Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

treliac

LydiaJ wrote: »

Am advising my dad to move my parents' money about a bit. They've got lots in a joint savings account. While they're both alive, it's covered by the FSCS up to £85k each = £170. As soon as she dies, all the money in any joint accounts will be his, and only covered up to £85k.

Dear Lydia, I am so sorry to read your news. I've been through this myself this year and l can't imagine it ever feeling any less raw. Thinking of you. xx

Davesnave

LydiaJ wrote: »

I found I have no brain for planning ahead, but can busk a reasonably decent lesson if stuck in front of a class.

Sounds familiar. I think I did that for about 33 years....;)

Horrible time for you just now, but these won't be the days you'll remember best.

treliac

chewmylegoff wrote: »

richmond park isn't really a park in the normal sense, it's just a big slab of open land which hasn't been built on, with a few copses on it. i think the purpose of it was to provide a hunting ground for henry VIII to kill a load of deer for fun. it has got several roads through it though, which i think is a bit of a shame.

look here's a picture taken by some idiot who thought no-one else had ever seen a deer in richmond park before!

Don't know whether anyone posted the obvious...... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GRSbr0EYYU

but I think it's hilarious!

treliac

vivatifosi wrote: »

Fake Merkel has continued tweeting away merrily today. My new favourites:

Buying Sterling and gold. No reason.

Pleasant lunch with the boys. Bit embarrassing when Monti had to call @Lagarde for permission before tipping the waiter.

My AAA rating > RT@BarackObama: This Thanksgiving, what are you most thankful for?

Has this been posted yet? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOzR3UAyXao&feature=related

Davesnave

treliac wrote: »

Don't know whether anyone posted the obvious...... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GRSbr0EYYU

but I think it's hilarious!

Yes, but as the White Stripes used to say, "It bears repeating now."

Nice to see you around again.

treliac

Thank you Dave

Davesnave

The thread's missing lostinrates, but I seem to remember she had a dicky laptop, so here's hoping its 'just' that.

I am not around here much, though I read most days. This physically demanding country life and all that.....:o

treliac

Davesnave wrote: »

The thread's missing lostinrates, but I seem to remember she had a dicky laptop, so here's hoping its 'just' that.

I am not around here much, though I read most days. This physically demanding country life and all that.....:o

I've got a good set of excuses too

LydiaJ

lemonjelly wrote: »

Hope you're bearing up ok matey.

Nice to hear that the good side of humanity still is there with your colleagues.

Thanks everyone. At the moment I am more OK than I would have imagined I would feel at this stage. This is partly because I'm feeling rather numb emotionally in general, and partly because it feels to me that the painful tragic awfulness has been the last 4-5 years of gradually losing the real her to the dementia, much more than the final goodbye to the remnant of who she used to be. She's given it her best shot, and now she's tired and wants to give up and stop struggling, and I want her suffering to be over. We both have the same faith, which helps.

My colleagues continue to be lovely. I survived the parents' evening fine. I teach two Y7 classes, so had more parents to see than I had appointment slots for them, so was busy all evening on autopilot a bit like I was in lessons on Thursday. Then I went for a quick drink with my friends who were all lovely, and was bought a drink, and talked to supportively, and hugged by several of them before I went to get my kids. Normally I would get a late babysitter for a parents' evening and stay out with the others for a curry as well as drinks, but I didn't think that would be fair on DS and DD this week. When I went to pick them up from the friend who had picked them up from after school club for me, I was fed supper and given more love and support there.

I have been contemplating how many fantastic supportive friends I have - at work, at church, at my kids' school, from earlier times in my life, on here - and feeling incredibly grateful.

treliac, it's lovely to hear from you again.

treliac

LydiaJ wrote: »

I have been contemplating how many fantastic supportive friends I have - at work, at church, at my kids' school, from earlier times in my life, on here - and feeling incredibly grateful.

treliac, it's lovely to hear from you again.

The fact that you have those fantastic friends says everything we already know about you LydiaJ.

I understand what you are saying about your mum having dementia. My dear nan had that too; her loss was an eventual release. I am so sad and so unable to accept losing my mum because she should not have died and she lost her life because of the inadequacies of the health service.

I fear we have come to expect that our health service will serve us well and that is no longer true.