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purplepatch

cha97michelle wrote: »

I also had the midwife on wednesday who i am coming to the conclusion is useless, as i was saying how tired i felt and ill all the time, and she looked at my iron levels from last time which were pretty good, but as that was 10 weeks ago and i have had so much nausea, i think should get tested again to at least check that isn't the reason, but she wasn't going to. Even DH thinks it has been shoddy this time - no mention of birth plans or how i will feed baby, or chance for me to talk about things concerning me, as if oh, you've done it once so you must be fine. Is it just me or have any of you found that in later pregnancies????


I've also been struggling with my sinuses and feeling really fluey this week. I probably shouldn't have gone into work but i don't want to get behind as i will never catch up in the time i have left.

hopefully i will be able to get a bit of rest this weekend, but it will depend on how good DS is as DH is away working now until Sunday afternoon.

I must look really awful today as i have had people commenting to me about how pale and ill i am looking, ranging from people at work to the woman who served me at the petrol station. :rolleyes: Not so much of the blooming here.

Aww Michelle, take it as easy as you can, you sound like you're not having a lot of fun at the moment. I certainly found that with DD2 the midwives were totally different and I was completely left to my own devices, check ups once a month apart from the very very end when it went fortnightly. No birth plan discussion, although as I'd had emergency cs with DD1 I elected for one with DD2, but that was very late on and was after discussion at the hospital only, my MW was very laidback about it all and just kind of agreed with me rather than discussed anything. They took the attitude that you were experienced with pregnancy and childbirth if you'd done it before! She did spot my iron was low though (mainly as it had been with DD1 so she tested it at around 30 weeks with DD2), so at least she got that sorted.

I think it's dreadful that yours hasn't tested you again given your symptoms, 10 weeks is ages and it can drop in that time. If I were you I think I would make an appointment with your GP on the basis that you have been fluey and sick etc and the MW was unable to help and is there anything they can do type questions.

Anyway hugs to you. Not much longer now.

Dormouse

cha97michelle wrote: »

I also had the midwife on wednesday who i am coming to the conclusion is useless, as i was saying how tired i felt and ill all the time, and she looked at my iron levels from last time which were pretty good, but as that was 10 weeks ago and i have had so much nausea, i think should get tested again to at least check that isn't the reason, but she wasn't going to. Even DH thinks it has been shoddy this time - no mention of birth plans or how i will feed baby, or chance for me to talk about things concerning me, as if oh, you've done it once so you must be fine. Is it just me or have any of you found that in later pregnancies????

Oh yes. I felt I wasn't receiving much 'care' at all the second time round. All my appointments with the MW lasted about 5 mins max (apart from booking in, but that was just form-filling :rolleyes:). The birth plan was done pretty late, probably about 34 weeks (ish), and consisted of her asking me a few set questions (So do you want the same pain relief as last time? Vit K? Who'll cut the cord? I.e. just the basics and not very in depth at all)

So it does look like with your second pg most women are just left to get on with it. How stupid - okay we've done it once but every pregnancy is different!

I agree with Purple, go and see your GP if you're concerned. It's silly that the MW is just ignoring your symptoms like that. :mad:

And take care

Dormouse

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

Oh, and you should see the food stockpile I have ready for weaning.....!!!

LOL, I was (am ) the same, there is something very irresistible about collecting all the little jars and packets! :rotfl:

I accumulated so many samples of baby rice that I haven't had to actually buy any! :T I had two packs from Boots baby club, a couple of packs from Hipp, one from Bounty, and was given a couple, and that was more than enough (still have some sitting in the cupboard, as although Alex doesn't have baby rice on its own anymore, I sometimes use it for thickening up his purees etc).

Another tip for baby food stashers is all the restaurants and service stations that provide free baby food with a purchase of normal food. :T I've been picking up a jar in Ikea (you get one free with every adult meal) since Alex was a newborn. :rotfl:

Sad or what. :rotfl:

siren13577

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I don't blame you and your OH for being annoyed, after all you did say to look after it. Have you let her know you are not best pleased or did you just hide your feelings?

I am unsure if you would be able to get a replacement for it, as baby manufacturers seem to update their stock/colours each year, just so its "New" I suppose. Unless you try on ebay, you may get lucky there.

Are you pregnant again? If so, congratulations and welcome to the club!!

Have you considered another style, make of buggy which is similar? I think maybe you should talk to your sister (at a wise moment) and point out you will need to replace this at cost to you and would she be able to make a few installments over the next few months, that way she hasn't got a large sum to find? I certainly don't think you should just let her off, as she will see you as a walk over and think its ok to not take care of your stuff, family or otherwise its not acceptable. Be careful what you lend her next though, or not as the case may be.

Btw, I have just put "Graco Quattro travel system" into search ebay and it came up with 35 items currently on auction, some new some not. Maybe a quick browse through there might be helpful?

Hi all,
thanks for all your answers, I think I'll try to get a second hand one, but my partner is being stubborn and wants the exact same colour as the one that's broken.

Yes, I'm expecting my second on May 24th, and it's a girl so I'm delighted and have managed to get some bargains for her already

Good luck to everyone else who is due and take care

SeptemberBaby_2

So glad Kennedy is OK, Heather! x

Susan, hope you and Alice both get well soon and glad you have a nice break x

Congrats and welcome to 'the other side' Ella! :hello:. Hope you are both doing well.

Thanks for the tip, Dormouse! Morrisons Cafe also offer jars (Hipp I think). When I asked for one, the chap wanted to know where my baby was so I pointed over to DH......Poppy was all but a week old at the time! :rotfl::D. I'm waiting for a call from the 'weaning nurse' who will visit and go through all the does and don'ts next week.

Can I just ask you ladies when you thought about having baby no2 (or 3!). DH and I spoke about it last night and I think we might TTC soon! :eek:. Not sure if its a wise decision or not but I'm no spring chicken and I really do want at least one more baby .

Becles

There's 2 years and 2 months age difference between my boys. It was nice gap as Joshua was interested in James when he was a baby, and liked to "help" by passing the wipes and getting the clean nappy out and stuff. They've always played nice together. When James got a little older, Joshua liked to read to him and stuff like that which both helped Joshua's reading and James learned from him.

They're 11 and almost 9 now and they are still very close. I know they play together in the yard at school and do after school activities together. James is worried about September as Joshua will be in comprehensive school and he'll be on his own in the primary - bless!

I think I would like to try for number 4 when Charlotte is about 21 months old, so we have a similar age gap.

heather38

kennedy is 15 months and we are ttc now. i like the idea of them being close in age, there are 2 years 3 months between my sister and i and we got on great as kids. not so much as teenagers, infact we hated each other! but thats par for the course as teenagers!

cha97michelle

i got the urge to TTC again when charlie was about 4 months. I managed to resist the urge until he was a bit older, and he was 9 months when i actually fell pregnant.


Be warned though, we weren't even really trying the 1st month, and DH must have just looked at me, as i had an inkling i was pregnant on the friday before returning to work, and then did a test on the wednesday, and i was. :eek: I thought it would take longer than that seriously, although i fell pregnant 1st time of trying with charlie as well. Just very fertile i guess. We will definitely be taking lots of precautions when this one arrives as i think 3 under 3 may be more than enough.

In fact, my head teacher when i told him (don't know if he were more concerned from a not wanting me to leave again point of view) said to me that his family was manageable when 2 were small as that was one each to handle, but when it went to 3, then that was when it was too much.


After how difficult i am finding it this time, i have said in my head i may stick to 2, but i always thought we would have 3, and as this will be DS2, i really would like a girl to finish it off. I know no guarantees, i was going to look into what they reckoned you should feed your hubbie to get a girl - i told him he had to think pink but i reckon he lost his concentration :rotfl:

thanks for all your advice about midwifes - i have told her she will test my iron levels at the next appointment in 2 1/2 weeks. But if i am still so grotty i think you are right, i might need drs too. I thought this one was only dozy as she is normally on labour ward and is covering the maternity leave of the lady i had last time. You never know if is just your opinion. She even got confused over what blood group i was, so i had to ask at the hospital for them to check my records in case i needed the anti-d? whatever if your blood is negative. Also, i want to be tested for strep b as i had it last time, and i don't want the new baby to have the same fuss as charlie (canula and 3 days of anibiotics) when they can just give them me in labour - although it will mean i have a drip and can't move round too much, but i would rather have the suffering. It's scary how quick the time is passing, and i just want to be organised if you know what i mean, particularly as charlie was also 8 days early, so i am fully expecting at least the same this time.

Anyway, speaking of the devil, i think he may have woken up, so i had best go get him, and sort out his lunch.

Michelle, x

Dormouse

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

Can I just ask you ladies when you thought about having baby no2 (or 3!). DH and I spoke about it last night and I think we might TTC soon! :eek:. Not sure if its a wise decision or not but I'm no spring chicken and I really do want at least one more baby .

I'd say go for it if you feel it's right for you. I know loads of mums with a very small gap between two (or three! :eek:) babies, and albeit exhausted, they are very happy.

I have to admit that having babies close together was not for us though, for a whole bunch of reasons (there's 4 years and 1 month between my two monsters ). The main reason was I just didn't feel ready; my DS1 is a very active child (in a nice way - most of the time :rotfl: ) and me being a SAHM, I just didn't feel I could manage with two (perhaps if I had gone back to work and had a break away from him, I would've felt different ). Also, there were financial reasons and the fact that we didn't have any family living nearby so it was literally 24/7.

I do think each age gap has its advantages and disadvantages. I'm loving the 4-year gap between my boys, as they're close enough in age but also independent, and I don't have to be rushing around DS1 all the time. But as I said, whatever works for you. :T

And have fun TTCing - it's great not having to worry about contraception :j

Lu_T

Hi girls

Glad all the babies are ok.

Ella - we did the same with bottles. Sterilised and filled with boiled water at night, then put in the fridge (when cool) and added formula when needed. It's strictly against the advice these days which is to make it up as you need each one, but that's hugely impractical with a screaming baby. My friends mum is a MW and she recommended making a day's up all at once and keeping in the fridge.

TTC - we're hoping to try later this year. I'm only back to the office in March so this is partly guilt on my part as I'll have been off for16 months, but also, I'd really like a summer baby (that's what Imogen was meant to be, we got a bit carried away with 'trying', thought it was a good idea to be trying on hols :rotfl: ) We also got caught first time - which is apparently when you're most fertile. It was 10 days from me having my implant removed to conceiving. OH was like a dog with two !!!!s!! So it's August/September for us to try again, hoping for a new LO any time from May onwards.

We're going away in 4 weeks and getting very excited!:j :j We're seeing friends in Tenerife and going for 3 weeks :T :T It's my treat just before I go back to work.

Hope you've all had good weekends!