"Simply not solvent!

bountiful

Hiya Seaxwyn - sorry I've not been around for a few weeks - I have felt absolutely overwhelmed with work and travel and stuff I've only been checking e-mails and snacking and sleeping a little! This weekend I actually had two whole days off - what a treat - went out walking on Saturday and cycling today (in the rain and hail!) - and I feel almost human again!
I have just posted a similar sentiment about work on my thread - feeling unqualified to do anything other that what we are already doing...... transferable skills are so hard to spot aren't they?! Locally all the jobs are for chefs and waitresses and chambermaids at the moment - and even those say 'previous experience essential'. I am sketching out a kind of blueprint of the job I want............have you ever come across Brian Mayne's stuff on setting goals etc? I have found them useful - and they certainly seem to magnetise my life towards my own goals - even when I feel distracted. I am going to set a new one up for a new job. Anyway good luck!

taxi73

Karmacat wrote: »

Yike, Seaxwyn, sorry to hear this - I had an image of you beavering away at well paid work and coining it in, sorry it isn't accurate. Like you say, there are many worse things happening in the world, but still..... when someone says that to me, I always think, yeah, but *this* is happening to *me*, and I'm right here!

Its pretty scary to think that as long term self employed we're pretty much unemployable by anyone else.

Hi seaxwyn...I agree with KC here...I really don't know what to suggest :eek::eek::eek::eek:

Seaxwyn

Thanks everyone

Hypno - OH is pretty focussed on his teaching and I can't get him to think about anything else til it's finished. He has 3 more days booked in March and then.... nada.

Buddiebabe - there were 5 books among my mum's stuff, which I've put on Amazon. The kids have pilfered some of it - there was lots of worthless junk jewellery. The rest is still in the box waiting til I have enough stuff for a carboot sale - which won't be long as they are clearing their house out to sell it. Have you done anything with yours?

Bountiful - I had not heard of Brian Mayne, I googled him and it looks interesting, I will read more later.

GTD - meditation... sure it's helpful but it sounds totally daunting! Where do you start?!

Tomorrow is a new week, I'm starting with a run with my lovely new running partner, then will write an article on Papua New Guinea (as you do) then brainstorm ways of getting more work in. I need to make my CV look coherent and impressive and do some networking.

buddiebabe

Hey Seaxwyn

I have washed all the clothes in the box and they are now dry awaiting to be ironed :rolleyes: i have listed some of the books on turbo lister to be uploaded to ebay on the 12th when the free listing starts. My mum has brought round some other stuff but i've not really been up to looking through it although i had a quick look but theres nothing much in it that i would keep, alot of it will be going to the charity shop.

Hope you enjoy your run and that your article is coming along nicely

Buddiebabe x

GettingThingsDone

Hi - re: Meditation, I'll tell you what I do, although it may not be 'officially' correct...

I just find a quiet place where I won't get disturbed, and usually stay still and just focus on a single object in front of me. While I'm doing that I'll try and silence the 'voice in my head', try and stop it thinking a million things a minute!

Then at some point, it just goes silent. It's a wonderful feeling - a bit like when you can see those 'magic eye' pictures. When I first tried it, I had a huge flood of childhood memories which was overwhelming, but really lovely. Apparently that kind of thing happens.

Anyway, I can only keep it up for 10 - 20 minutes ( ) but afterwards, not always immediately, I'll have a flood of ideas and solutions to problems.

I should do it more often, but I find it difficult to get the time/space/silence. Anyway, I hope that helps

gtd

Seaxwyn

Thanks GTD, I would so love to quiet those 'voices in the head' - the constant circular worrying drives me mad sometimes! Will definitely try it.

I'm having a very frustrating time with offers of work coming in then being withdrawn, admin/DFW hassles of various kinds and, worst of all, a stand-off with Virgin Wines, who say they haven't received the £50 voucher I earned writing all those Qype reviews. I was SO looking forward to receiving that wine! All is not lost - by a miracle I found the postage receipt and Royal Mail confirm it was delivered on 2 March, so I hope the staff at Virgin wines are leaving no stone unturned finding my missing voucher.

I'd decided to use my free airline ticket to go to Amsterdam, where I have some clients I could visit, and a friend/client I could stay with. Then I remembered I have some Airmiles in a dormant account. I rang them up and sure enough I have 1008 miles, enough to fly to Paris, Amsterdam, Brussels or any UK destination. So now I'm wondering whether to abandon the Amsterdam plan and take OH to Paris (which he would love) OR take one of the children somewhere (but which? how would I choose?). OR go to Amsterdam as planned AND use the Airmiles to fly to Scotland, I'm sure I could find a friend up for a Monro-bagging weekend. All those options would have some additional costs but I'm thinking sod it, life is hard and a break would be well worth it.

GettingThingsDone

Ohhh- I think I'd definitely get some Monro-bagging in there. I imagine that would be a really good place to get some perspective on things. We don't have anything so high in Northants, but I find getting as high up as possible and looking out over the landscape really helps clear the mind...

Somebody once explained the 'internal dialogue' to me as having lots of radios on in the same room, all tuned to different stations. By turning them off you can use your mind much more productively.


gtd

hypno06

ooh, what a fab dilemma! I would choose Paris - I love the city, there is loads to do, it is cheap and easy to get round, and you don't have to spend a fortune because you can make one coffee on a pavement cafe last for hours and watch the Parisiens pass by, or can buy bread, pate, cheese and wine and have a picnic in the parcs or by the Seine.....

Let me come with you - purleeese!!!!!

Karmacat

Just popped in before a work session, Seaxwyn - haven't been able to give it all the attention you deserve, but I'll come back later. In the meantime, thinking of you.
xx

buddiebabe

Hey Seaxwyn

You deserve a break wherever you decide to go you'll benefit from just being away from everything. Im really looking forward to planning a holiday or two courtesy of the boyfriend... i think we're going to compromise a few days in a nice hotel then a week in a caravan.... well that's what im going to suggest when he comes home tonight :rolleyes:

If you do come up to Scotland your more than welcome to crash on my sofa bed.... nowhere near a monro tho'!!! and you would have to excuse the mountain of ebay stuff piled everywhere :rotfl:

Buddiebabe x