who can we complain too?

arcon5

jamespir wrote: »

hold on your telling me a recepsionist called social services cause a child was misbehaving ....omg jobsworth or what


just write to the doctors and complain you dont need to sue youve not lost anything in the process thats gonna affect ypu or your kids life

Not because the child was misbehaving, because the way the mother..

yanked the kid by there arm

Although i'm hoping (assuming) it was infact more severe than it sounds to justify getting SS involved.

gregg1

arcon5 wrote: »

Not because the child was misbehaving, because the way the mother..



Although i'm hoping (assuming) it was infact more severe than it sounds to justify getting SS involved.

Must confess this is something I do actually agree with you on. My initial thoughts were if everyone who pulled their kid up by their arms at one point during their childhood was reported.....!! I have done it myself when my kids were young - not intentionally just trying to get them up when they have flung themselves on the floor in a paddy - I don't believe there are many parents who have not done this at some point - even unintentionally. It certainly does not automatically mean that the child is being abused.

I think it could be seen as a bit of a knee jerk reaction on the part of the receptionist (although I am sure there will be plenty quick to shoot me down in flames for those comments).

jamespir

arcon5 wrote: »

Not because the child was misbehaving, because the way the mother..



Although i'm hoping (assuming) it was infact more severe than it sounds to justify getting SS involved.

im expecting a call then :eek:

gregg1

VfM4meplse wrote: »

You are not going to get an apology and nor do you deserve one. The NHS and local authority have heightened child protection awareness following recent failures, the clear message post Victoria Climbie, Baby P etc is if in doubt, report it.

Why exactly was the child allowed to play up if the mother was in the vicinity? Perhaps some parenting instruction is in order.

You have to be joking! My children were brought up to know how to behave and taught good manners but even they had their moments when it was extremely difficult to control them. Thats what kids do from time to time unfortunately.

Flyboy152

arcon5 wrote: »

Not because the child was misbehaving, because the way the mother..



Although i'm hoping (assuming) it was infact more severe than it sounds to justify getting SS involved.

Not necessarily. This surgery receptionist sounds the type to overreact in many circumstances, a trait not absent in many people who do that job.

VfM4meplse

gregg1 wrote: »

You have to be joking! My children were brought up to know how to behave and taught good manners but even they had their moments when it was extremely difficult to control them.

I was brought up to know the difference between right and wrong in a relatively lenient household. However, any behaviour that might reflect badly on the family was out of the question, so was never considered. I heard a great quote on the radio whilst driving home yesterday evening - parenting is a dictatorship and not a democracy!

Flyboy152

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I was brought up to know the difference between right and wrong in a relatively lenient household. However, any behaviour that might reflect badly on the family was out of the question, so was never considered. I heard a great quote on the radio whilst driving home yesterday evening - parenting is a dictatorship and not a democracy!

So, when you were two years old, were you always so well behaved? Did you never shout in public, never have a tantrum, never refuse to comply to simple request?

gregg1

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I was brought up to know the difference between right and wrong in a relatively lenient household. However, any behaviour that might reflect badly on the family was out of the question, so was never considered. I heard a great quote on the radio whilst driving home yesterday evening - parenting is a dictatorship and not a democracy!

And in a perfect world that is what would happen but we don't live in a perfect world. We are not what anyone would call lenient parents, my kids know their P's & Q's, write thank you letters, know how to behave when out and things which seem ignored a lot these days such as not putting their feet on chairs (this really pees me off when I seeing parents allowing kids to do that when someone has to sit on the chair afterwards) and we have always been complimented on their behaviour.

However, we have still had the one or two occasions when they have been tired and it is impossible to reason with them and they kick off. I dont believe any parent who says they have never had a problem of this kind at some point.

skintmumof2

Im a bit confused about the exact circumstances here?

I have a 4 years old boy and a 2 year old girl that are 'mostly' well behaved but the doctors seems to be the one place where they go wild! I dont know why, they have a childrens playroom there so i dont know if it gets them over excited? But they throw toys about and shout and scream. Im always telling them to be quiet theres poorley people in their. On occasions my daughter climbs on the chairs so i pull her down and hold her firmly to tell her no. Too some people who turn and look at that point might think im being harsh, id hate to think i could be reported for it!!
Like the OP i wouldnt mind SS doing their jobs to come and check but i imagine they are pretty full on which could be daunting when you are innocent of abuse but your parenting skills are being questioned!
I dont know how they log it on your records but surely if your cleared of any harm it would be on somesort of file to see you was not guilty?
Its a tricky situation because i dont think you can complain to anyone about being 'checked' the once. If they kept following up and putting you through hell then i probally would talk to the surgery?
Do you know the other family? Did they have a visit? they could feel the same as you?

Flyboy152

gregg1 wrote: »

And in a perfect world that is what would happen but we don't live in a perfect world. We are not what anyone would call lenient parents, my kids know their P's & Q's, write thank you letters, know how to behave when out and things which seem ignored a lot these days such as not putting their feet on chairs (this really pees me off when I seeing parents allowing kids to do that when someone has to sit on the chair afterwards) and we have always been complimented on their behaviour.

However, we have still had the one or two occasions when they have been tired and it is impossible to reason with them and they kick off. I dont believe any parent who says they have never had a problem of this kind at some point.

I find it is generally those who do not have any experience in raising children, who usually criticise the most.