Reported to social services and completely untrue

hcb42

j.e.j. wrote: »

I find it really disturbing that someone could fabricate a story about somebody to social services, leading to an innocent person being investigated, refuse to give their name, and get away without any consequences?? If it was the Police instead of the SS wouldn't they be done for wasting Police time?

I know this one only too well with devastating consequences, and it wasnt about babysitting.

But I digress, I babysat for two families from 14-18 regularly, i.e. twice a week, no problems, also looked after my own two younger sisters from roughly same age. All in their 30-40s now though.

wageslave

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I was 14, not a child, but not an adult, either.

My next sister down was 12, so she was there too.

I have a 6 year old son (and try telling him he's a baby! But I'm going to be several rooms away when you do, to avoid being deafened by the protest).

I don't intend to wrap him in cotton wool until he's 18, though. I don't see anything wrong at all with a 14 year old having charge of her (or his) younger siblings, if the 14 year old in question is capable of it and happy about it. And I was.

As the oldest in the family, I did help out, of course. It didn't take away my childhood or anything of the sort. But it did teach me that the laundry fairy, and the washing-up-elves didn't live with us (-:

You were too young to babysit and your family can't even plead poverty as an excuse

Look you can all scream until you are blue in the face.

I have a right to my opinion as you have to yours

I want my children to be children as long as they can

Fifteen, for me is too young to leave with small children.

It is asking too much

neverdespairgirl

wageslave wrote: »

You were too young to babysit and your family can't even plead poverty as an excuse

Look you can all scream until you are blue in the face.

I have a right to my opinion as you have to yours

I want my children to be children as long as they can

Fifteen, for me is too young to leave with small children.

It is asking too much

I'm not screaming, I don't think.

I reckon we'll have to agree to disagree. Babysitting in no way stopped me being a child or teenager.

wageslave

nattyt wrote: »

And yet if your daughter hadn't babysat you wouldn't have been reported to social services.

Actually if you'd have read it properly its nothing to do with her babysitting....'apparently'i have left my son alone on his own. It was a question I put out there about her babysitting. You obviously have strong opinions on this which is your right.[/QUOTE]

Then I apologise.

Although I stand by my original statement, fifteen is, in my eyes, to young to babysit

nattyt

And that is your right WAGESLAVE.

wageslave

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm not screaming, I don't think.

I reckon we'll have to agree to disagree. Babysitting in no way stopped me being a child or teenager.

You come from a culture where every child goes to university. I come from a culture where twelve year olds are made to leave school to clean caravans and raise their siblings

We come from opposite ends of the class system and have opposing views

That's fair enough

Which teenager needs protecting more?

Just because it was ok for you doesn't make it ok

Fifteen yr olds shouldn't be looking after kids

Mrs_Arcanum

Was left to fend for myself at 15 (turned 16 in the holidays) - My mother was never reported. But then only 5 years earlier in 1971 14 & 15 year olds were still leaving school & going out to work. One girl used the time to get some peace & quiet to study for her exams.

Provided a handy income to neighbouring girls of 14 & 15 when they child sat my two and these days we have the wonders of the mobile phone so even less worry. Oh & I have never been reported either.

wageslave

I think it is too young

I think fifteen is still a child and, irregardless of how offended you are by my language or what is the norm in your part of the world, I stand my corner.

I would be extremely uncomfortable leaving my pair with a teenager and worried to death about any child my teenager was in charge off.

And with the greatest respect to the OP, I find it bizarre that you are having a go at me for having a different opinion and yet you are swallowing whole her story of being wrongly accused of being a negligent parent

Zoetoes

wageslave wrote: »

This isn't an ideal world, I am aware of it

If you wouldn't see a fifteen year old with a baby of her own why would you leave her with a baby?

If you can't afford to pay a fu cking babysitter, stay in

Personally I would prefer family/a sibling to babysit. Plus the fact that being family the child knows the babysitter and also the babysitter being a sibling knows the child well enough to know if they seem ill etc etc

I wouldn't think a 15 year old babysitting for an hour or 2 was so bad although not all night. But really once they get to 16 they're actually old enough (by law) to have kids of their own.

I also think there is a massive difference between a girl and a boy at 15.

Zoetoes

I'm gonna half agree with Wageslave here, not that I in anyway think the OP is wrong, she's not, big sis looking after siblings is nothing out of the ordinary and better than paying someone else.

But...I moved out at 16 and was pregnant, I managed fine but I would still be in absolute panic if history repeated itself, and I would say 16 was far too young for that kind of resposibility. Maybe I'm just a hypocrite!