Age gaps in relationships...

Zoetoes

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

i dont see anything wrong with it, im 12 years younger than my OH and i wad 20 when i got with him

and :eek: you have a 17 year old kid??? i thought you were only about 25 yourself :eek:

Wooo thanks tinks, I'm 35! Was it my picture or is it my mental age coming across in my posts?

Zoetoes

Dave101t wrote: »

if i was 30's and single id certainly go for 16-22.

Did you miss 'not' out of that sentence?

Zoetoes

barbiedoll wrote: »

My husband is almost 13 years old than me, we met when I was 30 and he was 42. It certainly wasn't the money issue, he was as poor as me, sadly!

Before I met him, I had been seeing a 19 year old :eek:
He was lovely but just too young for me, I wasn't really up for all night raves, boozy parties on the beach in Cornwall and watching South Park on the telly, we didn't have much in common. Mind you, me and DH don't have much in common either, his favourite band is Status Quo!!! (What he lacks in musical taste, he makes up for in his taste in women)
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Actually, I think it'd be more the other way round with him and her, he'd be the one wanting to go raving and she'd be more mature!

Britneyspears

Zoetoes wrote: »

Just curious as to what others think about age gaps really, split with my ex 2 and a half years ago, he's had a couple of short term girlfriends and a couple of one night stands that I know of, none of which bother me.

But I am a bit bothered by this one now as she's 21 (he's 33), not that it's any of my business who he sees I know, I just feel a bit uneasy about it, I think it's because we have kids and she's not much older! Our eldest lad is 18 this year.

I've said I don't want the kids involved in any way, but I'd say that anyway until it was definitely long term, at least another 6 months to a year down the line she'll be a bit older! I just couldn't imagine it the other way round, me with a young lad....:eek:

Uh so he was 15 when he had kids..

Anywhoo she is hardly 12 is she?

Im 29 this year and have been with my husband for 10 years (he is 52) we are both self employed. why do people assume people are with older partners for money? you can be any age and use someone for their money!


Uneasy? it's not really your business what he gets up to however if he was outside the local secondary trying to pull first years i would alert the police.

Allegra

My dad is 14 years older than my mum (married over 35 years now). Other half is 13 years older than me, been together 8 years now.

Perfectly normal in my world

Pee

Big age gap here, over 20 years. Boyfriend is older. Doesn't look much older and doesn't act much older, so gets on with my friends well. Were some issues with some of his friends who wondered what on earth he was doing with me - I'm in my 30's so hardly a child - and you could tell some of his older friends didn't think they would be talking to me much, but it didn't take very long.

Age isn't something I think about when considering a relationship. Passion, honesty, compatability... those are more important.

Most of my boyfriends have tended to be a little bit older, but before I got together with my boyfriend when I was 29 I dated one guy who was 23 and another who was 21. The 21 year old had had a very traumatic upbringing, was a refuge, and whilst language was an issue, what made me realise it couldn't work, his maturity certainly wasn't. If I'm honest maturity was an issue with the 23 year old, although he was also out of a complicated relationship with a child and I felt this was a bit recent for us to work out.

I think it's the person not the date on the birth certificate.

onlyroz

There are 17 years between me and hubby. We met when I was 21 and got married when I was 22. We've now been together 10 years. What is a bit weird is that his "step son" from a previous relationship is about 5 years older than me - but we're still really good friends...

meritaten

sorry zoetoes - but you say you split from ex a couple of years of years ago. Its nothing to do with you the age of his new girlfriend.......if you got yourself a nice toyboy would you appreciate HIM having a hissy fit?
probably his 21 year old girlfriend is more mature than you - you do come across as rather childish.

Deep_In_Debt

There was a 16 year age gap between my mum and dad. Happily married for 40 years, 2 kids (me & bro). My dad being the older one who has sadly since passed, but dad had no other children...mum was 20 when they married (and not pregnant) and the large age gap was frowned upon in those days!

My ex OH was with a woman who was 18 years older before he met me...they were together for a long time but he got bored because her "age" started to show and she didn't want to go clubbing any more.

I've never been out with a bloke a lot younger than me and from the ones I've met, I don't intend to either!

crazyguy

Zoetoes, if I were single I would date you, you are lovely ! x