Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

silvercar

lostinrates wrote: »

it separates cream from milk, by centrafugal force.....i.e. a poor old milk made winds the handle fast (even so the degree its been stuck down too is ridiculous). Then you have cream separate from milk. rather than very creamy milk.

http://www.go-self-sufficient.com/gadget-cream.htm

mine ould ave been a bit more like this...a little more basic though

http://etc.usf.edu/clipart/27200/27260/cream_separa_27260.htm

Once extracted from the floor, do you sell it?

Where would you sell such a thing?

Visions of lir on "flog it" or "Antiques Roadshow".

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

Once extracted from the floor, do you sell it?

Where would you sell such a thing?

Visions of lir on "flog it" or "Antiques Roadshow".

no, we're keeping it. I want to use it, if I can find a bowl, or, otherwise, tur it into a salad spiner. but it has to come out o that the floor can have heatig put under it, be cleaned up, relaid and the alls rebuilt around it all: presumably not in that order!

LydiaJ

lemonjelly wrote: »

lemonjelly. Not a morning person....

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I think 10am is indecently early.

LydiaJ. Not a morning person either.

The new builder is coming to quote on Sunday. Today he phoned me to fix a time for him to come round for it. A time? You mean I actually get to know what time you're going to arrive before you get here? So I can plan the rest of my day accordingly? This is all very new and radical and outside my previous experience of builders.

I went for a drink with a bunch of mums from DS's class today. Some of you will remember that he has been being bullied by 3 boys, X, Y & Z. X & Y have been trouble for ages, but Z used to be a great kid, and indeed one of DS's friends. I used to see quite a lot of his mother when the children were smaller and we had to do more hanging about in the playground waiting for them. She's training as a counsellor (or perhaps she's finished training now, I'm not sure) and is a generally caring and lovely person. She was at the drinks thingy, so I took the opportunity to talk to her as we were leaving.

I played it very non-aggressively. She asked me how DS and DD were handling their latest bereavement. I talked about that, and then I talked about how stuck DS has been with his bereavement of his dad. I said he wasn't dealing very constructively with friendships with a lot of the rest of the class - that he withdraws from them, and after a bit they give up trying to get him to join in, and then relationships break down. I said there seemed to have been some friction between DS and Z, and asked if she could talk to Z and help him to understand what DS is going through.

She said of course she would, and that Z doesn't see things for himself but if she explains them to him then he understands. I said I understood that - DS said something incredibly insensitive to a boy in the class who lost his mum when LNE was still alive, and I'd had to explain to him why that wasn't the right kind of thing to say. She said that Z has told her that DS doesn't like him any more. I said a lot of children had noticed DS withdrawing from social interaction in general. The whole conversation was very amicable, and I'm happy with how it went.

I talked to DS about it afterwards. I told him that Z's mum is going to talk to him and explain a bit about what it's like to lose a parent and help him to understand why he should be nicer to DS. I asked him how it went at school today (his first day back after a week and a bit off: 1 day for the strike, followed by 2 days to process the news that Granny was dead, a weekend and 4 days with a nasty cold). He said X & Y had made unpleasant comments but Z hadn't. I told him that Z felt that DS didn't like him any more, and if Z did as his mum suggested and started trying to be nicer to DS, then it was really important that he accepted that and didn't throw it back in Z's face, and that he should try to regard Monday as a tentative new start with Z. I'll say that again on Monday before school.

So here's hoping things improve at least a little. Am probably going to talk to the class teacher early next term and mention the safeguarding word.

michaels

Very diplomatically done Lydia - may be we should have sent you to the Euro summit rather than Dc?

sss555s

Kids need "shoved, moulded, manipulated" to do the right things on times. It's a constant battle!

Any NP interested in astrology?

I'm Virgo, what signs are the NP?

PasturesNew

More 'old' problems. The old won't be going home ever ... not capable.... and wondering if the old will even make the rest of this year.

And if that weren't enough, income today £6. It crashed and burned while I was looking after the departed old - and the remaining old's still taking up too much of my time to ever get my head straight enough to do anything about it.

Everything's poo really. Even the old's cleaner said to me today that I looked old/haggard/tired/dead beat - and those are changes she's noticed in just the past 3 weeks. If she'd seen me a year ago she'd now be asking me where my daughter was.....

Youth's gone, old's gone, income's gone.

Poooooooooo.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

More 'old' problems. The old won't be going home ever ... not capable.... and wondering if the old will even make the rest of this year.

And if that weren't enough, income today £6. It crashed and burned while I was looking after the departed old - and the remaining old's still taking up too much of my time to ever get my head straight enough to do anything about it.

Everything's poo really. Even the old's cleaner said to me today that I looked old/haggard/tired/dead beat - and those are changes she's noticed in just the past 3 weeks. If she'd seen me a year ago she'd now be asking me where my daughter was.....

Youth's gone, old's gone, income's gone.

Poooooooooo.

Oh Pastures. Talk about it never rains it pours (or hails this way today). Hopefully the fact that the old can't come home will give you a little bit of a breather. At least if she has to be looked after from now on that will allow you to get some sleep and rest, even if it doesn't help address the emotional turmoil.

I don't know if this will help, but I aged a lot when I had my melanoma troubles. My Mum had breast cancer at the same time and my business was going down the pan with the triple whammy of not being able to work, the credit crunch looming and the recession round the corner. My skin got in a terrible state and my hair... Well the less said about that the better. I look a lot better now. It's amazing what finally getting back to routine, getting sleep, less stress, etc do for you. The business picked up again (eventually) once I had more time to concentrate on it and a freshness of idea that being knackered doesn't allow. I know this isn't exactly round the corner, but things do get better, honest, even if you have to face a lot more troubles yet.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

Oh Pastures. Talk about it never rains it pours (or hails this way today). Hopefully the fact that the old can't come home will give you a little bit of a breather. At least if she has to be looked after from now on that will allow you to get some sleep and rest, even if it doesn't help address the emotional turmoil.

Well, the old doesn't know this yet; too ill/infirm, but if the old 'gets well' then they'll expect to be going home .... only it'll never happen. So still loads of stress/etc between me realising the gravity of the situation ... and the old discovering/accepting it.

Happy Xmas ....... I think not.

No presents this year - as a family we're skipping it all except a big scoff, not even sure if the old will be round the table, up the road, or in a box.

PasturesNew

When this is all over I think it's time for a new phone number .... and telling my siblings to not call me until they hear from me and that it might be months before they do. I simply want to hide away somewhere and not be bothered by anybody about anything.

I don't want the phone to ring, or answer emails, or speak to anybody ..... for months.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well, the old doesn't know this yet; too ill/infirm, but if the old 'gets well' then they'll expect to be going home .... only it'll never happen. So still loads of stress/etc between me realising the gravity of the situation ... and the old discovering/accepting it.

This is where your siblings can step up to the plate though. Under these circumstances your carer role - which has been a millstone as much as a testament to your being a caring daughter - is nearing the end. It doesn't need to be you doing everything anymore as it isn't going to be as mechanistic. They need to face up to their duties now as well as giving you time to adjust to your changing circumstances. If I recall what you have told us correctly, surviving old is not an aspie, nor are siblings. Therefore they can break the news to the old as they will not have the same communication problems or concerns that you have.