nightmare!

nattyt

Finish it now! My now ex father of 2 of my 2 children was very similiar. I wasn't involved in any if his family stuff. His mum used to tell me what to do. Strangely since we split we get on?! So he was probably the problem. He actually came here at weekends and lived with his mum in the week. Ok she lived where he worked but if he'd had wanted to he could have commuted. He was a manipulating control freak! I'm now with someone who couldn't be more different. Once you get out of that situation and into a normal relationship you realise just how bad it was. I wasted 9 years of my life and my 20's (except for my kids) don't waste another 5 years of yours. x

*Louise*

You know what would have annoyued me just as much as not being properly invited...this part...

sadgirl1 wrote: »

I sent a message back saying thanks for the invite as I was slightly annoyed about this. This has now resulted in a late night text saying I'd ruined the evening and him and his mum now feel guilty and basically I'm the bad one. .

The fact he was off telling his mum as soon as he got the text from you speaks volumes. Mummy's boy.

While he relays your relationship problems to her, she will never like you.

paddy's_mum

He's half hearted about the whole kit and caboodle. Can you live without the other part? Can you compel him to hand over the half of himself that is missing?

No? Then you have your answer unless, of course, being short-changed in every single aspect of your life with him is what you're aiming for.

CH27

Any update OP?

sadgirl1

You'll all probably think I'm daft, I certainly do as I've decided to try and work things out. It's a long story, but basically we had a very long talk about what happened and my feelings about that and other issues I've been storing up.
On balance there is lots more good in the relationship than bad, and a lot of the I'm scared to talk thoughts are more to do with my mental health issues about rejection etc.
I'll keep you all posted on how it eventually pans out, I hope it won't end up one of those "I told you so" eventualities.

TeamLowe

...sorry, but do you not think your rationalisation of there being more good than bad is part of your fears of rejection?

i don't know your whole relationship, none of us do, but if your best friend/sister/daughter was in the relationship and had posted what you did, and told you all the good parts too, what would you tell her?

Emmzi

good luck sadgirl! I hope it works out how you want. If not, we're here!