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JayeBee wrote: »

Hello Everyone.
We are truly broke and even though William is only 8 weeks old, I've had to go back to work. I work in the family business so there is no problem at all with childcare as I get to take him with me...

Everytime I look at him I feel so guilty that I could just sit and cry.

Hi Jaybee

I work for myself and had to go back to working when Imogen was 6 weeks old so I sympathise. I currently work 3 days a week.

I look at it this way - she gets the best of me when I have her and we are able to provide for her, keep a roof over her head and make sure she's clothed, fed and warm. She has more love than she's got room for and that's all a baby can ask for. :smileyhea

I think it's great you can take him with you to work as he's actually seeing more of you than if you were out working.

I'm sure he'll grow up very independent and self-assured. My mum has already commented how well Imogen plays on her own and for extended periods and I'm sure it's because sometimes she just has to amuse herself. What that means is that she's a curious child who can have 30 mins of fun with a free leaflet from the Sunday paper!

I know what you mean about feeling guilty, but you are doing the right thing by working to provide for William. Hopefully working now will mean that things are easier for you and the family in the future. You only have his best interests at heart and that makes you a great mum - you just have to believe it! :grouphug:


On another subject, I just had to share this funny story with you all. We left Imogen with my mum and step-dad on Saturday as we were going to a wedding. We came back around 9.30pm, but it was the first time someone else had put her to bed without us being there and we weren't sure how she'd be as we'd had a really tough night on Friday (seems to be going round!)

When I rang to check all was okay Mum said she'd been a dream and had gone down without any problems but that she'd had to go in to her nursery to check on her as Mum couldn't hear her breathing on the monitor.

It was only in the car on the way home that we realised that neither of us had put the monitor on (we don't use it routinely, it's a new-ish house so you can hear every sound).

It turned out that Mum had been intently listening to my broadband router at the bottom of the stairs to check she could hear Imogen breathing!:rotfl: :rotfl:

Laugh! We cried for about 5 minutes! Apparently she presumed it was a monitor because it had lights on it. Bless - she's only 56!

Hope you all have a good day. Better get back to some work now!

Dormouse

Snaggles wrote: »

Has anyone any experience of breastfeeding a baby with teeth? I'm a bit scared of Natasha getting hers, because she's quite 'bitey' anyway....ouch!

I BFed DS1 for 12 months but can honestly say teeth were never a problem - although maybe I was just lucky. He didn't get his first teeth until 8 months though, and at that stage he was only having two milk feeds a day anyway (morning and bedtime), so I wasn't feeding him loads. He might've tried biting once or twice, but as Susan mentioned, the trick is to withdraw the boob for a bit so they realise the consequences of their actions. :rotfl:

Good luck

SusanCarter

Jaybee, as long as you are doing the best you can for your little boy, that's all anyone can ask. Maybe the "ideal" would be for you to stay at home with him but we don't live in an ideal world so it is not always possible to do what you would have liked to do. At least you are able to take him to work with you so he still gets to be with you. It must be hard enough for you looking after a new baby and going back to work without having to deal with other people's disapproval. Just remember that you are doing the best that you can.

3KIDSNOMONEY

Hi, i have posted this on pregnancy board but thought i might get more replies here.

Has anybody had any experience on high downs syndrome blood tests during pregnancy and if so what did you do, if anything?

Thanks, i would love to hear about any experiences others may have had.

Snaggles

I haven't, sorry 3kidsnomoney, but hugs to you if you're going through that at the moment. I'm sure it's not much consolation to you at the moment, but it's certainly not a given that you will have a baby with Downs just because you have had a high result on the blood test. Has your midwife discussed the option of having further tests done?

3KIDSNOMONEY

Hi Snaggles, thanks for replying.

Have the option of further tests, got my scan in just under 2 weeks so going to wait and see if that shows anything. I think the blood tests can be really misleading and am really confused about what to do.

Snaggles

I wish I knew what to say....I really feel for you having to go through all the worry xxx

Js_Other_Half

One of my colleagues had a higher than 1:250 chance of Down's. They decided not to have any more tests as they would go through with the pregnancy either way. Her little girl is perfectly normal.

It's a difficult decision for anyone.
I think the blood tests are done way too late in most authorities, and may not be given the information about what the triple test is for, and are then completely taken aback by it coming back as an issue.

Even the 1:250 chance means that 249 babies would be healthy. CVS and amnio are the only definitive way of knowing for certain if a baby is affected, but they have their own risks.

Good luck with it all.

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Welcome to all the new people, i've not posted since thursday but have been busy.

I've tried to reduce the use of Jack's dummy, some days are better than others. My HV came around this afternoon to discuss strategies and to show me how to lavendar massage his feet, which although he wriggled, he did seem to enjoy. I also need to find a cuddly for him, i'd prefer a muslin as they are portable, washable and we have loads of them, but he seems to have taken to snuggling up to his grobag, during the day naps, so this evening, I put him in one and gave him one to cuddle!!

So far so good, not a sound and he went down early at 6.45pm. My HV also suggested Toddler Taming, which I have read from the library but have now ordered my own copy. It gives really good ideas about controlled crying. She is suggesting somewhere between nov and dec as a time to lose the dummy to get him off to sleep at night, it should be more effective when he's 1. We'll expect some bad evenings, but once he's learnt to get off without it, hopefully that will crack some of the night wakings. I'd like to get this sorted before the next one is born. It'll be hard, so i'll have to start at a weekend when DH is around at bedtime and have a strategy in place for us both to stick to completely. Doing it in the evening must be easier than a night waking too.

She also suggested I contact my GP as she thinks i've come off my AD's too early, most new mums go at least a year on them and I only had a few months. There might be one suitable for pregnancy but I don't know. She is also sending me some info on NCT coffee mornings in my area as I am feeling quite isolated now a lot of mums i know are back at work. She is also going to look at her books and see if she has other mums who feel like I do and struggling.

Jack finally has a tooth, i noticed it on Thursday afternoon, but it must have been there a few days before. That would finally explain what I had suspected with the last few weeks of night wakings, runny nappies, runny nose, clinginess and generally out of sorts. Poor chap, I hope every tooth isn't like this. I was kind of hoping there would be more than 1 considering the amount of suffering we've all had, but it seems not. As its growing upwards he is increasingly playing his tongue over it, I guess its a different feeling in his mouth.

To 3kidsnomoney, sorry to hear your first scan wasn't good news, i don't have any experience of this, well not yet anyway, i have my 21 week scan on Monday and i'm hoping all is well. But I can understand how your feeling. I also know of someone who had high odds and their baby turned out fine and very bright. I wish you calming thoughts and please feel free to chat here if you need too.

Lastly does anyone know of anyone with a Jane Powertwin Pro? It is now one of our top considerations, in fact for DH its no.1 and I think its mine too. I prefer the layout to the phil and ted. Basically here is a summary:-

Jane Pro's
Jack was very comfy in the front seat, smiley etc
Easy to maneouvre
More padding in seats
Brake on handle gives you more control downhill
Both seats recline
It will go in our car, as we've exchanged to an estate this weekend.
Don't need paniers

Jane Con's
It is heavier than the P&T
I've heard the raincover isn't great and takes all the room in the shopping basket.

P&T Pro's
Lighter and slightly easier to push
Can be a single or double (but we do plan to keep our urban detour for single journeys anyway)

P&T Con's
I don't like one child sitting underneath the other, no view etc
I've been told it can be harder to put the second child in the bottom if you've a bad back (I have). Especially as they get older and heavier, further down to go.
Raincover is rubbish, but so is the Jane apparently
Seats aren't as padded as the Jane
Shopping basket is also the footwell, older child can get to the shopping unless you buy paniers.
The seats don't recline as much as the Jane
You have to bear in mind the weight ratio of the children when lifting out or it could tip up.

Now has anyone experience of either and can add a different perspective to my list. I know it sounds like i am biased towards the Jane at the mo, maybe I am, but both are a lot of money and once we've got it we are stuck with it. I can't be doing with regrets. I am going to look on ebay too, see if I can get a newish model cheaper.

Anyway a long post to make up for the last few days.

Take care,

Bay

(PS don't we have a few 1st birthdays coming up this month?)

heather38

we do kenny is 1 on the 27th, i really don't know where this last year has gone at all!!!