Age gaps in relationships...

Zoetoes

Just curious as to what others think about age gaps really, split with my ex 2 and a half years ago, he's had a couple of short term girlfriends and a couple of one night stands that I know of, none of which bother me.

But I am a bit bothered by this one now as she's 21 (he's 33), not that it's any of my business who he sees I know, I just feel a bit uneasy about it, I think it's because we have kids and she's not much older! Our eldest lad is 18 this year.

I've said I don't want the kids involved in any way, but I'd say that anyway until it was definitely long term, at least another 6 months to a year down the line she'll be a bit older! I just couldn't imagine it the other way round, me with a young lad....:eek:

robpw2

Zoetoes wrote: »

Just curious as to what others think about age gaps really, split with my ex 2 and a half years ago, he's had a couple of short term girlfriends and a couple of one night stands that I know of, none of which bother me.

But I am a bit bothered by this one now as she's 21 (he's 33), not that it's any of my business who he sees I know, I just feel a bit uneasy about it, I think it's because we have kids and she's not much older! Our eldest lad is 18 this year.

I've said I don't want the kids involved in any way, but I'd say that anyway until it was definitely long term, at least another 6 months to a year down the line she'll be a bit older! I just couldn't imagine it the other way round, me with a young lad....:eek:

he has done alright for himself ...what does a 21 year old see in a 33 year old lol (MONEY)

i saw a couple on jeremy kyle she was fifty odd and he was in his 30s that was a bit too far for me if im honest
but it none of my business

Sagaris

robpw2 wrote: »

i saw a couple on jeremy kyle she was fifty odd and he was in his 30s that was a bit too far for me if im honest
but it none of my business

Mmm - same sort of age gap as me and DH - no money involved though, more the lack of it! :rotfl:
(Early 50's for me, late 30's for him!)

babymoo

Fair enough that you don't want your kids involved until its long term but because of her age well sorry but I can't see how that is any of your business? I don't mean to come across as harsh. If my dad was dating someone 4 years older than me then I probably would want nothing to do with his new partner as it would be very weird from a kids POV but then again I am old enough to make that decision now, as is your eldest.

I could understand this a whole lot more if your kids were really young. Is she a mature 21 yr old?

sammyjammy

Maybe its just a bit of fun, if it's serious then 12yrs isn't huge, assuming you re same age as you're ex you did have your first child very young so I understand why it would be difficult for you but the age difference between a 39yr old and a 51yr old is the same and I know loads of happy couples with similar age gaps.

As you say its really none of your business and there is no reason why you should feel uncomfortable, they are both adults.

Zoetoes

robpw2 wrote: »

he has done alright for himself ...what does a 21 year old see in a 33 year old lol (MONEY)

i saw a couple on jeremy kyle she was fifty odd and he was in his 30s that was a bit too far for me if im honest
but it none of my business

Hmmm he's not particularly loaded but I suppose to a 21 year old it might seem like he is.

I think a 33 year old bloke without kids dating a 21 year old girl doesn't seem so bad, I think it's just the fact that it would be less odd for my son to go out with her!

robpw2

Sagaris wrote: »

Mmm - same sort of age gap as me and DH - no money involved though, more the lack of it! :rotfl:
(Early 50's for me, late 30's for him!)

it wasn't you was it ? do you go to night clubs and flash your boobs at taxi drivers lol

shellsuit

He's got himself some arm candy, nothing wrong with that.

I don't think it's a massive age gap to be honest

pigpen

There are 17 years between my friends parents they were married when she was 16 and are still happily married 40 years later... There are 11 years between my sister and her hubby too.. that is the way of it.

At 18 I am fairly sure you son is quite capable of handling the fact his dad has a new gf and you can't really tell him when he can or cannot introduce the children to her..

It isn't like she is underage!

Again.. it is nothing to do with you..

Zoetoes

babymoo wrote: »

Fair enough that you don't want your kids involved until its long term but because of her age well sorry but I can't see how that is any of your business? I don't mean to come across as harsh. If my dad was dating someone 4 years older than me then I probably would want nothing to do with his new partner as it would be very weird from a kids POV but then again I am old enough to make that decision now, as is your eldest.

I could understand this a whole lot more if your kids were really young. Is she a mature 21 yr old?

No that's what I said in my original post, it's none of my business who he sees, I am just wondering what other people think about age gaps.

I think the fact that my son is almost her age rather than very young is what is a bit odd for me. But hey they might like to same music and stuff! :rotfl:

mandi

My OH is 14 years younger than me . Been together 11 years now :j