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I did get some dinner in the end about an hour later, just needed to get my strop out of my system first.

Watched Eastenders then cried on hubbie's shoulder for a bit, I think its just been a bad evening, I'm hormonal and tired and I worry for england. Hubbie is more laid back and gives good cuddles.

I am aiming to go to bed soon though, try to get an early night.

Thanks everyone for your support. I keep having mixed feelings about this pregnancy, sometimes I really want it, other times I think OMG what the hell am I doing?

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Lu T, we crossed posted, I did most of the things you suggested without realising it!

I chatted to hubby about the dummy, I am going to try to get Jack to have his day naps without his dummy, even if I have to stand there stroking his head and offering him his thumb/muslin. Its going to be really hard but we can't be getting up in the night for Jack and a newborn, its going to be too tiring. Jack will be 14 months old nearly 15 months and i'd like him to be able to settle himself.

Its strange though as some naps Jack can wake from not having his dummy in his mouth and lie there quietly until I go and get him, yet other naps as soon as he wakes up he's crying. I guess it depends on how he's feeling.

Hubby helped put things in perspective, he reminded me that Jack is actually quite a good baby, he is mostly happy and always smiling (at anyone) and can amuse himself during the day and doesn't whinge too much. Its just his food/dummy thing I need to crack.

Sometimes I just feel like I am doing it all wrong, I don't want to be a mother whose parenting skills makes more problems, you know like the ones on Little Angels, where its the parents handling of situations makes the child worse and the parents have to change how they are with the children, for the children to change.

I must go to bed ........

Night all

Curious_George_2

My DD was a real dummy sucker, she was a bit older than your bubba but i used to put her in the cot with as many dummies as possible so there was always another one to hand (she needed one in the mouth, one to hold and one to rub across her forehead)

i used to actively discourage any sucking of the thumb, my take on it was....
when we were ready the dummy fairy could come and take them away but there is no fairy to take your thumbs away!
its VERY hard to break that habit once you have started and i hate
seeing kids over a certain age with a thumb stuck in thier gobs *shudder*

I feel the same way about using dummys after a certain age to be honest but as i said, they can be easily taken away!

SusanCarter

Another point with Jack waking and needing the dummy is how dark is it where he sleeps? Presumably he must wake in the night at times between when he goes to bed and 4am and settle back without the dummy so possibly once it gets to 4am and it is lighter outside, he wakes up more fully when he wakes and then needs the dummy whereas at earlier wakings perhaps he doesn't wake up as much because it is darker? I know it's not blazing sun but it was light enough at 4am this morning that I was able to change Alice's nappy in the bathroom without having to put the light on.

Js_Other_Half

Hi Bailey

Our DS is 6 months, and just about find his own dummy during the night - we make sure there are lots of them!
I was limiting the amount of time he had the dummy during the day last week, but decided that was not a great idea when he started to suck his bib, sleeve, and anything else to hand...

You are doing a great job - and whilst I didn't plan to give DS a dummy, for the sake of my sanity he had to have one! He really is a 'sucky' baby - none of the other NCT babies in our group are anywhere near as bad - it's just they way some babies are.

india

I haven't breastfeed my baby for 2 days because I decided to put her on formula. I have now changed my mind.

Is it too late? I feel like I still have milk but is it healthy to try and feed her after all this time?

Also if you formula feed your baby at 2-3 months. How many ounces did they take and how often?

Snaggles

It's fine india, you might just have to feed really regularly for a couple of days for your milk supply to increase again. It's not too late after just a couple of days. Your daughter will probably be highly delighted!

Js_Other_Half

As Snaggles says, it'll be fine...and your body will produce milk again very quickly. Try not to give DD formula if you can avoid it - it's her sucking action that produces more milk.

As for the amount of formula a baby that age has, I cannot tell you for the life of me - and it was only 3 months ago!:o :rotfl:

Snaggles

Just to put your mind at rest india, you can even restart after a few weeks, although it gets harder to restimulate the milk supply the longer it's been. But the milk doesn't 'go off', so there's no health risk.

If she still seems hungry after a feed, you can always put her to the breast, and then offer her some formula afterwards if she's still hungry. The amount of formula needed will decrease as your own milk supply readjusts. But after only a couple of days break, you probably wont even need to do this at all.

Good luck, let us know how you get on.

Snaggles

Sorry, cross posted with js-other-half, and sort of unintentionally contradicted their point about not giving formula - just to clarify, I mean just offer formula if your baby is getting upset due to still being hungry even after having a 'double-barrel feed' (both sides, lol).