Weekly Flylady Thread 8th August 2011

vanilla

pigpen wrote: »

There are plenty of places he can live on his own with daily support from the people who are paid to help others in situations like this. he isnt the first and he will be far from the last.. but as long as these people think someone is daft enough to do their job for them.. ie.. YOU.. they wont provide anything.

There are blocks of flats here filled with smack heads and ex/prostitutes and other unsavoury sorts you wouldnt want your child to become and many of them have mental health issues to boot.. I think most would have to have them to end up there in the first place.. he is no different to any of them.. he has a myriad of issues which all need support and unless he is willing to ask for that help himself and accept it he wont change.. not ever.

Regardless of whether you love him, his parents love him, the children love him.. he needs to do this himself.

Thanks piggers, i know your all right and i do know of a block of flats that are used for people with mental health problem and a nurse is always pressent in the building plus nobody can get in unless the staff allow it. So if he went there and chose to go to places he shouldn't then it would be his own doing. I'll ask the CPN about it next week and see if they would offer it to KH, then it's up to him weather he takes it or now.

Natty68

Afternoon everyone,

Hope everyone is doing okay. I've had a bit of a funny couple of days - mainly a case of CBA's Thankfully it seems to have passed to some degree although I have still got haven't got my full GUAG back

But I have been very positive this afternoon and completely gutted my cooker inside and out, both top and bottom ovens. I've even cleaned all the glass inside the doors and the shelves. And threw away all tatty cooking trays and replaced them with the new ones that were still in the wrapping from when we bought them before Christmas I felt so happy with the cooker that I decided to make myself some cheese on toast. I haven't had this for at least a year if not more as I didn't like to use the grill. Oooh I have never tasted something so good, it was thoroughly enjoyable I can tell you

I had another case of someone changing plans without telling me yesterday, after therapy, and I will admit I saw red. And really let them have it both barrels :mad: It was one of the girls in my group, and she had already arranged for me to take her home afterwards well she didn't tell me that she was going to stay to lunch in the canteen with one of the other girls. Well me like a silly twit I am was waiting for her in reception as I knew she was following us. When she didn't turn up I looked for her, then ended up in the canteen where she was happily queueing up for lunch with this other girl. Afraid that was like a red rag to me - I ended up telling her what I thought of her, how selfish she was and how she was a bit hypocritcal as she had only been talking about being let down and how it made her feel when people didn't turn up etc, in therapy. And she does the exact same thing to me. Well I told her that I wouldn't be taking her to group anymore, or taking her home afterwards. Afraid I got a bit childish after that and basically said that as she was so pally with this other girl she could get them to bring her and take her home - which I am sure would go down with this girls mother who brings her in - NOT!! I was fuming afterwards and drove home with my music on full blast, the windows wide open and speeding over the humps in one of the side roads out. I know stupid of me, but I was not in a good mood - I texted my mate T that I was in a foul mood and she ended up taking me out for the afternoon with her and we gorged on cream cakes afterwards.. I felt heaps better!!:rotfl:

poohbear59 wrote: »

When I was a teenager I hated the things my dad did. Now I am doing them. But mine are 52, 51, 25, 22, 21!!

poohbear please tell me I read that wrong, and going totally fruitloop, and you don't have two children aged 52 and 51yrs? For some reason I can't imagine you with children that age

LameWolf wrote: »

Thanks, I'm OK while I have canine guests.:D Though I realise I've spent the last week running on caffeine and adrenaline - flaked out til gone 11 when Mr LW left for work; while Louie was staying, I'd have had 2 caffeine tablets, a glass of Red Bull, taken him for a 45 minute walk and be on my 2nd mug of coffee by now!! Still, ed will be arriving tomorrow afternoon, so that's good.:D

I know what you mean about people changing things with little/no notice - I'd be spitting neutrinos if that was me!:mad:

Oooh I'm so pleased it isn't just me that needs caffeine tablets to get going during the day. Hubby reakons I have shares in ProPlus at the moment..lol. Although I do only take them in the morning and not during the day..but I am bad as I found two weren't working with my medication so I am now taking 4 in the morning. Still it does help me get energetic in the mornings and do stuff..lol Also it stops me falling asleep for no reason at all.. I can then rest during the afternoon in front of trashy tv with various bits I can do while sitting down.

Vanilla sweetie I have sent you a pm Stay strong, I cannot add anything more to what the others have said just that we are all here for you xxx

[FONT=&quot]Monday - Sitting Room and Hallway [FONT=&quot]
Level One
Vacuum floors and sofas!
Level Two
Clean any ornaments, glass, mirrors, pictures etc
Level Three
Wipe sofas, paintwork and dusty places

Extras[/FONT][/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]Tuesday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
[FONT=&quot]Level One[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Two
Level Three

Extras [/FONT][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]
Wednesday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area[FONT=&quot]
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
Level Two
Level Three
defragment your pc while doing this.

Extra [/FONT][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]
Thursday ~ Master Bedroom & Landing[FONT=&quot]
[/FONT][FONT=&quot]Level 1 [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
[/FONT][FONT=&quot]Declutter the floor[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
[/FONT][FONT=&quot]Remove and wash bed linen. replace before bedtime!!![/FONT][FONT=&quot]
[/FONT][FONT=&quot]Level 2[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Dust surfaces & make sure no cobwebs.. [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Wash windows and nets/curtains
[/FONT][FONT=&quot]15 minutes floordrobe clearance [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Level 3
Vacuum floors in bedroom and on landing

Extras[/FONT][/FONT]

1. [FONT=&quot]Wipe grotty paintwork.. touch up any bits that are looking shabby[/FONT]
2. [FONT=&quot]Wash windows [/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]Friday - Anything else that hasn't been done that needs doing!![FONT=&quot]
Level One
Clear the floor!!!
vacuum the floor
Make half an hour to do something for yourself!
Level Two
Strip the bedding get it washed and remake the bed
Wash windows
Binbag dance (doesn't have to be in one room it can be from all over the house!)
Level Three
tidy the cupboards /drawers of clothes
Sort through a box of toys/gibble
Wipe grotty marks from the walls and paintwork

Extras[/FONT][/FONT]

1. [FONT=&quot]Clean out any pongy pets[/FONT]
2. [FONT=&quot]dust the light fittings/curtain poles etc[/FONT]
3. [FONT=&quot]HHI[/FONT]
4. [FONT=&quot]HHC in a room that needs lots of attention!![/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]

[FONT=&quot]Natty’s List:[/FONT][/FONT]

• [FONT=&quot]Check emails[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Make bed[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Wash up[/FONT]
  
• [FONT=&quot]Check emails[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Pay bills online if needed.[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Dust l.room[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Order veg box for next week's delivery
  [/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]5 mins tidy up living room[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Fold up clean dry washing[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Make shepherds pie for tea tonight - have already cooked the mince just need to top it with potatoes [/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Lunch[/FONT]
  
• [FONT=&quot]S&S kitchen[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Hot spot l.room[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Darn D’s socks[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Write letter to L[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Write birthday card to R - post today[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Write letter/email to N[/FONT]
• [FONT=&quot]Filing[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]

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mummyroysof3

argh why did i think it would be easy to empty the living room to have new flooring done...hope its dry in morn so kids can play outside instead of all in one room

tboo

Friday - childrens rooms and spare room
Level One
[STRIKE]Clear the floor!!!
vacuum the floor
Make half an hour to do something for yourself![/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Strip the bedding get it washed and remake the bed[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash windows[/STRIKE]
Binbag dance (doesn't have to be in one room it can be from all over the house!)
Level Three
tidy the cupboards /drawers of clothes
Sort through a box of toys/gibble
Wipe grotty marks from the walls and paintwork

Extras

1. Clean out any pongy pets
2. dust the light fittings/curtain poles etc
3. HHI
4. HHC in a room that needs lots of attention!!

wm x 1 dw x 1

wendywitch

Mummyroysof3 I noticed you're studying with the O.U. I've just completed DD101, let me know how you find it

pigpen

Children gone until Sunday!!! Thank f*** for that... do you remember when I used to miss them???? lol DD3 got a bawling out before he left .. he is going to be getting a smack in the mouth if he carries on speaking to me in such a manner.. horrid little maggot!

DW reloaded
WM x2 on again.. that is 4 load today but I am down to 1 basket full now
2 loads on the line and a load of undies in the TD

I like my new windows... they are see through and everything.. no spiders, no bird poo... love them! DD2 thinks we have given her the earth giving her a window that opens.. bless her, she is easy pleased!

Squeak had nectarine for dessert tonight... she loves peaches but looks less impressed with these for some odd reason.

Senile mog has decided he must sleep in all the places he is not allowed to sleep.. tables and laptops appear to be the places of choice at the moment.. so he has been told off too.. stupid animal!

Rabbits in and huffy as I vacuumed their cage :eek: .. one of them is moulting like nothing on earth.. he is a mess and the cage was like the stuffing machine in build-a-bear!!!

Maxonian

Evening ladies,
Busy week here......am gona take it easy tonight, and get ready to hit the ground running in the morning.I just want to get some washing on the go and spread it around the place to dry so that i can iron tomorrow rather than leaving it to my usual last minute on Sunday.

Vanilla Has DH tried going to N(arcotics A(nonymous)? Are there any meetings near to you?

LW - Ted and his parents sound very thoughtful

seafarers_wife

My cot has arrived and its beautiful, I cant wait for my parents to come down for a weekend and build it and sort the babys room out for me. its going to be here before i know it and am starting to panic that ive still got a fair few bits to get for it. its only little bits really but im still going argh over it.

vanilla, can KH or DH or whatever you are calling him stay in a caravan on site near his parents? that way they can have him to help with the cattle and the kids can still see him on a regular basis, but your not having to live with him. although the supported accomodation sounds much better if im honest as that way you dont feel like your having to take responsibility for him which i feel will happen if he moved back even if he moved in with his parents.

its so difficult and i dont really know what to say other than DONT YOU DARE LET HIM MOVE BACK IN WITH YOU AND THE KIDS!

flying wise i really cant be bothered at the moment, im tired, cold and sore and constantly going to the loo so ive managed to strip and make my bed but its not been washed yet and wont be till tomorrow afternoon when ive got a couple days off work. im annoyed though as i had a good start to the week but its just fallen by the by. next week i dont have as much on so will hopefully play catch up a bit more.

Monday - Sitting Room and Hallway
Level Two
Clean any ornaments, glass, mirrors, pictures etc
Extras
Clean switches and sockets
Wipe the windows in these areas
Tuesday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level Three
Clean out the fridge thoroughly
Extras
Descale kettles/irons/taps etc
Empty and wash out bins!
Wednesday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors bathroom
Clean bath
Level Two
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!!
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc
Level Three
Wash your bathroom mats, nets, clean blind/curtains etc - not replacing bath mat till floors been done in bathroom
Scrub down tiles in bathroom.. defragment your pc while doing this.
Empty and clean out all the upstairs bins!
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required
Extra
Wipe the skirtings, door and window frames in these rooms
Thursday ~ Master Bedroom & Landing
Level 1
Declutter the floor
Level 2
Dust surfaces & make sure no cobwebs..
Wash windows and nets/curtains
15 minutes floordrobe clearance
Level 3
Vacuum floors in bedroom and on landing
Sort one area of clothes or linen storage making sure only what should be in there is, anything that's had it's day or doesn't belong there is removed
Sort through a box or bag of stuff you've not looked at in months..
Extras
Binbag dance!
Wipe grotty paintwork.. touch up any bits that are looking shabby
Wash windows
HHI
Friday - childrens rooms and spare room
Level One
Clear the floor!!!
vacuum the floor
Level Two
Wash windows
Level Three
Sort through a box of toys/gibble
Wipe grotty marks from the walls and paintwork
Extras
dust the light fittings/curtain poles etc
HHI
HHC in a room that needs lots of attention!!


Frogs: lots of little ones for this week

1. close abbey accont
2. chase up builders quote
3. chase up phisio letter
4. shredding -WIP
5. filing
6. list to MIL about baby stuff still needing to be bought
7. tools from house into shed - half done - in box in spare room waiting for spare room to be finished
9. arrange weekend for my parents to come down and build/fix things
10. prepare house for winter (list on preping for winter thread)
11. install cat flap
12. make shopping list for groceries for next month/birthdays/chrsitmas
13. change cat details with vet
14. sort out socks and bin yucky ones
17. more curtain things to be added to make them hang better

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Done curtains in Minion's room. They look very nice And I made her put all her shoes away whilst she was looking at them

Disposed of two bin bags of her old clothes to charity :j

Made her empty sweet wrappers and other rubbish from the drawer of her desk

Cleaned out fridge

Actually bought some food for the week and put it in the clean fridge



Oh, and flyladied the fish tank when I came back from the aquarium shop. Morris & the Munchers now have an extra 5 inhabitants - 3 Cloud Mountain Minnows, a Leopard Danio to replace the deceased one and a bright yellow apple snail who has been promptly named Gary :cool:. The little ones are all shoaling happily with the existing occupants and I've planted it up a bit more to give the little ones somewhere to hide. Oh, and Gary is quite happily cleaning the vegetation, glass and stones of algae.

Need to stir myself to cook some munch. Think it's going to be a great lump of still mooing cow, mushrooms and wedges.




Tell the PIL you aren't having him back, ever, Vanilla. Otherwise they will expect you to keep protecting him from the consequences of taking stuff, spending a fortune on things, getting speeding tickets, getting tattoos instead of paying bills, and there will always be the idea that he just has to be good for a couple of weeks until you give in and bail him out all again. If you decide you want to change your mind in the future, that is your decision, but they seem to think their walking hamburgers are worth you and your children being stuck with a completely dysfunctional person.

If he decides to hurt himself, then that isn't your fault. If he does, well, he's chosen to do it. There's a fair chance that an attempt would be purely to frighten you and his parents into leaping in to save him/pay for his entertainment again, as well. Nowt so manipulative as a user.


Anyway, my twopenn'orth decluttered, I'm off for din-dins!

Dustykitten

Vanilla tbh I think the cattle should go if they are the problem. Do not back down, nothing has changed, stay strong.