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daphne_descends

Maz you have to do what you're comfortable with, all I will add is that the guidelines recommend that your baby is in your room for the first six month because this lowers the risk of SIDS - by half - they just don't know why this lowers the risk. One theory is that the parents' breathing close by helps to regulate that of a baby's.

Hawksmuir can you request to see a different health visitor? What a stupid reply you got

Yorkshirechick

Well Taylor is still a bit jaundiced so we had to go to see a paediatrician today and get some blood tests done. It wasn't very nice at all, they seemes to take loads of blood, and it wasn't like a heel !!!!! test, they took loads out of his hand and he was screaming for ages.
The doctor didn't tell me what he was doing and I had to keep asking all the time :mad: and then when the nurse took his clothes off, she noticed the little sore bits on his legs where his nappy has rubbed him, and asked me what they were in a right accusing voice :mad:
So after the midwife coming round, then going to the hospital, I just had time to give him a feed and then the health visitor came round. We've had no time to ourselves all day... At least we didn't have time to get bored on our first day by ourselves
The hospital rang me with the results and said that 3 of the tests have come back fine, but for one of them they didn't get enough blood, so we have to go back on Thursday and they're gonna take more blood :mad:

Mean old doctors!!

cha97michelle

i am feeling really mean today.

As i dropped charlie off at nursery i managed to trap another kids fingers under the door.

That is as well as charlie looking pebble dashed where he fell down the stairs in the garden the other day. so i don't just abuse my own child, i do it to other people's too. It is getting so hard to see round my bump to what is under my feet.

bailey i can't believe how close you are to the end now. Keep going girl, and it will all be better in a short while. Nothing can be worse than the waddling round and trying to look after the other tiddler.

yorkshire chick good to hear your tests came back ok - sorry you have to go back. Be prepared that they might also have to use the veins in your babies ankles if they get no joy. Apparently they have to be careful to not get a sample of clotted blood as it can be hard then to test the blood, so that is why they don't squeeze the vein to get blood out. Did they give your baby sugar water to stop him getting upset? I luckily had my MIL drive me when i took charlie for his tests, and she had to help me hold him still as i couldn't do it. It seemed so cruel for such a small baby.


questions i remember - sleeping - charlie went into his own room at 11 weeks, which was when he started sleeping through, and i think that was from 7pm to 5:00ish - which was still hard to get up then but at least me and DH got a bit of time together. Over time that sleep then got longer. When he woke up at 5, that was it, we got up and the day started downstairs. He has had a fab routine from that stage, and usually does 7-7 now, unless he is woken up by a dirty bum or some teething pains. Even when he wakes up he drops off again after a cuddle and some medicine within 30 mins. I think the new baby will be a shock to my system - hope he won't wake charlie up.

bottles - i have never heated a bottle up for charlie - all served at room temp. He would never wait longer than that, even now cries if it isn't there within a minute. :rotfl: I breastfed exclusively for 4 weeks, then evening bottle from then, and eventually we went to fully bottle fed around the four month mark. Again, i'm hoping to breast feed again, but we'll see how that goes, and i am certainly not stressing myself out.

I think i am coming up now to that energy slump at the end of pregnancy. I slept really badly last week. I think a good bit of it is stress at trying to get things done ready for the baby. Also, work are being a bit of a nightmare as the goalposts keep moving and there are so many deadlines. I am getting a bit nervous as they haven't found anyone to cover me for the year yet, and i will be leaving in 71/2 weeks, and i know i shouldn't worry as it won't be my problem, but i have worked so hard this year with my exam groups in particular and i don't want them to be left in the lurch with a couple of months to go till the big day. Will see how it goes anyway.


Best go as DH has cooked dinner tonight, and as usual i am starving - burnt up to much energy being stressed i think. :rolleyes:


Michelle, x

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Michelle, I think the age our toddlers (no longer baby babies now - big babies maybe) are, its part of their job description to bash themselves and fall over, rarely a day goes by without Jack being in some sort of crisis.

I know what you mean about not sleeping etc, i'm getting the same and my ribcage feels like its going to explode out from the pressure inside, I am now most uncomfortable, like I said before, someone has to give and its not going to be me!!

I saw my MW today, forgive me if I'm repeating myself, but she agreed the baby was now around the 6lb mark, head still down in the normal presentation, 2/5ths engaged and braxtons hicks regularly through the day, several times an hour. This little girl thinks nothing of pulling a mooney combined with a uncomfortable braxton hick, forcing me to just stand there and wait it out. She said she doesn't think i'll go for much longer and told me when she is on duty next week :-)

I had an appointment with the physio directly afterwards as my SPD has got so much worse, i've been banned from walking too far, lifting too much and basically do anything except breathe!! Boring..... My highlight of this week has been going to tesco with mum and jack and pushing the trolley around, even that made me extremely breatheless.

She couldn't believe how wonky I am, I am tilted to the left, the baby is lying on my left side like Jack did, but its affected me more this time. She took a lot of history and gave me a support belt, crutches (for times when I really can't move my legs and get stuck) and some acupuncture to relive some pain. She also told me to use my TENS machine which will help with the pelvic and back pain. I've got another appointment to see her on the 29th, providing nothing has happened then.

Jack is going to DH's parents tomorrow, his day has changed from Friday to Wednesday now he's started Over 1's on a Friday. We used to go to Under 1's on a Wednesday, but since he's been walking the toys and things just weren't appropriate for his ability any more. We've been twice now and he loves it, proper toddler toys, singing songs, storytime and they get a drink/biscuit half way through. Last week they had the slide out, Jack seemed more intent on going up the wrong way and he loves the plastic house. I knew he would as he makes a beeline for it when I have taken him to our local soft play centre. Under 1's/Over 1's are free, even the mum's get a drink and a snack, its run by our local kings church and even though we don't go, it doesn't matter, its open to anyone in the community with a child of suitable age. Even our soft play centre is free for Jack and I until he walks properly and 50p for an extra adult. Last week Mum and I took him just to get out the house on a rainy day and they didn't even charge for Mum, maybe as it was quiet. Jack is walking well but does still trip and couldn't manage the bigger equipment on his own, so until then i don't see the point in paying. I'll reckon we shall get away with it until he is around 18 months or so.

Sorry i've waffled on quite a lot this evening, i'm on my own as DH is out, he didn't get home from work till 10pm last night, ate his tea then carried on working from home. There was a crisis at work and he had to solve it, so people could log in in the morning. I don't think we'll properly catch up now till tomorrow night......maybe? Mum has often commented that its like being a single parent at times, but some weeks are worse than others, but I do know what she means as i've thought it myself.

Some good news, I found out today we do qualify for maternity allowance and we'll receive a back payment in a few days, that will help things and i'll get it until the end of aug 2008. Hurrah! Tax credits told me I don't need to declare it, so that's a bonus too.

Must go, let someone else have a look in......

Night all

Bay

Becles

Mazcabs wrote: »

1. Been using Pampers New Baby nappies (now on size 3) and need to move up a size, do I move onto Pampers Active Fit for the day and Pampers Baby Dry for the night or can you use either all day ? PS anyone found own brand nappies the same as Pampers ?

I've used Active Fit before when I had vouchers for them, and just used them day and night and they were fine.

Have you tried Tesco own brand nappies? I use them most of the time, and they are really good and cheap too! I usually get the ones in the green packet, but have used the purple packet ones too and they are good as well.

2. Also how son did you move your littlen's into their own rooms ?

From day 1! I know literature says they should be in with you from 6 months, but I can't sleep if a baby is in my room. I just lay awake listening to all the little snuffly noises they make as I keep thinking they are going to wake up any minute. Then I end up knackered as I've not had a decent sleep. My theory is that the babies would rather have a refreshed and happy mother who has had a decent sleep, rather than a tired mother at the end of her tether through not sleeping.

My first baby spent a few nights in our room before I moved him out so I could sleep and my second and third babies just went in their own room from birth.

purplepatch

Mazcabs wrote: »

2. Also how son did you move your littlen's into their own rooms ? HF is now 12 weeks and really want to start him in bigger cot but dont want to do it too soon as everywhere says 6 months with you.

I really loved having my 2 in our room, I always felt happiest knowing they were no more than an outstretched arm away and I was reassured by the fact that I could hear them breathing and snuffling. Saying that, we moved DD1 well before she was 6 months as we were all disturbing each other.

However, with DD2 we kept her in with us until she was over 6 months. She outgrew the moses basket early on, but we managed to squidge the cot next to our bed by shunting the furniture around a bit. Perhaps that is an option for you if you prefer to keep him nearby for a while longer?

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We moved Jack when he was about 4-5 weeks old, he was just disturbing us too much and what little sleep we were getting wasn't quality. The first few nights were still disturbed as i had to get used to new noises and listening from down the hallway for him, but it was much better. DH was also of the opinion, if he was going to die in his sleep, there was nothing we could do about it if we slept through it.

A friend of mine knows someone who's baby was having a bad night and they brought them downstairs and sat upright on the sofa with them lying upwards on their chest. They both dozed off and in the morning the father woke to find the baby had died on his chest..........horrible but nothing he could have done. As DH says, if its going to happen its going to happen. I'm tempted to use a dummy again though due to helping prevent SIDS. But we'll definitely introduce the dummy lead earlier once her co-ordination to reel it in at night is there.

3KIDSNOMONEY

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A friend of mine knows someone who's baby was having a bad night and they brought them downstairs and sat upright on the sofa with them lying upwards on their chest. They both dozed off and in the morning the father woke to find the baby had died on his chest..........horrible but nothing he could have done. As DH says, if its going to happen its going to happen. I'm tempted to use a dummy again though due to helping prevent SIDS. But we'll definitely introduce the dummy lead earlier once her co-ordination to reel it in at night is there.

What a dreadful story - you just have to hope that you aren't one of the unlucky ones don't you?

My youngest is nearly 5 and i am currently on the pregnancy board so don't feel like i have graduated to this board yet as 35 weeks now, but i do have a nosy on here and post occasionally. Not looking forward to all the sleepless nights, feeding problems, poo problems! etc.

SeptemberBaby_2

I love having my baby close to me and she won't be moving into her nursery until 6 months, as per the guidelines. I would get less sleep as I'd keep getting up to check on her! I love hearing her breathe and shuffle about. It reassures me...I have never slept the same as pre baby and certainly don't expect to again until she is at least 21 :rotfl:.

siren13577

Hi all,

This is a bit off topic but as this is the parents forum I thought it would be okay. Last year my sister was expecting a baby and as he was diagnosed with a disability I thought it would be a nice gesture I'd lend her my Graco Quattro travel system. Just to identify it, it came with an autobase car seat and was like this model:
http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3590270/Trail/C%24cip%3D1500012028.Baby%2Band%2Bnursery%3EC%24cip%3D1500012038.Pushchairs.htm
but was in purple, grey and cream.
Unfortunately when Sam was born he was too ill to survive and we lost him. I said my sister could keep hold of the buggy and use it for her youngest daughter who was just before the stage of toddling. With no plans to have another baby this was fine, I asked her to take care of it, as my partner's family had bought it for us in 2004 for my son and it was in really good condition (sorry this is turning into a bit of a rant as we're really annoyed as she didn't take care of it at all) When I asked for it back before christmas last year she admitted it was damaged and told me she'd been allowing the dog to sit in the basket when she took it shopping, fine as a puppy but when the dog started to grow, it carried on jumping in there at home because my sister and her hubby never folded it down. So the basket is ripped beyond use, also my sister managed to destroy the wheel, at the centre of the spokes and has come off altogether. She must have been really rough with it, she's always been a bit heavy handed, so now I'm stuck, my partner is really cross and I'm dealing with the stress of trying to placate him, and she cannot pay to repair it as her maternity allowance has stopped and my partner knows this. Anyway rant over, the point is does anyone have one of these buggy's in ths colour? Do you know what it is called? It's purple piping, cream and greyish suede cover. They seem to have names like stockholm and stuff but this is a model from 2004.

Thanks for anyone who can answer this question, sorry for venting and sorry if off topic.