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Age gaps in relationships...
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caledonian_princess wrote: »To respond to the original question, I don't see a problem with a 21 year old going out with a 33 year old - genders either way around. Some 21 year olds have old heads on their shoulders and some people never grow up (me!); there are some lovely stories on this thread of much wider age gaps (with the younger partner being in their early 20s) working out.
Yeah there are a few nice stories, restores my faith in one day finding love.............violins haaIf you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in
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Dangerous undertone? I don't understand, I am just explaining my thoughts, 'uneasy' was being honest.
I do not understand your use of the word "uneasy" in this context.
In what way does your 33 year old exes relationship with a 21 year old woman result in causing your feeling anxiety; troubled or uncomfortable ?0 -
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I do not understand your use of the word "uneasy" in this context.
In what way does your 33 year old exes relationship with a 21 year old woman result in causing your feeling anxiety; troubled or uncomfortable ?
I thought I explpained it in my first post? Uneasy with regards to the children.If you're going to stalk me, while you're at it can you cut the grass, feed the dog & make sure I've got bread & milk in0 -
I thought I explpained it in my first post? Uneasy with regards to the children.
meh i am closer in age to my stepson than my wife, but there really is no porblems coming from that
and there is the same age gap between me and my wife as there is between my and my step daughter, once again no issuesDrop a brand challenge
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I've always preferred older men. I was seeing a man with whom I had a much bigger age gap than you and your OH, and we were involved with eachother for a number of years....it wasn't the age difference which ended it either...so I say go for it!!0
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I thought I explpained it in my first post? Uneasy with regards to the children.
Not sure I understand ?
Just re-read you first post and it says that you are uneasy because your exe's new girlfried is 21 and your son is 17 - is that correct ?
I still don't understand why you are "uneasy" though - do you think that the girlfriend may somehow take advantage of your son or something ?0 -
1. I did not suggest money was anything to do with it.
2. No he's not the biological father, what is the relevance?
3. Yes I was 17 when I had my eldest, 16 when pregnant and yes unmarried (relevance of this?) I was also never married to the ex I am discussing.
4. I don't think an age gap of 12 years is a problem at all, what I am asking others opinions of is when one of the couple is only 21, what do they think about it.
I am genuinely asking what points you are making as I don't think it is clear. Thank you in advance
Really?? I thought my post was quite clear.
1/ I didn't say you. I said "quite few posters".
2/ Relevance is huge. As he is not biological father why should it be "uneasy" that the girl is only 21. Your OH has only 15 years on your son... I doubt the 17 year old will find it uneasy at all.
3/ Again, relevance is massive. New age rules for one side (ie unmarried mother), but not for the other (ie young new girlfriend)
4/ Lie. Your thread heading "Age gaps in relationships" suggests otherwise.
And even if that was your original question - so what, she is only 21 - you were 17 when you had your first child, did you seriously at 21 feel like a child or that you should be judged as not mature enough by someone who is 35?0 -
On a less serious note, the older you get the less it matters.
When I first met Mr GG I was 18 and he was 20, so I was 90% of his age.
When we got together, I was 36 and he was 38, I was 94.7% of his age.
Next month I'm 50 :eek: and he is 51 - I'll be 98% of his age.
I reckon in a few years I'll be older :rotfl:A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort
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Age gaps shouldn't really matter that much if both of the participants are adults.2019 Wins
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