"Simply not solvent!

Sea78

Great to hear about the work for OH - hope you find out the details soon though!

Sea xx

Seaxwyn

Thanks Alexnikov

I'm sure it must be a whole year, as it starts in the first term....

My university experience was so long ago that I struggle to remember! But you're right, my tutor wasn't involved in my dissertation at all!

These students will be making films rather than producing 'written' dissertations so perhaps they need more guidance.

*zippy*

Congratulations to you and your OH on the job front seaxwyn :T Hope it all works out as it must be a big relief.

Seaxwyn

Thanks all for your kind words.

I've just realised that come october, OH will be working 4 days/week and me 2 days/week and we will have some regular guaranteed income! I will be able to do a proper SOA! And budget!! I can be a proper organised DFW like everyone else! Even if only for a few months.

Right now the financial situation is not good. We've already spent over £1300 more than we've had come in this month. There's a decorator at work in our house and while most of the costs will be covered by insurance, they won't all be.

Oh well... I'm glad that after living in shabby squalor for a long time we will have a spanking new fresh dining room (misleading name, it's the room we all spend most of our waking hours in) I am determined not to move all the furniture and clutter back in, I am on a mission to find a new, small dining table instead of the huge monstrosity we currently have.

chevalier

Hi Seax
Well done on getting work for you and OH. I hope it is the start of more stable times for you. Don't forget to try and save some of your money for your tax, so you don't have to stress about it next April!

I am getting better at concentrating and not sitting on this site all day! So I may get my essay in early this month. Would be a great relief as would have more time for my project.

Ref the mouse, I would keep the money. But it was sweet of him to give it you though.

Take care off to cook tea
chev

Seaxwyn

OH and I went out for a drink last night (£7.20 - I know I know) and he told me more about his job at the art school.

He's not just teaching the dissertation unit but also teaching the first and second years and while the course leader only books the sessions a term at a time, it seems probable that the job will be for the whole year. Hooray!!

He will be paid for 5.5 hours a day as a 'sessional lecturer' which is midway between staff and self-employed in that they will deduct tax and NI but he's not eligible to join the pension scheme and that sort of thing.

Anyway it's a HUGE improvement on the status quo. He finally gave me his figures for the tax credit people and in the last tax year he earned just £4690, even that was an advance on previous years.

I also came to realise how much he resents me for scuppering his animation career. At one point he was offered a job for Disney in LA, we had newborn premature twins at the time and I refused to go and leave the NHS and family support nework. He blames the downturn in his career on that decision, though in fact he had several years of very high earnings in London after that point.

Oh well, I'm glad to understand another reason behind his passive-aggressive attitude towards me.

hypno06

Morning Seaxwyn, I have missed your diary for the last couple of days, so have missed the twins birthday (happy belated birthday!!) am jealous of them having paper rounds already, (my DD is still on the waiting list), am not jealous of mouse with worms (how did you manage to treat that!!) and want to say congrats on the job for OH.

Also, it makes sense about the resentment by OH, but he does need to move on - we all have career decisions to make when families come along, and if we didn't have children, we might all be doing different things - I know I would. So although you understand it better now, he still has to stop this resentment and look to the future, not to the past, and I am not sure how you are going to get him to do that.

But, hey, 6 days paid work between you - that is certainly going to make a difference, and you will be at that £35000 before you know it!!

Verbatim

Good news then Seaxwyn. Hypno's right about children changing our carrer paths, it's just that men are often shielded from this as women generally take the downsizing decisions leaving the father free to pursue his career.

lovelybirchtrees

Dear Seaxwyn

I am very pleased for you about the new job for your OH and for your two- day-a-week employment. I also do two days a week and find I still have time for the self-employment. I had to take the two days a week when I couldn't negotiate any longer with the people I owed money too without a guarnateed income of some sort and my freelance wasn't regular. I'm sure you must have hit the irregularity of income as well from your diary. I don't post often but wanted to congratulate you both. Good luck in getting your desk moved to the shed - maybe when the rain stops a bit!!

I have the reverse situation to your OH in that I gave up my PhD when my ex needed to complete his BA. Then the marriage ended... Where would I be mnow if I had the PhD to make earning higher? You just have to move on and start from where you are now but I don't think telling your OH that will help.

Sea78

Great news Seax - however, is there anything that can be done to help OH get over his resentment? I could if I chose feel real resentment towards my OH for certain life choices and the limit they have put on my career. However, I dwelt on it for a few months but have decided to move on as it was hurting me more -which it's probably doing more to your OH too. Difficult one and big hugs to you (I for one know I would have made exactly the same decision as you btw)

Anyway, hope you have a good productive day.

Sea xx