Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

michaels

DS used to run terrified out of the room when the nice lady suddenly chimes up with 'Virus database updated' - especially as we told him it was Nanny McPhee

I like Avira best but for some reason on my laptop it stopped updating even manually and then refused to reinstall after an uninstall. I am using the windows firewall on some PCs but like AVG now it is a bit resource hungry.

DervProf wrote: »

Avast (I`ve switched between AVG & Avast over the years, but have stuck with Avast over the past ~3 years). It seems to look after itself and doesn't slow my PC down. The lady who announces the virus database updates also sounds quite nice. I think she must be a relative of Mrs SatNav.

lostinrates

John_Pierpoint wrote: »

So what is this act of rebellion that has her DH so rattled?

For the sake of argument, I'd say its roughly equivalent to her getting a horse. I say that because its something nice people can equate with me. I'd say its cheaper than that though, and less of a time hassle. As I say though for me its far more intrinsic a problem.

Wheezy_2

GDB2222 wrote: »

Why Malwarebytes as well as an anti-virus?

Because anti-virus has been known not to pick up certain forms of malware.
http://www.beyourownit.com/why-should-you-use-both-anti-virus-and-anti-spyware-software.html

I'm sure there's a more technical explanation somewhere, but gotta go now...have a nice evening, nice people.

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

No, its not an infidelity....nor share of washing up. Sort of just that he intrinically is a controlling jerk. She wants to do something, (easily affordable for them) and he won't ''allow it''. He's generally very controlling and talks about ''his money'' etc. Personally, for me that's worse than a flirtation...because its an intrinsic part of who he is. For some reason she's of the opinion she's lucky to have him. She's made huge life compromises to keep him sweet and he.....goes on holiday with out her, tells her how she can spend ''his'' money or not and puts her down. Ultimately, she's chosen him, and all I can do is buy the drinks and listen and find the correct interjections...I tried some tactics for getting around the issue that's brought it to ahead, but she's too worried to ''defy'' him, and tbh, its not the issue that's the REAL issue.

You quite sure she doesn't want to be dominated in this way? After all, she chose him.

John_Pierpoint

lostinrates wrote: »

For the sake of argument, I'd say its roughly equivalent to her getting a horse. I say that because its something nice people can equate with me. I'd say its cheaper than that though, and less of a time hassle. As I say though for me its far more intrinsic a problem.

Oh I was guessing wrong:

Spend 25 quid on a manicure?
Spend 250 quid on a pair of shoes/handbag?
Spend 2500 quid on fancy work tops?.
Spend 25000 quid on a "Ballad of Lucy Jordan" sports car?
Spend 250000 quid on a romantic half timbered listed second home miles from anywhere?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0KV-PTK0UZ4&feature=artist
or about thirty years later, with a drug and nicotine modulated voice
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjuTsmyzCs0&feature=related
and just to put the 40 - 50 years into context
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0IiPwwdw4I&feature=artist

Ah well 27 seems to be the dangerous age?

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

You quite sure she doesn't want to be dominated in this way? After all, she chose him.

That's a really good point. I might ask her.*

I don't think so though. I think she was worried she was going to end up on the shelf and settled. I think he's done well for himself in life, and hasn't developed grace or couthness (couthness? Is that a word?) at the same rate at he's developed a station in life. FWIW she has a cracking mother-in-law problem too. I think she's very easily third in the marriage behing her mil, maybe behind the kids and pets too.


edit* actually, I wonder if this could be it. But then, what can her friends do about it. I wouldn't say she's a whinger, far from it actually, and she's quite self assured and quietly confident in most ways. Why are relationships the undoing of so many good people?

John_Pierpoint

lostinrates wrote: »

For the sake of argument, I'd say its roughly equivalent to her getting a horse. I say that because its something nice people can equate with me. I'd say its cheaper than that though, and less of a time hassle. As I say though for me its far more intrinsic a problem.

Stop me if I have told this story before but:

Back in 1981 we thought we would be forced to move from our home by economic necessity, and we sought a valuation for it.
Well a half acre would be enhanced if it could also have a paddock.
So off I went to see if I could do a deal with the old farmer neighbour, who was in trouble financially, according to the rumour mill.
I tracked him down to a sitting room lit by a 45 watt bulb and struggled to make my pitch. Initial reaction "It is out of the question" at which point an old crone in a rocking chair (his 90 year old mum!) piped up with "....Let's hear what the young man has to say..."

[Well they could not have sold it to me because it already belonged to the trustee in bankruptcy! I later learned.]

As he was seeing me out under the 15 watt bulb in the hallway, he ventured the following "What do you want a horse for ?!? One of those things will cost you more than a wife."

Does girl friend in question have an (earned?) income of her own?
How intrusive is MIL? (lives next door and has her own key:eek:)

SingleSue

GDB2222 wrote: »

Ahem, Avira AntiVir Personal is free and very, very good. Can't you cancel your paid-for virus scanner and spend the money on stuff like food?

Not now I can't....didn't even realise it was on auto renewal to be honest. I always used to use AVG free but McAffee came free for 2 years, I paid for it last year (well dad gave me the money for it anyway) and must have clicked auto renewal although I distinctly remember thinking "Begger clicking that button!"

What's done is done though and we will just have to muddle through, food is not an issue so much as we had a BBQ yesterday and as usual, everyone over bought and gave us the bits and bobs which were not cooked as they didn't want to take them home ( caravan fridges and compartment freezers are not the biggest in the world).

Even going over to the club need not cost the earth, I got into the habit in the year after me and hubby split (and my spending money for the week including food was £45) of having a jug of free water and the boys cordial (30p a glass) and nursing them for the entire night.

Luckily, my parents are here too so if the worst comes to the worse, bank of mum and dad is available......they treated us all to an ice cream today when we walked along the prom!

SingleSue

DervProf wrote: »

Avast (I`ve switched between AVG & Avast over the years, but have stuck with Avast over the past ~3 years). It seems to look after itself and doesn't slow my PC down. The lady who announces the virus database updates also sounds quite nice. I think she must be a relative of Mrs SatNav.

Malwarebytes (or IOBIT MalwareFighter).

Windows Firewall.

Windows Updates.

That keeps my PC running nicely.

Also, I kind of recommend IOBIT AdvancedSystemCare, but I have recently had odd experiences with it on a Vista based laptop. It only every seems to do good on XP or Windows 7.

I really could not stand Avast, we got that free with the freebie laptop they gave out to those on a low income/benefits. Horrible anti virus that I just could not get along with, in the end, I removed it and installed AVG free.

misskool

lostinrates wrote: »

Sometimes you get a good piece of pineapple etc here. Not often though. That said, its hard to get decent other stuff too. Rock hard stone fruit seems to be a big feature in supermarkets, and wrinkly ones in green gorcers. The peppers and my local green grocer are pretty much always wrinkly, but they do good eat that day ripe fruit, and I'd give one of their pineapples a whirl too. I had the best avocado I have eaten in the UK from the grocers a couple of weeks ago. I almost wept at its gorgeousness.


edit: persimmons available here are my gripe: horrid. There is some one out side the tube station for finchley road, just near the finchley road/swiss cottage waitrose who has excellent ones in season. We used to buy a box ful and eat little else for a weekend. The ones elsewhere are not ripe and never go ripe, straight to mouldy, and are clear and solid not fragile little bags of translucent fruity ambrosia.

ohhh...fruit.

i can weep for what is being sold as mangoes and melons here.

I still buy them in hope and one day I will get something I like. Persimmons too.