Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

misskool

I'm a bit worried/stressed/fretty. Sister going in for an op and it's a bit uhm...well, she thought it was a single fibroid but apparently it's multiples and surgeon wants her to have a hysterectomy but she doesn't want to. but no idea what will happen until she goes under the knife.

wish i could be there but it's half a world away

GDB2222

I think there's an awful lot to be said for some sort of religious service, even if the departed was not religious. Or at least a Humanist service. Having someone conducting it who knows what they are doing takes a burden off the family. And a service means some sort of ritual, rather than all standing around trying to think of something to say.

tomterm8

One advantage of the standard CoE service is that almost everything is ordered and arranged. All you need to do is choose the music. Plus, they often let you use the church hall for the reception.

misskool

fc: we'll all go to your housewarming party, I'd love to visit a big pile on the Brighton coast!

lir & Lydia : sounds like a wonderful day

PN : agree with fc, get your siblings to come and help. Why do they expect you to do it all?

GDB2222

misskool wrote: »

I'm a bit worried/stressed/fretty. Sister going in for an op and it's a bit uhm...well, she thought it was a single fibroid but apparently it's multiples and surgeon wants her to have a hysterectomy but she doesn't want to. but no idea what will happen until she goes under the knife.

wish i could be there but it's half a world away

Fibroids can be big, but they at least are not life-threatening ( as I understand these things). An hysterectomy is pretty final. I wouldn't want that (or the male equivalent) if I could possibly avoid it. Heck, I'm nearly 60, but I had a client much older than me who married a woman of 30 and started a second family!

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

lir is the easiest person to take kids to visit. She's so welcoming to everyone, whatever their age, she provides ace food.

Does LIR mind if people just drop in? Does she do take-aways?


Oh, and what's the post code?

tomterm8

A hysterectomy seems like quite a extreme treatment (I know it is the traditional treatment, but even so). Has she asked for a second opinion?

fc123

LydiaJ wrote: »

If you're soft then so am I. It was fine without the wood burner until the children got themselves wet, but after that it was lovely - and dried their clothes so fast, too.



Aww. What a lovely thing to say. Thank you. :beer:

We all had a fabulous day too. lir is the easiest person to take kids to visit. She's so welcoming to everyone, whatever their age, she provides ace food - and doesn't take offence if the small people like some of it but not other bits, and she's terrific at explaining the answers to all the questions my urban kids asked about all the unfamiliar rural things. We saw the bees, hens, geese, dogs, cats and horses, rode the horses, climbed all over the enormous pile of bales of hay, and generally had a wonderful time.

I don't think they realised the car had been crashed, just that it was a bit old and broken and no longer in use. Everything they did and saw was all so new and exciting that they didn't get bored, and they generally behave well when they're not bored, so they were great. They argued in the car a lot less on the way home than they had on the way there, too.

The house is fun - full of character both structurally and in terms of its contents, and her plans for doing it up make sense to me now. But I'm even more full of admiration for lir and fir taking on such a big project - everywhere we went, both in the house and outside - she kept saying "and this is going to be the....". I could see that the plans really hang together, and it will be fantastic when they arrive at what they're trying to achieve. But there's a lot of work to do to get there. So I'll be following progress with even more interest than previously.



I will come to your housewarming if and when you have it.

DogDog is lovely, and so is Big Dog. She's huge, but so very gentle, and friendly in an unassuming sort of way. Anyone who's confident with smaller dogs couldn't help but stop feeling scared of her within the first couple of minutes. Oh, and prepare to be jealous - I have not only met Special Girl but ridden on her and fed her apples.

My own news for today is that my solar panels have now got a date. They are going to be fitted on Tuesday 6th Sept. I didn't pick the date - they allocated it to me and asked if it was OK - but it couldn't be better. My kids go back to school on Monday 5th, when I have meetings in school all day. That Tuesday I would normally be working but it will be an admin sort of day for tutors to have meetings in year groups and stuff, and boarders' travelling day, with lots going on in the houses, and I won't be needed since I don't have a tutor group. So it's ideal for the panels as I'll be at home but the kids will be out at school.

Lovely to read this about today......and desp to hear how the install goes. I really really 'want' them too but I don't think they will work for us being west facing and shrouded by trees.

misskool wrote: »

I'm a bit worried/stressed/fretty. Sister going in for an op and it's a bit uhm...well, she thought it was a single fibroid but apparently it's multiples and surgeon wants her to have a hysterectomy but she doesn't want to. but no idea what will happen until she goes under the knife.

wish i could be there but it's half a world away

Shame you can't be there but I am sure he'll do the best job once inside...so to speak...can't think of another way to put it.:o Sometimes, they prep for worst case but they really don't know until they can see what's what in Real life. Hope it goes ok for her though....

GDB2222 wrote: »

I think there's an awful lot to be said for some sort of religious service, even if the departed was not religious. Or at least a Humanist service. Having someone conducting it who knows what they are doing takes a burden off the family. And a service means some sort of ritual, rather than all standing around trying to think of something to say.

My dad has specified a Humanist service after he went to his cousins one some years back. It's kind of back to the earth from whence we came kind of thing and not traditional 'religious'.
The snag is with these things I think they are a bit difficult to organise with a few days notice.

fc123

I'll post the link here on NP thread but I have never been to one personally. http://www.humanism.org.uk/ceremonies/humanist-funerals-memorials

silvercar

GDB2222 wrote: »

Fibroids can be big, but they at least are not life-threatening ( as I understand these things). An hysterectomy is pretty final. I wouldn't want that (or the male equivalent) if I could possibly avoid it. Heck, I'm nearly 60, but I had a client much older than me who married a woman of 30 and started a second family!

I'm the exact opposite. A good few years ago I needed a minor gynae op and I tried to persuade the consultant to cut my tubes at the same time. He refused on the grounds that my youngest was only 5 so I could easily decide I wanted another. He was wrong.