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!!!!!!!!!!!!!!{Bailey}}}}}}}}}}

You poor thing, you are in the grips of early motherhood and no matter who says what, with young Jack there too, you really have more than your fair share. I really can't give you any advise as I have never been in your position.

Hope you managed to talk to the MW and have come up with something - take all the help you can and try to remember to take care of yourself first.

:grouphug:

SusanCarter

I think it's very easy to be tearful early on - I remember finding myself crying when I thought about sad things which I wouldn't normally cry about (a bit like when a film makes you cry). It was worst when I was actually feeding Alice which is when OH decided on about day three was a good time to discuss how practical it would be to have another baby given how ill I'd been. I had to actively avoid thinking about some things because I knew they would make me cry.

I didn't know how I would manage when OH went back to work but he went back half days for the first week and then did saturday mornings to help catch up with his work so it meant things could be more gradual and by the time he was back to full days I could manage by myself. We also found it helped writing a list of the essential jobs which needed doing every day so we could just go through the list ticking things off so we could know the basics were done without having to think about them.

Snaggles

Awww Bailey, I really feel for you - PND is horrible, but I am so glad you are taking action straight away instead of waiting until you can't cope at all.

I think you are being too hard on yourself, you are doing really well hun. If you need to talk, you know where we are. I can't remember if it was you who said you felt like a bit of an outsider on this thread, but if so, I still hope you feel you can talk to us. I do feel like you are 'one of us', as is everyone who posts, and you are one of the people I look up to as a great Mum, who copes with whatever life throws your way.

Being a Mum is damned hard work, and I can't even imagine how hard it is with two babies to care for, both with different needs. But I really do believe you will find a way to cope, and in a few weeks you will feel completely differently.

Sorry if that sounds patronising at all.

Becles

Awww bailey *hugs*

I second everything that has been said. Try and take it easy when you can and get plenty of rest. Yes I know that's a stupid thing to say but if someone can watch the children for half an hour, maybe you could have a soak in the bath, or go and read in another room or something you find relaxing.

cha97michelle

Bailey - thanks for taking time out for me to say how the two are getting on.

sorry to hear you are feeling so unsettled. This first bit is the bit where your hormones are all over the shop - at least you are recognising you feel the same as before, and trying to halt things in their tracks.

You will cope fine once you settle into a bit of something like your old routine.

i'm feeling it for you. Will be listening very carefully to any tips you have to as i know it's only about 8/9 weeks till i am in the same boat, then i am sure we will be supportive to each other with any good ideas we have. The only difference is you will be well established by then, and i will be just starting. It will fly by before you know it.

Hugs.
Michelle, xx

SeptemberBaby_2

Becles wrote: »

Charlotte always has a roll around the floor in the nude for 10 minutes before she goes in the bath on an evening. She was rolling around last night, and she kept doing really loud pumps and then cracking up laughing at them. Sadly that game had to end when the last one wasn't just a pump....... :eek: :rotfl:

Oh Becles, that really did make me laugh :rotfl:(sorry! ) x

BIG virtual hug, Bailey xxx

Snaggles

Me too Becles :rotfl: sorry!

SusanCarter

Me too. We've learnt that noxious smells are usually the harbingers of something else so I always take Alice straight to the toilet when I smell them now. Alice has just started properly eating now so they're even smellier now too.

melg1973

big hugs to bailey and thanks to everyone to replied on the wipes/cotton wool balls query. Was beginning to worry I'd gone overboard on the wipe hoarding (can't resist the buy one get one free + coupon or extra tesco points combo!) and they would all dry out before I got to use them!

SusanCarter

melg1973 wrote: »

big hugs to bailey and thanks to everyone to replied on the wipes/cotton wool balls query. Was beginning to worry I'd gone overboard on the wipe hoarding (can't resist the buy one get one free + coupon or extra tesco points combo!) and they would all dry out before I got to use them!

I think I went a bit overboard when they were on offer just after Alice was born (was too ill to shop beforehand) - I've bought 40 packets in total and so far we've used 20 so that means they should last us another 10 1/2 months. I get it from my mum - she never buys full price baked beans and has been known to have 100 tins in the cupboard. :eek: