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Sex with a new partner... turning on the pressure...

When you meet a man and start dating is it considered unreasonable to wait 3 months or so before having sex with them?
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  • gonzo127
    gonzo127 Posts: 4,482 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    why not add this into your other thread?
    Drop a brand challenge
    on a £100 shop you might on average get 70 items save
    10p per product = £7 a week ~ £28 a month
    20p per product = £14 a week ~ £56 a month
    30p per product = £21 a week ~ £84 a month (or in other words one weeks shoping at the new price)
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    no, its not unreasonable - no timescale is unreasonable, and everyone has their own time when they feel the time is right.
  • Darlyd
    Darlyd Posts: 1,337 Forumite
    Took me 6 months before I has sex with my partner, we had a long distant relationship for a good few years. I made him have tests (I came with him) Before we even has sex due to past experience. Just be careful when that day comes.

    Don't feel pressured, I knew my now husband was a gentleman as he never once came on to me in that way. Still don't (No drive), but that is my own thread. lol
  • darlyd wrote: »
    Took me 6 months before I has sex with my partner, we had a long distant relationship for a good few years. I made him have tests (I came with him) Before we even has sex due to past experience. Just be careful when that day comes.

    Don't feel pressured, I knew my now husband was a gentleman as he never once came on to me in that way. Still don't (No drive), but that is my own thread. lol

    did you have tests as well?
  • jamespir
    jamespir Posts: 21,456 Forumite
    dont feel pressurised just do it when your ready
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  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
    Tenth Anniversary 10,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    There are no rules on this! You have sex with someone when you both want to not when you feel you should. Whether that takes a day or a year, its up to you. Never do it on someone else's timetable or an imaginary one.
  • poet123
    poet123 Posts: 24,099 Forumite
    Judging from your other thread, he might consider it unreasonable!
  • Darlyd
    Darlyd Posts: 1,337 Forumite
    did you have tests as well?

    I did not need them after I had the all clear from my cancer scare caused by an STD I got given from DD1 sperm donor. I never had sex for nearly 6 years, scared the crap out of me!

    DH history was his ex slept around, which meant he may of caught something from her!

    And I was NOT going to risk all of that again. Was an awful experience.
  • delain
    delain Posts: 7,700 Forumite
    QS I have just read your other thread, the man is a total creep, keep your distance!
    Mum of several with a twisted sense of humour and a laundry obsession :o:o
  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    Having read your other thread I cannot believe you are considering becoming sexually entangled with him.
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
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