Who should pay for dresses?

claire16c

For those people who make a bridesmaid pay for their own dress, what about if every bride did that?

One of my friends must have been a bridesmaid about 5 or 6 times in the past couple of years! But lucky for her all of the brides paid.

elvis86

skintmumof2 wrote: »

Im being a bridesmaid next year for the first time. My dress is £140. I think i was expected to pay for it so i said i can not afford it so wouldnt be bridesmaid then they (family) offered to pay for it. They have paid for my daughters BM dress but we have to pay for my partners groomsmen suit hire £89 and my 5 year old sons suit hire at £79!! I dont think its fair they pay for my daughters but not for my sons but do i say so? As i dont want to cause arguements. Weddings are really expensive thats why my partner and i have never married, and dont look lik we will with all these family weddings and having to pay for outfits!

I think it's disgusting that you've been emotionally blackmailed into buying stuff you can't afford. But seeing as you were, you should have said, "I'm afraid we can't afford the expense of bridesmaids'/groomsmens' outfits, but we will look forward to attending your day as guests".