, so it's down to me, same as if my parents had stayed in Australia instead of coming back last year I sure as hell wouldn't be moving there when they got old, it would have been down to him.

No, but at least ther is someone to share the burden with, and if they choose to refuse, then that's up to the family dynamics. I have no choice.

Samsaragirl

I't's not about who does what, it's about who feels the burden

Samsaragirl

And, can I say, my dad was chasing people round his bed in his mind today, they were on the 'chandalier' (li9ght fitting', then had to take the battery out of the clock cos the second hand was bugging him(he head bad eyesight befiore his stroke). We all dance in circles around him every day, and have to laugh or we'd cry. That's mty beautiful Dad who used to get me up early to forage for mushrooms, the same dad who gave me away at ny wedding. Used to call ne 'spud'.

Iam so blessed that I am his only daughter, even though he does not remember my name now, 'whatshername'?

Do you not think that klove is best shared so one person can shift emotional responsibility for an hour at least?

CH27

Samsaragirl wrote: »

When the only child gets to their 40's and has to care for two ill parents it isn't good. I am an only child and I would never have just one child ever....Too much for one person to deal with on their own, but then everyone's story is different

I have a sister. when mum was dying she did diddly squat.
When dad has been ill she has done diddly squat.
She expects to be kept informed of the situation & her wishes pandered to though. She lives with dad.

It would be far easier if I was an only child.