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Snaggles

Crikey, Fathers Day, thanks for reminding me!!! I've not wrapped the present or got Ryan to write the card......where on earth did I put them?????

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I did a test this morning even though I woke up with period pains and feel quite uncomfortable. It came up with a faint line. Now I don't know what to do. Do a re-test tommorrow in case I didn't time it right? I forgot to count the mins I just guessed 5. I have my digital one still I could use that in another day or two if nothing happens I guess.

I am sitting here shaking if this is true, part of me doesn't want to believe it. For several reasons,

1) My husband will not be happy, he's only just come around to the idea of having a second baby, until now he's been adament NO. We were going to discuss timing in the autumn.

2) I've been drinking alcohol and although mostly moderately, I did go overboard 2 weeks ago.

3) I've been drinking my supplement milkshakes with vit A in.

4) I've not been taking pregnancare.

5) I had a bone scan nearly 2 weeks ago, I was asked if I was pregnant and I said No.

6) So many people I know had a miscarriage between their first and second children, I feel I have jinxed this baby, if this pregnancy is real.

I don't know what to say to hubbie now. I don't want to spoil father's day, so I am going to keep stchumm today and re-test tuesday if nothing happens.

OMG!!! I feel quite anxious as its not the right timing.

Breathe..........deep breathes...................

Becles

bailey *hugs*

Don't know what to suggest, other than try and keep calm. You need to find out if you are pregnant before you start worrying about the things you have/haven't been doing.

Snaggles

Bailey, sorry you're in a bit of a panic. Try not to worry, the things you have listed are about limiting risk, there's minimal chance you will have caused the baby (if there is one) any harm. I don't know enough about pregnancy tests to know if a faint line is as good as a proper line, but if you're not going to retest straight away, try to relax. From what I have seen of your posts, whatever happens, you will cope.

Take care and very best wishes xx

Lu_T

Snaggles wrote: »

Oh, I am so glad I've read this thread tonight, I've been getting really stressed out about breatfeeding Natasha, and it's so comforting to know I'm not the only person who struggles sometimes.

She's 5 weeks old, and I really want to breastfeed for at least 6 months, but ideally 12 months. But it seems she wants feeding every time anyone comes to our house, or we venture outside the doorstep, and I'm forever apologising for having to disappear off with her for 20 minutes to feed her.

My Mum and Dad are terrible for giving me guilt trips - my Mum is anti-breastfeeding and constantly tells me horror stories, and my Dad seems to think I'm fibbing about having to feed her every 3 hours or so, because he keeps pointing out that she goes for longer that 3 hours at night, so he can't understand why she wont through the day.

MIL tells me it's unhygenic :rolleyes:, my friend keeps telling me it's disgusting having a baby, in her words, 'sucking on your tit' :mad:......I feel like I'm the only person in the world who has ever breast fed.

Well nuts to all of them, I WILL keep going lol!

Edit - Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant!

Oh Snaggles! I've just got back from holiday this lunchtime and have missed all my mummy mates - virtual and real!

A few things I wanted to say on this subject. You are giving your beautiful baby the absolutely best start in life you can. It's what your boobies were made for and it's the most natural thing in the world. B@ll@cks to anyone who thinks differently is what I say.

I hope in time you'll have the confidence to feed your LO wherever you like and if people don't like it (in-laws included) then THEY can leave the room!

I desperately wanted to feed Imogen for as long as possible, definitely the first 6 months but I had to go back to work as I work for myself. She was on bottles during the day and at about 3 1/2 months started screaming when I sat down to give her her evening feed. After 2 weeks of both of us crying (and her arching her back, kicking her feet etc) DH walked in with a bottle and she practically grabbed it from his hands! I sobbed for days when I realised I had to give up feeding her myself but it was her choice and there was little I could do about it.

I was a 'breast-feeding and proud' mum, which I know everyone can't be. You should pat yourself on the back and be confident that what you are doing is the right thing for your baby. If she is thriving and you are also happy it's no one else's bloomin business! Sorry for the mini rant girls, but I feel really strongly about this.

I think a breast-feeding support thread is a great idea and it's the ultimate in god-given moneysaving!! :money:

Bailey - Big hugs. :grouphug: Hope today has been a lovely first father's day, despite yout nerves! Let us all know what happens. Thinking of you in the meantime.

On the subject of bottles I was going to suggest faster flow teats but see that someone already has. Also, he's old enough for a cup, so you could switch him to this instead of bottles. Perhaps he'd be less frustrated if it came out faster? Or perhaps he's just a typical man - lazy, likes to take his time with everything and have us running round after them! (Sorry any blokes reading this. Stereotyping is scientifically proven to lift spirits!)

Highchairs - can't remember who fancied one of those 'hang it on a real chair' high chairs - great invention. Well quick! Bloomin Marvellous are having a sale. The link's here
http://www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/product.aspx?CategoryID=nursery_sale&ProductID=7727_BB634&language=en-GB

I haven't read all of the posts yet, so no doubt I'll have more to say. I'm going to update my avatar at some point with a new holiday piccie. Went great by the way. Imogen loved every minute, just sorry we're back to reality...

Bye for now!

Lu_T

Knew I'd forget something!

We've been using Tots Bots since Imogen was about 2 weeks old. I'd recommend using liners, especially at that runny stage! However, you can wash them - even the disposable ones. Pick and choose which ones though!

We're just about to move her into the size 2s which should do until potty training. The Tots Bots ones we have are the bog standard ones - a hand-me-down and think they were purchased before the snazzy ones were invented. They work pretty much like a disposable, with tags on the sides you pull round and can adjust the size with. Held together with a nappy nipper and then put a waterproof liner on.

Imogen is baby #3 to have used these nappies - hurrah for moneysaving!:money: Think we're going to have to buy some size 2s tho', it's that bit harder to get them looking clean once they move on to this stage and two babies have already used these ones for well over 18 months each. I'm going to supplement with the given ones though.

Hope that helps. Don't forget most local authorities do some kind of incentives if you're buying real nappies and will also have trial packs you can have / pay less for. Just log on to their website and info is generally in the waste section (ie waste minimising, not baby waste!)

Becles

Lu_T wrote: »

I desperately wanted to feed Imogen for as long as possible, definitely the first 6 months but I had to go back to work as I work for myself. She was on bottles during the day and at about 3 1/2 months started screaming when I sat down to give her her evening feed. After 2 weeks of both of us crying (and her arching her back, kicking her feet etc) DH walked in with a bottle and she practically grabbed it from his hands!

Just a little tip that the health visitor gave me when we were talking about introducing bottle feeding.

If breast feeders want to start giving bottles, it's better if someone other than Mammy does it. Babies tend to find comfort in breasts. They will know Mammy and be able to smell the milk on her, so will reject the bottle in favour of the nipple.

If someone else is doing the bottle feed, they won't smell breast milk and be more likely to take the bottle.

Snaggles

Thanks Lu! Hope you had a nice holiday.

Funnily enough, since I posted and got it off my chest (literally ), I feel a lot more relaxed about it and have realised I shouldn't be apologising for having to feed my baby, if people have a problem with it, it's their problem!

As I've just posted on another thread, I think I've maybe got the beginnings of pnd, which probably hasn't helped, but I'm going to speak to the hv this week to see what she thinks. I don't really feel depressed though, just very anxious.

Snaggles

Becles, your advice about getting someone else to give a bottle is spot on we tried giving Natasha a little bit of expressed milk from a bottle yesterday, and she took it no problem when hubby gave it her.

Oddly, I felt a bit sad that she accepted a bottle so easily.....I thought she might have at least put up a BIT of a fight lol!

heather38

snaggles, i felt like that the first time kennedy had a bottle, we went out on christmas eve for an hour and i left a bottle thinking she wouldn't need it, but she had the lot, greedy madam.
i was very upset, but not as much as last week when she totally refused the breast, it broke my heart that she didn't want me anymore!
all is well now, except i have to go out and buy a load more bras as my nursing ones are too big and my pre-pregnancy ones are too small!
babies cost too much money!