Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

John_Pierpoint

It is plum season here:
Black Plums
Victoria Plums
Cherry plums (red) out of the hedgerow
and (cross fingers) Greengages that now have a yellowing bloom trending to red and not (yet) a thunderstorm to split them.

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

OH's grandparents brought plastic knives and forks and paper plates when they came to stay with OH and his parents and brother, though!

My son as a student shared a house; one of the other housemates was a vegetarian - similar problem with kitchen utensils, especially the chopping board:D

This long humid summer should give a good crop of wild mushrooms in the local fields: Field, Gypsy and Horse mushrooms - there is something very English about avoiding mushrooms - In France the green cross pharmacists are expected to mug up on the edibility of wild fungus and advise accordingly.

lostinrates

My plums are ALMOST ready. I can tell because the dogs are circling the trees when they are in the garden, eyeing them up greedily. Last week big dog was in the front garden and started hoovering gages of the tiny but productive gage tree.

Our dogs have always loved PYO. Some are more selctive than others. Big dog hoovers everything in reach relatively systematically. Others circle the trees looking, choosing, carefully selecting before leaping up to pick.

lostinrates

I need help.

Going out with a friend tonight who is very, very cross with her husband. female friendship insists I listen with the right phrases...neither lying and telling her I think her husband is great (tbh I think he's a jerk) but also mustn't critisise him.

I think I exhausted the standard approach or ''I think you're amazing'' ''I wish I had your patience'' on the phone. I need some new material for ''don't get me involved''. They will not split up over this issue, I';m sure, but its not my place to criticise him and also, if I do and it gets back to him he might forbid us ''playing'' together in the future. Or she might be too embarrassed to.

Any stock phrases anyone else uses?

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

My plums are ALMOST ready. I can tell because the dogs are circling the trees when they are in the garden, eyeing them up greedily. Last week big dog was in the front garden and started hoovering gages of the tiny but productive gage tree.

Our dogs have always loved PYO. Some are more selctive than others. Big dog hoovers everything in reach relatively systematically. Others circle the trees looking, choosing, carefully selecting before leaping up to pick.

Is there anything that you can reach that big dog cannot?

As for your friend, how about: "All men are bar stewards. Yours is probably no worse than the rest." Or is that still criticism?

DervProf

Wheezy wrote: »

True. I was running AVG, but that has become quite resource hungry lately and I swapped it for Avira. Quite happy with it.

It seems a bit of a waste to spend money on a paid anti-virus program when you're on a tight budget.

There's plenty of good freeware antivirus/firewall/spyware applications out there.

For me it's a combination of Avira, ZoneAlarm and Malwarebytes.

Avast (I`ve switched between AVG & Avast over the years, but have stuck with Avast over the past ~3 years). It seems to look after itself and doesn't slow my PC down. The lady who announces the virus database updates also sounds quite nice. I think she must be a relative of Mrs SatNav.

Malwarebytes (or IOBIT MalwareFighter).

Windows Firewall.

Windows Updates.

That keeps my PC running nicely.

Also, I kind of recommend IOBIT AdvancedSystemCare, but I have recently had odd experiences with it on a Vista based laptop. It only ever seems to do good on XP or Windows 7.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

Is there anything that you can reach that big dog cannot?

she's taller than me, but we have ladders

The gages are on the other side of a fence that frustrates her.

The thing is.....she'd met dh and knows some men are wonderful. But I could try, ''MOST men are wretches, and yours is no worst than them''. Thing is, generally, I quite like men.

GDB2222

Why Malwarebytes as well as an anti-virus?

GDB2222

Back with friend's husband: I assume we're talking infidelity here, not just a failure to do his share of the washing up? Women just sympathise. Men look for solutions, eg what can you do to spice up your sex life, what's he searching for that you don't give him, or want me to go round and get big dog to knock some sense into him? Come to think of it, you might be on safer ground with sympathy.

Sorry, I'm not taking this more seriously, but really she needs to get a hold of the situation or it will just repeat itself. Or, perhaps she should just forgive him/turn a blind eye. The once-off fling at the Xmas party, for example, maybe it's best not to make a calamity out of a crisis.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

Back with friend's husband: I assume we're talking infidelity here, not just a failure to do his share of the washing up? Women just sympathise. Men look for solutions, eg what can you do to spice up your sex life, what's he searching for that you don't give him, or want me to go round and get big dog to knock some sense into him? Come to think of it, you might be on safer ground with sympathy.

Sorry, I'm not taking this more seriously, but really she needs to get a hold of the situation or it will just repeat itself. Or, perhaps she should just forgive him/turn a blind eye. The once-off fling at the Xmas party, for example, maybe it's best not to make a calamity out of a crisis.

No, its not an infidelity....nor share of washing up. Sort of just that he intrinically is a controlling jerk. She wants to do something, (easily affordable for them) and he won't ''allow it''. He's generally very controlling and talks about ''his money'' etc. Personally, for me that's worse than a flirtation...because its an intrinsic part of who he is. For some reason she's of the opinion she's lucky to have him. She's made huge life compromises to keep him sweet and he.....goes on holiday with out her, tells her how she can spend ''his'' money or not and puts her down. Ultimately, she's chosen him, and all I can do is buy the drinks and listen and find the correct interjections...I tried some tactics for getting around the issue that's brought it to ahead, but she's too worried to ''defy'' him, and tbh, its not the issue that's the REAL issue.

John_Pierpoint

So what is this act of rebellion that has her DH so rattled?