cleanliness

LE3

vroombroom wrote: »

My offer still stands folks - tea and a few custard creams. I have my own transport and cleaning products:D

where are you - anywhere near me & you have a job!

I make my bed every morning & try to remember to give the bathroom a quick swipe over when I'm in there so it never gets really grungy. Yesterday's dirty washing makes it to the basket daily & a load gets done when there's enough (I live alone so it's nowhere near as often as if there were loads of people in the house!)
Floors get vacuumed once a week upstairs & down - but the stairs only monthly (my most hated task!)
As I use stuff it gets put in the dishwasher & I run that when it's full - and it's not every day! kitchen surfaces get wiped whenever I notice anything manky on them & maybe a decent wipe over every week or so.

I am another who rarely washes curtains - they'd take way to long to unhook/lift down & reput up!

Steel_2

puddy wrote: »

this makes me feel a lot better. my OH opens drawers and cupboards and then doesnt shut them, spills things and leaves it there. I have a no shoes rule in the house, which means that he wears his slippers, but then he goes and wears them outside instead of changing into his shoes. he leaves messy bowls, crumbs (never eats with a plate) all over the place. doesnt place things in bins, just leaves them on the top

it drives me mad

I'm with you on the shoes! I have that rule too. Surprising how many times dirty trainers worn in the garage while repairing cars are still walked straight across the living room carpet.

I got so mad after he put oil on the carpet once I screamed. Now he *tiptoes* across the carpet if he has the trainers on, which is ridiculous as he's drawing attention to the fact he's *still* wearing the dirty trainers in the house and hasn't left them by the front door.

Oh and I went to put something away in the drawer the other day to find he had done that tabelcloth trick except with a T-shirt and it hadn't worked. I had to refold all the previously ironed, but now creased upturned clothing that had been hastily stuffed back in the drawer.

YORKSHIRELASS

I think that it should be down to individual choice as to how you live and how clean (or not) your house is. Unless of course its so bad that its making your kids ill or something!!!

If you are worried that you are doing too much housework then that says it all really.

I remember a conversation I had with a male work colleague once. It really stuck in my mind. He was saying how his wife was a SAHM and spent most days cleaning and doing housework. He would come home from work and she would tell him that she had washed all the paintwork or cleaned on top of the kitchen cupboards. He told me that he could never really tell what she had been doing and the house never looked any different. He also said he wished she would go out and enjoy herself more and he would be happy to chip in with some cleaning on a weekend but she always told him he was useless at it.

When I became a SAHM myself I thought about this sometimes and asked myself does anyone really notice or care if the floor gets mopped every day? Am I just doing it for the sake of it or to make myself feel better? Now I try and get a balance between keeping a clean and presentable home and enjoying other things in life too.

gratefulforhelp_2

I know a SAHM whose husband's reson for leaving her was that she was always cleaning at the weekends...

balletshoes

Steel wrote: »

Oh and I went to put something away in the drawer the other day to find he had done that tabelcloth trick except with a T-shirt and it hadn't worked. I had to refold all the previously ironed, but now creased upturned clothing that had been hastily stuffed back in the drawer.

I used to do that, now I don't bother - my daughter does it too, so if either of them have no uncreased clothes to wear, its not my problem anymore.

*Twinkle*

my OH is a clean freak and very obsessive about it, so much so i dread when he's home at weekends cos i know that all he's gonna do is clean what doesnt need cleaning, then moan at me for not helping...............it really does get me down how he is cos he expects me to be like it too and i'm not,
i'll hoover and polish downstairs daily, tidy the kitchen, make the beds, do the washing, the bathroom i'd probably do twice a week, hoover upstairs and dig the kids bedrooms out once a week, this i consider normal, however he does the whole house daily, he will look for jobs to do that i wouldnt even think about stressing over, he drives me mad and yes, we argue about it and i've told him he has to calm it down or leave, seriously, he is bad!!!

bestpud

I've mentioned this before, but it suits this thread well!

My gran always said she could guarantee her housework would wait for her if she didn't do it, but she could not guarantee she or her family would be there tomorrow!

She passed away suddenly in her eighties, on her way home from a regular dance she went to. It was around midnight and we have photos of her dancing an hour earlier, plus her almost empty flask of rum that she always took as she was too tight to pay the bar prices!

When we went round to the house, the washing up was still in the sink, her dirty bowl and cup by her chair in the lounge. Her clothes were in the bathroom floor, along with her wet towel and the house was generally untidy.

Despite our obvious shock and sadness, we had a good laugh about her being right all along.

Would we rather have found her dead in an immaculate house? Not a chance!

Life is too short. Nothing wrong with an immaculate home, but of it rules your life then maybe it's time for a rethink?

Tish_P

Bestpud, your Gran is my new role model. A long and happy life seen off with a dance and a tipple - that's the way to do it.

red_devil

bestpud wrote: »

I've mentioned this before, but it suits this thread well!

My gran always said she could guarantee her housework would wait for her if she didn't do it, but she could not guarantee she or her family would be there tomorrow!

She passed away suddenly in her eighties, on her way home from a regular dance she went to. It was around midnight and we have photos of her dancing an hour earlier, plus her almost empty flask of rum that she always took as she was too tight to pay the bar prices!

When we went round to the house, the washing up was still in the sink, her dirty bowl and cup by her chair in the lounge. Her clothes were in the bathroom floor, along with her wet towel and the house was generally untidy.

Despite our obvious shock and sadness, we had a good laugh about her being right all along.

Would we rather have found her dead in an immaculate house? Not a chance!

Life is too short. Nothing wrong with an immaculate home, but of it rules your life then maybe it's time for a rethink?

my gran always preffered gardening to housework she had a lovely garden.

jakes-mum

I am OCD with certain cleaning rituals, all my work surfaces have to be wiped down after use, I wipe light switches and door handles (I have a husband and a son and some men just wont wash their hands after having a wee!) and I have to wash my hands after touching bins, dirty washing, and wiping things down (dont ask me why they are not clean when im holding a cleaning wipe!!)
Im virtually housebound with M.E so pushing the hoover round everywhere, dusting etc is way beyond my capabilities so ive had to just accept that I cant live in a pristine house and that piles of washing will sit folded in baskets until my mum comes to pick them up to iron them for me. My husband works a 3 shift pattern and does things when he can like washing the kitchen floor, but to be honest the house doesnt look any better or worse if we do it everyday or leave it a few days.

Bestspud I love your grans thinking, each time the house starts to get to me a bit (im stuck looking at it all day everyday!) im going to think of her and smile