Sex with a new partner... turning on the pressure...

Jei70

I agree that it is completely personal.

For me, 3 months is unreasonable. If I am dating someone, I want to get close to them in all ways, including physical. If there was no sex on the cards after a few weeks to a month of seeing each other, I would try to seduce him Now, if the guy didn't like that, I would stop seeing him (I can't say "end the relationship", because IMO a relationship is by definition sexual). If there was a particular reason for waiting - for example, a treatment for an STI - well, I'm still not sure I would want to go there, LOL!

Plans_all_plans

If he's not willing to wait for you, then he's not worth your time.

Also, going by your other thread, this man is a nutjob and you're well off never sleeping with him. Can you imagine if you fell pregnant?!

The_Rizler

I love the waiting/anticipation bit. There's usually lots of kissing and getting to know someone before the more intimate parts. This is the time to savour and have fun. If you're having to ask the question then you're not the right combination. You know when it's right and it should be a mutual thing.
OP not having read your other thread, but going on the advice of others, if you doubt it don't do it.

ricardo62

QuantumSuccess wrote: »

When you meet a man and start dating is it considered unreasonable to wait 3 months or so before having sex with them?

er yes id think you was frigid lol!!!!!!!!!!

Kimberley82

I would be hugely offended if I was dating someone who didnt want to have sex with me in a few weeks and wouldnt see them again, but thats just me. You shouldnt ever have sex with someone you dont want to.

tattycath

I've just read your other thread and I think you know what you should do OP, you need to get rid of this guy and not even contemplate having a physical relationship with him.

VestanPance

I've not read the other thread, but as for this topic.

I'd say if you are young or inexperienced it wouldn't seem unreasonable, but if you are older more experienced I honestly think most guys would start to question things if there had been no sex in three months. I'd certainly question if the other person found me attractive, or if they had a very low sex drive etc.

Although in no case should one party be pressuring the other, but in saying that someone tends to have to make 'the move' so to speak and could feel spurned if constantly rejected. I guess that could come down to what you consider pressure.

Errata

If a bloke's putting pressure on a new GF to have sex with him, the correct amount of time to make him wait is somewhere in the region of three decades.

Jinx

IMO-I think 3 months is a long time if you are genuinely besotted with the person and find them attractive on all levels.... And you could be spending a lot of time together within days so if you are mad about a person and find him/her attractive then surely nature would takes it course unless there are moral/trust or religious considerations.

Fire_Fox

QuantumSuccess wrote: »

3 months is the rough amount of time I'd want to spend getting to know someone before sex. When I mentioned that to this guy he burst out laughing and asked me what century I think I'm living in.

:rotfl: I hope you told him you gave up rank amateurs for lent. :rotfl: