Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

zagubov

Pobby wrote: »

Well as I don`t go to bed early. get up about 6am , take a ton of meds, sleep for about a further 5 hours , then there a knock on the door. Rush to the bedroom window. A Red Ford, do not answer the door. Not sussed out that it is best to park out of my view. I sort of have strange semi sleep audio hallucinations. This morning I heard Knocking on my bedroom window. Oh no, they have a ladder. As it worked out it was Mike next door doing a bit of hammer practise. I do not want to be a witness. How many more times.

Sorry if any NPs belong to that particular church and i'm not implying anything -but, you should know that if you contact your local Kingdom Hall by letter or phoine, you can ask to not have your door knocked. They should and would honour that request; it's perfectly routine.

BTW Pobby, on behalf the music thread, welcome back!

zagubov

lostinrates wrote: »

Hi,

I've not been about for a few days so eed to catch up....is everyone ok?

I need to find a thread with more coffin-dodgers like myself. I was starting to worry about your absence and remembered what a granny I sounded about singlesue's ticket handover.:(

Being a parent isn't something I can switch off, more's the pity :mad:

SingleSue

Generali wrote: »

I had a pretty big melt down/breakdown when I arrived in Aus. My suspicion is that forcing myself to go back to work (canvassing for phone numbers in shopping centres!) and getting better went hand-in-hand.

Of course it might have been that getting better allowed me to work and so it was a one way street. However, that isn't how it felt at the time and it isn't how it feels now. Working allowed me to get a bit better and getting a bit better allowed me to work.

My advice (FWIW) is to take it easy at first in terms of how much mental energy a job takes. Stack shelves a couple of nights a week in the supermarket or collect the empty glasses in the pub. Something that just requires the ability to turn up on time and take instruction.

It may be that doesn't work for you and that you need to take a different road but it sure worked for me. I got a promotion 2 weeks ago at work and things are getting better and better chez Generali.

I had a major breakdown in 2005 and returned to work too early (had 19 weeks off) which set me right back to the beginning again. It took until late 2009 ish until I was off the meds but I am still not quite 'right' (and probably need to be on medication again)

My breakdown though was caused by complete mental and physical exhaustion, the stress I was under and the hours I was keeping basically meant my body went into revolt and then shut down. The doctor said I had pretty much taken on far too much for my body to cope with and it needed a rest from at least one part of my life and as caring for the boys and my hubby could not be changed, the work side of my life had to be the thing to go for a while. It was also at this time respite was tried to be arranged by social services to further decrease the stress on me but no begger would have the boys for even an hour a week due to middle son's violence and aggression.

JonnyBravo

PasturesNew wrote: »

grrr @ olds...... or, specifically, my old.

Old has to have meds daily. Three types, four meds times (one is twice/day). So, having gone through every version of getting it wrong that's possible, after just 2-3 months of effort we got them into the blister packs. The glorious, can't go wrong, blister packs. Then I saw them - they're rubbish/not what I expected (and confusing).

..snip..

So, there's no way forward with this one is there.... the ONLY way to get the right meds into the old at the right times would be to lock them away in a safe and have 4 carers going in JUST to open the safe and hand out the tablet. And that's just not practical.

I'm afraid its a very common problem with olds. Disappointing the carers don't manage though.

The problem is sometimes solved by something like this...

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Deluxe-7-Day-Pill-Organizer-Wallet/dp/B002Z2B0B4/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1322385861&sr=8-3

Not always though, and you can still get olds taking from the wrong day etc.
If you go in every day, another solution is to only leave the meds for the day out and hide/take away all the others.

Davesnave

I used a pill organiser, like the one Jonny posted, but a bit simpler and very clearly labelled. Dad also had a tick chart with it. They were pretty much nailed together! I 'inspected' very first thing every visit. Sounds awful, but the message has to be hammered home.

Because he wanted to stay in his own home, Dad co-operated pretty well with the chart & meds.

Frankly, any old who can't/won't do that, isn't safe/shouldn't be on their tod.

LydiaJ

JonnyBravo wrote: »

I'm afraid its a very common problem with olds. Disappointing the carers don't manage though.

The problem is sometimes solved by something like this...

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Deluxe-7-Day-Pill-Organizer-Wallet/dp/B002Z2B0B4/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1322385861&sr=8-3

Not always though, and you can still get olds taking from the wrong day etc.
If you go in every day, another solution is to only leave the meds for the day out and hide/take away all the others.

Davesnave wrote: »

I used a pill organiser, like the one Jonny posted, but a bit simpler and very clearly labelled. Dad also had a tick chart with it. They were pretty much nailed together! I 'inspected' very first thing every visit. Sounds awful, but the message has to be hammered home.

Because he wanted to stay in his own home, Dad co-operated pretty well with the chart & meds.

Frankly, any old who can't/won't do that, isn't safe/shouldn't be on their tod.

And whatever solution is found, it must not depend on Pastures going in every day.

vivatifosi

My m-i-l has one of those pill thingies too. She's perfectly capable of living at home but does have bad arthritis. She finds it helps her manage her pill taking because of the odd combinations and times. They are good, though one caveat, people with bad arthritis can have trouble opening all the fiddly little doors, so it is a matter of getting the right one for the right person.

lostinrates

Davesnave wrote: »

Frankly, any old who can't/won't do that, isn't safe/shouldn't be on their tod.

almost every post PN makes about old confirms this.


re daily packs, I used one and might have to now, DH used to call me and not get off the phone till they were taken. Other wise I'd forget on the way to take them

silvercar

But PN said:

And all this has happened [a] with the blister packs with the NHS paying carers to come in 2x a day to check/issue meds.

I think the carers supervisor should be told that the carers need to ensure the meds are taken when they visit.

Davesnave

LydiaJ wrote: »

And whatever solution is found, it must not depend on Pastures going in every day.

No, I agree. It wasn't until quite late in the time that I was the 'responsible adult' that almost daily visits were necessary, and by that stage I was searching for somewhere else for Dad to go as a matter of urgency.