Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

michaels

I always run a quote for Mr T Test on the price comparison sites as then when I have found the best price I will to via quidco or topcashback to get my hands on the commission that otherwise the price comparison site would get.

I guess I had better apologise now to who ever has telephone number 01234 567890 who has no doubt been getting hundreds of marketing calls asking for Mr Test

lemonjelly wrote: »

Holy cr4p!:eek:

Just dropping by (will try & catch up later). Just wanted to share with you the fact that I just did a car insurance search (owing to a :mad: quote from the rip off halifax!) online using "a well known comparison site".

Within 1 minute of getting the results up on the screen, I got a telephone call from one of the providers!:eek: Talk about pushy! That surely is too much!

I am now dreading being spammed to high heaven.:(

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

LJ, what's been worng with you? Weren't you under the weather fairly recently too?

Its a beautiful evening here, hope everyone else is getting some sun too.

Just a nasty cold/bug. Had a terrible throat, coughing & sneezing, bit of a fever.

I still sound rough, but have felt ok for a couple of days now. It must have got to my lungs, as last wednesday whilst out I kept having to stop owing to breathlessness. Very wierd.

Massive difference made by getting fresh air though. Helped the sore throat, cleared the bunged up-ness.

Weather was lovely over the weekend. I caught the sun a bit.:o

Hoping the weather is nice the remainder of the week - I'll be in york for 2-3 days.:cool:

LydiaJ

GDB2222 wrote: »

I think you are absolutely right Lydia. You need to put yourself and your children very, very high up the priority list. Otherwise, the needs of the elderly can become overwhelming. I was talking yesterday to a friend whose father is 104. Caring for him is a full-time job, and to be frank she looks exhausted and is angry about the position she finds herself in.

Thanks. The whole family agree about this - not just that I shouldn't try, but that it would be actually impossible. Mum is now at a stage where she certainly can't be left alone in the house, and shouldn't really be left alone in a different room for more than a very short time unless she's sleeping. There have been some incidents when she's forgotten that she can't get out of her chair without help, has tried to stand and fallen, even with my dad there as 24/7 carer. He doesn't leave the house except when the respite carer is there for a couple of hours twice a week. Also, she sleeps a lot and needs the house to be quiet for most of the afternoon. Now consider the needs of two kids aged 10 & 7, with masses of energy, needing fresh air & exercise, and lots of food, and who seem to be shouting "Muuuum!" because they want something many times a day.

If it was just the case that it would be exhausting for me, I might give it a try - it would only be for a short time until my dad was back on his feet. But I don't see how one able-bodied adult, however willing, could look after all three of them without badly letting somebody down.

I might be able to go and stay to help for the bit where my mum is still in the care home, and my dad is newly out of hospital and not quite up to looking after himself yet. That would be altogether more manageable, because it would be just physical limitations and not dementia as well, so there wouldn't be any of this "constantly keeping an eye" aspect.

Davesnave

lemonjelly wrote: »

I am now dreading being spammed to high heaven.:(

Don't worry, you will be.

DW made the mistake of using a comparison site for her van. Not only did the quotes come in over £100 more than she's used to with a broker, but it took weeks to get rid of the bu...blighters. :mad:

lemonjelly

Treliac, in harmony with others, sorry to hear your news, even though it is good to hear from you.

PN, like davesnave, all I can say is at a time like this, all you can do is your best. From your posts, you are over-acheiving considering you're on your own.

Hidden carers is something that has been an issue for me for years. Thing is, when you have a loved one, it is the stuff that you do. Without it being asked for or anything. To be honest, most of the hidden carers don't want "thanks" or the like. The occasional acknowledgement and support from the rest of society is all they ask. All they really want is their loved one to get better.

I was a carer for a while to a cancer sufferer. It was hard work. And yes, it was isolating, as you can spend vast amounts of time with little/no human contact other than whom you care for. And you don't necessarily get the chance to switch off. There is always something to do.

Planning goes out the window to a great extent. You have to be responsive to the day/treatment/illness. There are days where nothing seems to go right. There are days when it seems so much like a losing battle. There are days when you realise sometimes it is the little things that make the difference.

I'll never forget the person I cared for being outside, & looking at the fact that the leaves had come off the trees. It was their favourite time of year. The tears and sadness at missing the colour and the change as she sadly said "I've missed it.".

Other moments can be as difficult, even trying to do a good thing, like the time I took them in the car (with a flask & goodies hidden away) onto a hill over the city to be able to see all the fireworks. Again, the waterworks were overwhelming.

Be the best you can PN. And hold your head up with pride for the good and difficult stuff you are doing.

lostinrates

I'm dreading insuring this year. DH's accident has probably scuppered us and we'll be in a four figure insurance number. Stupid cars.

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

I'm dreading insuring this year. DH's accident has probably scuppered us and we'll be in a four figure insurance number. Stupid cars.

Mine went up by over £100 - for no actual reason that I can see.

Up yours halifax. I'm off!:mad:

Generali

Crivens. The nice people thread certainly isn't the jolly people thread today.

Treliac, you have my deepest sympathies. It's incredibly hard losing someone so close and the belief that someone (the NHS) should and could have done more to save them or simply relieve their suffering must be terrible. At least my Dad got excellent care, although not much was from the NHS.

Silvercar, I wish your parents all the best. Treatment for cancers has come on a very long way and age can, I believe, be a plus for a cancer patient as the tumours don't grow as fast in an older person.

Good luck to all. Thankfully I have no great tale of woe to share today. My bus was late and I got cramp in the swimming pool in my last lap meaning I did 967m rather than a km. That's as bad as it got today.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

That's as bad as it got today.

Bah. If you're still awake there is still time for something bad to happen. And after that there's always the possibility of night terrors.

lostinrates

May be we should sing something to cheer up?

When I was...um..younger...I wondered where Mowameadow was.:o Never occured to me it was an activity. Makes me giggle at my numptyness.

One man went to mow, went to mow a meadow, one man and his dig and a sausage roll and a bottle of pop, went to mow a meadow.....