his wedding, my son is barely invited.

Zoetoes

OP just wondering how you are getting on with this?

Emmzi

Zoetoes wrote: »

OP just wondering how you are getting on with this?

OP gave an update in post 217 but as most folks were too bogged down in their own tales of ex-woe and CSA to give her any feedback I'll be surprised if she is back for a while....

3v3

Emmzi wrote: »

OP gave an update in post 217 but as most folks were too bogged down in their own tales of ex-woe and CSA to give her any feedback I'll be surprised if she is back for a while....

Zoe read it yesterday (and "thanked" it), so I'm assuming Zoe is asking if the Dad/work have come back to her yet?

Marisco

Emmzi wrote: »

OP gave an update in post 217 but as most folks were too bogged down in their own tales of ex-woe and CSA to give her any feedback I'll be surprised if she is back for a while....

There is no feedback she can be given! She is waiting for ex to sort things out, and waiting for workmate to say if they can do her shift. So until we know the outcome of the above, and her reaction to them, we cannot really say any more.

Reverbe

Emmzi wrote: »

OP gave an update in post 217 but as most folks were too bogged down in their own tales of ex-woe and CSA to give her any feedback I'll be surprised if she is back for a while....

I'm sure she will be back soon on one of her moviles to find more reasons why she cant implement any of the countless solutions offered by MSErs here..:cool:

cue comments on morning after pill, abortion options, dad being a taxi driver etc etc:undecided:undecided:whistle:

LolaLemon

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cue comments on morning after pill, abortion options, dad being a taxi driver etc etc:undecided:undecided:whistle:[/QUOTE]

Why?


Sons dads fone has broke, which he told me when he picked son up on Friday, I have no way to contact him until he decides to get in touch, which will probably be on Friday when he's looking to see where son will b at pick up time.

Reverbe

LolaLemon wrote: »

Why?


Sons dads fone has broke, which he told me when he picked son up on Friday, I have no way to contact him until he decides to get in touch, which will probably be on Friday when he's looking to see where son will b at pick up time.

Erm landline, work number, wife to bes mobile, no email address either??? I wouldnt be too keen to hand over a child for weekend access to someone who is apparently uncontactable...what would happen if there was any emergency.. like if you had an accident and god forbid was seriously injured or even killed..
:cool::think::whistle::whistle:

LolaLemon

Reverbe wrote: »

Erm landline, work number, wife to bes mobile, no email address either??? I wouldnt be too keen to hand over a child for weekend access to someone who is apparently uncontactable...what would happen if there was any emergency.. like if you had an accident and god forbid was seriously injured or even killed..
:cool::think::whistle::whistle:

I don't hand my son over for the weekend.

I have had that argument with him b4, when son was a baby and he would claim to have left fone at home, and not get back to me for days.

Not everyone has a landline, mine is not even plugged in.
In an emergency, emails would be the last thing I'd be thinking of. I know he doesn't use emails, so is pointless me even trying that route.


He doesn't contact son through the week ever. But I'm sure if it means that much to him, he will get intouch, although I will most likely have to bring the subject up again.

clearingout

Reverbe wrote: »

Erm landline, work number, wife to bes mobile, no email address either??? I wouldnt be too keen to hand over a child for weekend access to someone who is apparently uncontactable...what would happen if there was any emergency.. like if you had an accident and god forbid was seriously injured or even killed..
:cool::think::whistle::whistle:

Unfortunately, the law is very woolly on the issue of addresses, landline phones, and contact details generally and it is perfectly possible for a judge to order that an adult has a right to a private life and you have to send your children off into the ether with no idea where they are or who they are with! I am currently in the position of having to send my children 250 miles away (and they are all under 7 so don't have their own mobile phones) to an address I know full well my ex doesn't live at (it's his mums, he doesn't live there), without a landline and an ex who will quite deliberately turn his mobile off when he has the children so if something were to happen, yes, it would be difficult to get in contact. If I don't send them, I am blocking contact with their father which is not acceptable, is it?

Unless you have been there, it is very, very difficult to comprehend how daft some people can be when relationships break down and how the need to control very situation fully overtakes any common sense, decency or respect for an adult you were once happy to be very intimate with.

Zoetoes

clearingout wrote: »

Unfortunately, the law is very woolly on the issue of addresses, landline phones, and contact details generally and it is perfectly possible for a judge to order that an adult has a right to a private life and you have to send your children off into the ether with no idea where they are or who they are with! I am currently in the position of having to send my children 250 miles away (and they are all under 7 so don't have their own mobile phones) to an address I know full well my ex doesn't live at (it's his mums, he doesn't live there), without a landline and an ex who will quite deliberately turn his mobile off when he has the children so if something were to happen, yes, it would be difficult to get in contact. If I don't send them, I am blocking contact with their father which is not acceptable, is it?

Unless you have been there, it is very, very difficult to comprehend how daft some people can be when relationships break down and how the need to control very situation fully overtakes any common sense, decency or respect for an adult you were once happy to be very intimate with.

That is a really horrible situation to be in, separated parents have to communicate surely? And especially while he has the kids. Is he able to contact you when you have them?

What about if you got stuck in a traffic jam and were going to be late for him to see them, you can't ring him?