The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

MrsMoo2U

Cheery has been on holiday and is now on rations for the internet. She has updated her diary and blog this week. She is grand.

It would have been my Dad's 73rd birthday today. Like HL, I am honouring him in my own way. Starting with a bit of Mario Lanza singing Ave Maria. He loved that. Trying my best to remember the good times and not get too upset about missing my family today. Must think of something fun to do later.

tellmeitsfriday

Internet rations <shock horror!>

Dustykitten

Morning all

Back to reality and the joy that is housework.

DH and I are pruning the bits in the garden which need doing before the cold weather, 1/2 way there and it will be a job well done.

Picked a few cherry tomatoes from the garden. I plan to spend another couple of hours out the back this afternoon pottering with a bit of deadheading and I will sit down on the sunlounger with a cuppa and just be for HH later.

HL sending you love and strength you are doing so well

Bitsey Monday I will start my exercise and will do 20 minutes every week day of some kind - building up slowly but must be done

Bitsy_Beans

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

Internet rations <shock horror!>

I had enough of enforced rations on holiday :eek::eek:

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

Cheery has been on holiday and is now on rations for the internet. She has updated her diary and blog this week. She is grand.

It would have been my Dad's 73rd birthday today. Like HL, I am honouring him in my own way. Starting with a bit of Mario Lanza singing Ave Maria. He loved that. Trying my best to remember the good times and not get too upset about missing my family today. Must think of something fun to do later.

Hugs for you Cheri xxx

Took kids for a walk, which was lovely. They are now bouncing off the walks with energy. So much for wearing them out :eek:

MrsBartolozzi

Oh, I'm in need of inspiration!
It is 100 days until I turn 40!(eep) and I have the house to myself, a nice clean notebook (thanks MG!) to make all my plans in and all I can think of is the conversation I had with my Mum last night about my Gran and her deteriorating mental health.:(
Does anyone here have experience of an elderly relative with dementia who (from what I am told) can hold a lucid conversation and interact seemingly normally (there's nothing wrong with MY memory!) but then goes off wandering out at night, that kind of thing? (don't want to post too many details as sil uses mse and I am still anonymous) Gran has been referred to the hospital but I'm not sure my Mum is best placed to get her the best treatment. (as far as mum is concerned Doctors (and those in authority) are right. If there was a better drug or better treatment they'd have given it already and she won't do any research beforehand, also because of this I don't necessarily have the full picture)
I'm happy to give more details on the other side or in PM.

I do feel I need to get started with my 100 days today though. It's a symbolic thing I suppose. Maybe I need caffeine?

lucielle

Thanks for the replies chaps, have sorted my problem on the other side
L

Memory_Girl

Caffeine always helps in my mind

Why not try the "Wheel of Life" exercise we have attempted - looking at gradually improving lots of areas in your life, but gently.

http://itcanbesimpler.com/2011/06/the-wheel-of-life-life-snapshot/

Then when you know what needs done - we can help you do it.

Today - I'm on a make Do and Mend Mission - sudden craving for a skirt - so I'm turning a pair of buttersoft needlecord jeans into just what I fancy (well I got them for a pound two years ago and the knees have gone just as they got comfy)

Tight? Moi? - perhaps:D

MG

Eager_Elephant

MrsBartolozzi wrote: »

Oh, I'm in need of inspiration!
It is 100 days until I turn 40!(eep) and I have the house to myself, a nice clean notebook (thanks MG!) to make all my plans in and all I can think of is the conversation I had with my Mum last night about my Gran and her deteriorating mental health.:(
Does anyone here have experience of an elderly relative with dementia who (from what I am told) can hold a lucid conversation and interact seemingly normally (there's nothing wrong with MY memory!) but then goes off wandering out at night, that kind of thing? (don't want to post too many details as sil uses mse and I am still anonymous) Gran has been referred to the hospital but I'm not sure my Mum is best placed to get her the best treatment. (as far as mum is concerned Doctors (and those in authority) are right. If there was a better drug or better treatment they'd have given it already and she won't do any research beforehand, also because of this I don't necessarily have the full picture)
I'm happy to give more details on the other side or in PM.

I do feel I need to get started with my 100 days today though. It's a symbolic thing I suppose. Maybe I need caffeine?

((MrsBartolozzi))

I have some experience of dementia as my MIL had it.

MIL had always been a bit of a drinker and a very heavy smoker and at times she was not quite with it but of course was that the drink or something else.
She ended up with a hip and knee replacement which made walking very difficult so she relied on a wheelchair.

She then had a stroke and was severely affected, she spent a long time in hospital and was moved to a Nursing Home (we were so grateful for the stroke as she was so out of control and at least they could control her drinking and smoking) where she recovered almost back to her normal self.

We would visit her and she would be perfectly fine and we would have some great conversations about what everyone had been up to but then suddenly she would come out with random thoughts about a cat having kittens under her bed. One easy to spot sign in normally lucid conversations was her always talking about the past (which she thought she was living in) and she would say that she was waiting for her mum to collect her - her mum had died 45 years previously and when we told her she got all upset again - does your grandmother mention the past a lot?

We wanted her tested for dementia but everytime they tried to test her she had a urine infection which can cause confusion in itself.
Eventually they decided she did have dementia but they did not treat her for it (I assume as she was in a nursing home they didn't need to control her as such).

When she was confused she would try to walk about (which she could not do) and would then fall and hurt herself, I have no doubt that if she had been at home she would have wandered the streets.

I hope you can help your grandmother, I think the physcal confusion (wandering, forgetting where you put things) is so much worse than confusion in conversations as they can come to so much harm.

groatie_queen

MrsBartolozzi, Your mother should be requesting a full neuropsychology and dementia assessment for your Gran.

Also, even before she is diagnosed formally, it would be helpful to contact the community occupational therapist in the local social services/social work team. The community OT can do a community care assessment and is the key person to supply (should be free of charge) a community alarm/telecare package which will incorporate monitors for several scenarios, e.g. for night time wandering, an alrm which is triggered by her opening the exit door(s); a pressure pad on the floor beside her bed; a fall alarm if she is unsteady on her feet. There are other monitors too and I'll PM you a link so you can see what I'm describing.

It takes time for a community OT to come out - they have waiting lists - so it may be best to make contact earlier and thus cut down the waiting time.

The way the community care system works differs between Scotland, England etc but are broadly similar. You can also contact one of the dementia charities for advice on how to proceed. They have excellent advice and information services, and will have leaflets etc on their websites.

clairewop

good afternoon,

HL my sister died on my birthday too, I have been told that if a relative dies on your birthday they become your guardian angel. Not sure how true this is though, thinking of you (((hugs))).